Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

[lilybit2025]

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

OP said she doesn't like children, which is allowed. Probably does not want to "chat".

She's 5 FFS ,ppl like you are just fucking horrible

Exactly. Nobody seems to feel shame anymore. When I was a kid, people would have stopped their daughter doing that because they’d have been ashamed. It would have been considered bad manners, and they’d have worried what their neighbours thought of them.

Eh? Telling the girl to "go away" makes someone ",fucking horrible"? No wonder children grow up entoyled!

No we don't treat innocent , inquisitive 5 year olds with anger . We go and knock at mum and dad's and have a civilised friendly conversation. If anyone spoke to my child to show their anger without having first given me the opportunity rectify any issues they'd get a form boot up their arsehole.

Good for you. How many of you are there?

put some nails or those cat spikes in the top of the fence - she won’t be peering over it then .

FFS ,,hi Jim/Lynn little ivy keeps climbing to peep over the fence and it's upsetting Rex he's not the friendliest when it comes to little ones and I would t want him to nip or scratch her jumping up ,it also causes him to bark potentially annoying all out other neighbours so if you keep a eye on her I'd be really grateful . You could also add that you are practicing naturists if you really want to push the point .
Don't be a dick about it like some morons are advising as your neighbours will likely think fuck you and do it all the more

put some nails or those cat spikes in the top of the fence - she won’t be peering over it then .

Some of these comments are beyond the pale. I can’t believe the things that some posters are suggesting to do to this little girl - quite a few of you want to turn a hose on her which was bad enough until I saw this 😧

Have you ever considered she wants to see the little doggy? She is a kid, I know its unsettling but kids do weird stuff and its not really anything voyeuristic is it?

Have a chat with her parents, explain you are worried she will fall when she stands on the table and that it sets your dog off.

You’re doing your children a disservice if you don’t teach them manners. No one here will actually turn a hose on them but a lot will want to.

Do you not understand the setting off the dogs bit? The neighbours will be complaining next with the dogs barking...

And yes, she's 5. 5 is old enough to understand the parents saying 'please don't climb on the table and wind up the dogs and mainly because it's unsafe to climb on the table when we are not with you (or at all)".

I think 5 may be old enough to learn about getting sprayed with a hose though and not to do it again!!

It's ok, she won't shrink!

It's actually officially listed as some of the things that can be enforced for privacy if persistent and impacting others, parents shouldnt let children play and look over fences into gardens including things like bouncing on trampolines so they can see over. Normal playing noise and all of that is ok of course, but you can take action for privacy if it happens consistently.

I think the OP did talk to the neighbours though...

I'd creosote the fence, regularly... failing that start naked gardening / warn your neighbours your nudist cousins are coming to stay all summer / that you are hosting perineum sunning workshops in the garden etc!

Yuk.

You would break the law, and try and give a 5 year old cancer? Because they looked over the fence sometimes? You need help.

There is an assumption that if you have an issue with a neighbour that having a polite chat with them will clear the air and hopefully result in positive change. I tried this with my neighbours and got told to "fuck off, we don't speak to women, so fuck off" from two large and intidating men who like to spend the time getting drunk and yelling. Not everyone is reasonable, pro-social and willling or able to see that their behaviour negatively impacts on others

Same but those days are long gone. It’s for everyone else to suffer and tie themselves in knots to appease the behaviour. When I was a small child I wanted to call my Guinea pig George. I was told no because the bloke next door was called George and my mum didn’t think he’d want that called out over and over (in case he thought we were pestering him). Imagine that!!!

Classy

My son used to do exactly this. Standing on the wall looking over the fence. He would then come in to house and nag us to get a dog, non stop!! He never stopped talking about the next door dog. My neighbours did put up a higher fence, he just stood on something higher. They never asked us about stopping my child looking over the fence, otherwise I would have acted.
My next door neighbours dog had puppies - we purchased one - he never looked over the fence again!!!!

Creosote isn't the same anymore, they banned the old stuff donkeys years ago.

Sounds like it's a game to her now. Perhaps have a word with the parents, and ask if it's the dog she's interested in? Suggest you introduce her to the dog, if the dog is friendly AND she's not frightened. If it's not the dog, is she just curious about new neighbours? If so, just ignore her, and hope she'll soon get bored if she doesn't get a reaction from you.

As classy as being a arsehole.to a 5 year old ,you get the version you deserve