Neighbours kids keep looking over our fence

[lilybit2025]

As the title suggests. Young girl around 5-6 keeps looking over at our fence. Did it a handful of times yesterday until I turned around and said 'hello can I help you?' And she's doing it again today. It sets our dog off and drives her insane yet she still does it.
I find it incredibly intrusive and I don't know if our neighbours know she's doing it and she's only a child but we do not have children and aren't particularly fond of them either.

Shows the mentality of some ppl .

If this question had arisen some years ago, it would have gone like this -
Child peers over fence
House owner tells her to stop staring at her
Child cries and runs in to Mummy, saying the nasty neighbour has been 'howwid' to her
Mummy says 'well don't stare at her over the fence

Sorted!

Tough it's the real world and children exist ,some ppl do t like dogs and one .ay have to chat with her one day if her dog causes a issue ,it's called being a adult

Yes ,it's basic manners and decency to consider someone's feelings(especially a child who is probably completely unaware of the social cues ) and not go out their way to be hurtful or rude . It's really easy you don't have to be a arsehole even when something is mildly annoying.

5-6 is not by any means too young to be told boundaries and manners, and the fact she runs away if she sees the OP says she knows perfectly well she's doing something she shouldn't. I'll bet she's not allowed to nosy about at school and knows it, and I'll bet her class teacher would stop this in a single sentence.

Clear, firm, 'No, get down please. It's rude to stare over fences into other people's gardens, and I don't like it.'.

And yes, trellis.

You do love an arsehole don’t you.

You have literally made up these scenarios based on no evidence though!

You can see by the vote and majority of comments that most people would be unhappy with this intrusion and don’t want a nosy child peering in the garden trying to wind the dogs up.

OP doesn’t need to train her dog to stop someone looking over her fence when the solution is to get the child to stop.
There is nothing at all to suggest that OP doesn’t walk her dog and she shouldn’t have to take it inside to stop a child misbehaving.
Why should the dog be made to go inside for something that’s not his fault when he wouldn’t bark if there wasn’t a random face popping up over the fence which probably startles him?

You have come up with two imaginary scenarios to make OP into the unreasonable person which is just bizarre and you seem to have decided this is a sweet neglected little girl when she is being rude by deliberately ignoring OP when she asked her to stop looking over the fence, she clearly knows she’s in the wrong as she runs away to avoid being asked to stop.

We can only go off what is actually in the OP to comment or all posts on AIBU are just pointless.

AIBU to ask my husband to clean the kitchen after he makes a meal?

He is having an affair and cooking for the other woman when you are at work and is deliberately not cleaning up to annoy you so you’ll leave him.

AIBU to ask my friend to pay back some money she owes me?

She can’t pay you back as her husband is financially abusive and she doesn’t have access to her own money and borrowed it for food because he starves her.

So many people seem to think that life is the same for everyone based off their own experiences and if someone has a different point of view they must be wrong.
You might think that OP is rude and not the child (because children can do no wrong) but that doesn’t make it fact.
Just because you would choose to interact with the child it doesn’t mean that’s the right thing to do. If we are making up scenarios how do you know OP doesn’t eat young children or feed them to her dog and encouraging her to interact with her neighbours daughter could lead to her peril and ending up on the BBQ?!

She’s only a kid, probably wants to see the dog. I honestly wouldn’t mind and I’d say hello. We all seem to live in bubbles nowadays

No

If she does it again I'd shout the neighbour over the fence 'Susan/Bob, hello, can you please stop your child ' Each and every time. They'll get bored and will hopefully either stop her or move the table or whatever she is using.

Maybe time to get the hosepipe out? Im sure if she got wet she wouldn’t do it again.

watering your garden is all you’re doing, right?

But it’s making the dog bark which is annoying to the OP. Haven’t you read the thread??

@Minimili amen. “I have an opinion which doesn’t actually match the current scenario so I’ll make up some shit to justify my viewpoint”

it makes threads like these just insane. ‘The overall picture I have in my mind’ followed by a load of made up drivel. Honestly it’s ridiculous. Discuss the actual fucking situation, not your made up version!

also - so many ‘oh she just wants to see the doggie be nice to her’ posts. No she doesn’t she fucking barks AT IT to wind it up and then runs off when spotted. She KNOWS she shouldn’t be doing this.

We used to have an adult who watched us over the fence, now that did upset me but a young child, no she’s just being curious.

That’s fine the first two times after that it’s annoying and making the dog crazy . @lilybit2025 as she’s standing on something it’s probably worth getting some big plants in pots and standing them at that bit of the fence , preferably something very prickly .

Take a photo of her doing it and show it to her parents.

I love posts like this, from people puffing out their chests and acting like they’re dead “no nonsense”. I bet you love watching Piers Morgan and think Clarkson should have got a pay rise for punching that researcher.

There’s only one problem with your “If they said that to my child they’d get a firm boot up their arse and NO mistake” attitude. What if they’re not scared of you? What if they boot your right back in YOUR arse? You’ll feel a right twat if the council estate routine doesn’t work.

You can't really take proposed thuggish behaviour like that seriously, can you?

What the hell is the 'council estate routine' ?

But you can take proposed soaking the child, hurting the child, exposing the child to naked people seriously?

Going about claiming you’d boot people up the arse. Like you’ve just come out of Greggs and are so “fewmin” you can barely finish your sausage roll.

Water pistol or hose.

The irony coming from you.

Snob.