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Keeping a 3 bedroom council house when your children have grown up

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Iwishitwerewarmer · 03/04/2026 07:41

Just pondering - what are everyone’s opinions on a single parent raising their children in a council house/housing association house and staying there once their children have moved out? Should they downsize into a one bed flat/smaller property or is it their right to remain in their home/neighbourhood?

Added extra - they have looked after the property well, have landscaped the garden, installed a new kitchen and generally added value to the property.

OP posts:
Charlize43 · 03/04/2026 10:06

HortiGal · 03/04/2026 09:50

For those mentioning families stuck in temp accommodation, be more angry at England still allowing right to buy, 12,000 homes are lost every year with only 4/5000 being built, be angry at that not that someone can’t downsize.

Yes, a friend of mine mentioned this. She lives in a mixed street as she bought an ex Council House (1930s, spacious rooms, large garden) without knowing it - SE London, so she is a council leaseholder. She paid market rate for her property as the house had been sold twice before.

New family were housed by council 2 houses down. Very nice, very respectful. Iraqi Kurdish family - husband & wife with 3 kids. Man, who works as a taxi driver, within 6 months of living there approached the council about the Right to Buy - £160K. Bought it. Spend 3 years totally renovating and refurbishing the house himself and did a very good job. Now has it for sale at the market rate of £450. Extremely hard working and enterprising. Then friend said she was extremely disappointed when shown pictures of their house in Northern Iraq which was palatial by London standards.

Is it right?

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:07

Seaside3 · 03/04/2026 10:02

How do we provide social housing for everyone? In your example, what is to stop every single person wanting one?

There's limited social housing stock, so, my view point is the right housing should be available to those who need it. A family on a low income get the 3 bed until they wither a) earn more money or b) the kids move out. Then they either buy/pay private rent if they an afford it, or downsize if not. This does rely on the correct type of housing being available, but also people relenquishing their social houses when they no longer need the support.

Well we managed to build lots of social housing in the past, available for normal working people. We did this when the country was much poorer as well. And let's say everyone wants one. We'll they all pay rent, councils can profit (with a tweak in law) what's the problem?

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:07

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:05

So you are now agreeing? They are cheaper.

I’ve never disagreed. They’re still not subsidised.

hahabahbag · 03/04/2026 10:09

@custardlover. If a person in on universal credit, their rent is paid for by the state which is in effect a subsidy. This is different to a person who pays the full rent on their council/housing association home who are typically not subsidised (though land may have been bought with grants or other subsidies)

Kirbert2 · 03/04/2026 10:09

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:04

Rents for council homes/ housing association are far below the true market value for private rentals and always have been.

Not in all areas. Especially in cheaper areas and/or less desirable areas.

I moved into my council property over a year ago now and I paid the same rent as I did on the private rental I moved from.

TheStepboardisfullofbitteroddos · 03/04/2026 10:09

Council house entitlement should be reassessed every 7 years- lots of time for people to make other arrangements should they no longer be entitled to one or if there's people more in need than themselves.

No reason an adult with adult children's needs subsidising for the rest of their lives.

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:10

hahabahbag · 03/04/2026 10:09

@custardlover. If a person in on universal credit, their rent is paid for by the state which is in effect a subsidy. This is different to a person who pays the full rent on their council/housing association home who are typically not subsidised (though land may have been bought with grants or other subsidies)

Better that they twice as much rent is paid for by the state to a private landlord surely?

Pasta4Dinner · 03/04/2026 10:11

I live in an area which is almost exclusively 3 beds, very few flats or bungalows. The town next to me obviously did a lot of building in the 70s and there’s loads of small bungalows next to blocks of flats. They won’t do that now.

I know someone in a 3 bed and a massive garden. She was furious when her eldest left for uni as she would have to pay spare room tax, now the youngest is going to do the same. It’s all she talks about, how much money and how unfair.
She won’t move even if she did get offered something else. She doesn’t look after the garden or use it, it’s right next to a school, she spends almost all of her time at her parents who also have a large 3 bed with a massive garden.
She has a small study room downstairs that is rammed with millions and millions of toys she doesn’t even want to sort out. She would need someone to come pack and move her and massive incentives to do it.

Anyname25 · 03/04/2026 10:11

VanillaDaydream · 03/04/2026 09:09

My DM is in this situation. She knows her 3 bed home would be ideal for a family. She still works full time and is able to manage the rent on her single income without benefits. She has looked at downsizing to a one bedroom flat. There aren’t many and the rent is a lot more to the point it would not be financially viable for her. Her council do offer incentives to downsize such as paying for moving costs or a one off payment but it doesn’t help moving forwards with the ongoing payment of higher rents. She’s stuck between a rock and hard place at the moment and she doesn’t have a solution to her problem at the moment.

A lot of people don’t realise this.
I have an adult DC that lives with me permanently due to additional needs. We’re in a 4 bed. We wouldn’t be allowed to move to a 3 bed as we’d be deemed as under occupying, despite the fact we are in a 4 bed now.

All the 2 beds on swapper sites are either very expensive new builds, which I actually can’t afford. Or they are extremely grotty high rises in dodgy areas, for the same as what I pay now. No one in their right mind is going to give up a lovely 4 bed with a garden, in a nice area, for that!

The rent you pay is not wholly determined by house size. It’s very dependant on when you actually became a tenant, due to there being a limit on how much your rent can be raised each year. I became a tenant just under 40 years ago. So my rent is far lower than tenancies given out over the last few years. But if I swap I’m subject to the current rent on that property.

I work and pay my rent and subsidise my DC. I just cannot afford any more in rent, it’s becoming a struggle as it is now on my “lower” rent, to the point I’ve been doing overtime at work for the last few years. Currently I get no benefits. Maybe I would be entitled to a UC top up if my rent was higher, I don’t actually know. But it’s a road I’d be loathe to go down. I don’t want to be reliant on UC.

TheStepboardisfullofbitteroddos · 03/04/2026 10:11

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:07

Well we managed to build lots of social housing in the past, available for normal working people. We did this when the country was much poorer as well. And let's say everyone wants one. We'll they all pay rent, councils can profit (with a tweak in law) what's the problem?

Yes when there was far more land available in the right places. Can't just keep building everywhere when there's plenty of homes sat with 80% of their rooms unused

Era · 03/04/2026 10:11

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:03

If you bought the place decades ago, the house now belongs to you and you can sell for whatever you can get and none of the money goes back to the council.

Thats the same with any property though.

Right to buy now gives a maximum discount of £16k in london.

I still disagree with right to buy but it is far better than it used to be.

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:12

TheStepboardisfullofbitteroddos · 03/04/2026 10:09

Council house entitlement should be reassessed every 7 years- lots of time for people to make other arrangements should they no longer be entitled to one or if there's people more in need than themselves.

No reason an adult with adult children's needs subsidising for the rest of their lives.

Have you even thought this through for a single second? Take a promotion at work (or even just get a job) and you lose your secure home.

Charlize43 · 03/04/2026 10:12

Kirbert2 · 03/04/2026 10:00

A big issue is lack of smaller council properties.

I have a 3 bedroom council house and have no plans to move. I was told it is mine for as long as I want it.

Lack of smaller council properties?

The whole HMO debate at the moment where Councils are giving permission for family homes in residential streets to be converted into bedsits that can then by rented by the council for social housing. That's very much a London Suburbs conversation that is raging at the moment. Some are for it. Some are against it.

Winter2020 · 03/04/2026 10:14

Manifestsleep · 03/04/2026 08:14

Why are you saying room? Noone is suggesting that they live in a squalid bedsit.

It should be a moral duty when it is funded by the taxpayer (see posts above on why all social housing is funded by the taxpayer). Our social security network is there to support people in need. Noone has a need to have that extra space when they have no requirement for it. I get that they may have an emotional attachment but that is entirely different to need. Personally, I think it is this sense of entitlement which is why we are where we are.

Equally no one has a need to have 4 kids they can't house do they?

MrsAnon6 · 03/04/2026 10:15

I’m afraid I do think that a single person in a 3 bedroom property should downsize. There’s a lot of families crammed into 1 or 2 bedroom properties that would benefit from somewhere bigger and can’t get it. The purpose of social housing is to provide exactly what a person/family needs and not anything extra.

Seaside3 · 03/04/2026 10:15

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:07

Well we managed to build lots of social housing in the past, available for normal working people. We did this when the country was much poorer as well. And let's say everyone wants one. We'll they all pay rent, councils can profit (with a tweak in law) what's the problem?

That would be lovely. But it's never happening. What do we do with all thenprivatelynowned properties? Turn them over to the council and ask them to look after them?

The current situation is we don't have enough social housing available, so people are in the wrong type of house. Families in hotel rooms, single people trapped downstairs in their unadapted houses, 4 bed homes taken up by single people, council houses rented when people have hundreds of thousands in the bank. All those scenarios and more need to be addressed, whilst we.build a better range of social housing for.our ageing population.

Vaxtable · 03/04/2026 10:16

ProudAmberTurtle · 03/04/2026 07:46

In a perfect world they would keep it but this is a country with rapid population growth at the moment.

Whatever you think of the asylum issue, in the cold light of day the taxpayer shouldn't be paying for one person to live in a three bed house when there might be, say, a group of 5 people who need a home and a one bed flat is the only thing available.

For better or worse we live in a world with lots of mobility, and that means we need to build many more homes.

@ProudAmberTurtle

why are you automatically assuming the tax payer is paying? Believe it or not not all housing association or council house tenants are in benefits. Lots work and pay as well as maintain their homes. That includes my own family members one of whom lives in her own ina three bed property

It’s their home. As long as they can afford to they should be allowed to stay. It’s not their issue councils and housing associations haven’t been building

zantez · 03/04/2026 10:16

One way to discourage under occupation is to highly incentivise downsizing. I know it's not going to be a popular suggestion, but hey it will pay off in the long run and far cheaper for the taxpayer than having to build/supply larger homes for larger families.

So what would be appropriate? A one off payment up to say 10k, together with removal costs and basic refurbishment of the smaller property? Something like that.

Other suggestions welcome. I don't believe people should be moved from their home but I do support incentives to free up larger properties. Carrotts are good for you.

PlattyCat · 03/04/2026 10:17

Choosos · 03/04/2026 08:47

If you really wanted you could help her make a facebook account and join a honeswappers group there’s millions in them looking for a bigger home. Idk about one beds but definitely two beds are looking for bigger homes

She can't go on homeswapper. The rules of our local authority is you can only swap to a home suited for your needs. Meaning she can only swap to a one bedroom property, but the tenants in the one bedroom property must be eligible for her five bed house (8+ people) and there arent any! Trust me we've tried!

We found a two bedroom ground floor flat for her and were told no. As she wasn't entitled to two bedrooms and the family in the flat weren't entitled to her five

Bryonyberries · 03/04/2026 10:19

I’m coming up to this scenario. I’ve lived in my 3 bed house over twenty years and my two two youngest were born in the house. Two of the ‘children’ still live here 25y and 16y. The 25y is still here because of the cost of housing now and 16y is in education. I’d anticipate being able to downsize in the next 5-10 years.

However, the rent in some of the smaller houses is the same as mine - I’d only benefit from down sizing if I was getting housing benefit (ie bedroom tax). New build rents even on social housing are much higher and have service charges and I have a dog and still need a garden. Legally, I have no reason to ever move. My tenancy is assured. If I downsize it will be to a property I can afford in a location I like and with a garden.

All that said, I am reasonably civic minded and know families where I work are looking for larger houses to raise their toddlers so I know my property could help a young family so it is something I will be looking at but must be a property I like. I work full time but my main problem has been being a single earner for the last 15 years hence never having a deposit to buy or savings to maintain a property.

Anonymouseposter · 03/04/2026 10:19

catmothertes1 · 03/04/2026 09:42

A question about a council house on MN. What could possibly go wrong?

A combination of council housing and pensioners . Guaranteed to bring out prejudice.

ProudAmberTurtle · 03/04/2026 10:20

Vaxtable · 03/04/2026 10:16

@ProudAmberTurtle

why are you automatically assuming the tax payer is paying? Believe it or not not all housing association or council house tenants are in benefits. Lots work and pay as well as maintain their homes. That includes my own family members one of whom lives in her own ina three bed property

It’s their home. As long as they can afford to they should be allowed to stay. It’s not their issue councils and housing associations haven’t been building

Who do you think paid for the house to be built?

Kirbert2 · 03/04/2026 10:20

zantez · 03/04/2026 10:16

One way to discourage under occupation is to highly incentivise downsizing. I know it's not going to be a popular suggestion, but hey it will pay off in the long run and far cheaper for the taxpayer than having to build/supply larger homes for larger families.

So what would be appropriate? A one off payment up to say 10k, together with removal costs and basic refurbishment of the smaller property? Something like that.

Other suggestions welcome. I don't believe people should be moved from their home but I do support incentives to free up larger properties. Carrotts are good for you.

The issue with that is rental costs. Newer properties with newer tenancies are going to be more expensive than someone with an older tenancy who has been in their council house for 40 years and even though it is a smaller property, they may not be able to afford the rent.

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 10:22

Onmytod24 · 03/04/2026 10:00

Social rent is subsidised rent perhaps the whole tenancy situation should be shaken up not lifetime tenants but tenancies according to need.

No problem with tax payers subsidising private landlords with Housing benefit then?

Theunamedcat · 03/04/2026 10:23

I plan on downsizing i might only be able to get a two bed though because of my youngest special needs he is unlikely to ever be completely independent but yes you should downsize not immediately just in case but within a year or two

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