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Keeping a 3 bedroom council house when your children have grown up

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Iwishitwerewarmer · 03/04/2026 07:41

Just pondering - what are everyone’s opinions on a single parent raising their children in a council house/housing association house and staying there once their children have moved out? Should they downsize into a one bed flat/smaller property or is it their right to remain in their home/neighbourhood?

Added extra - they have looked after the property well, have landscaped the garden, installed a new kitchen and generally added value to the property.

OP posts:
JLou08 · 03/04/2026 09:58

I think they should be able to stay, especially if they're looking after the home and good tenants/neighbours.

Glitchymn1 · 03/04/2026 09:58

They should be able to stay- it is their home. Years ago many paid rent on them, both people worked and many also bought them when they could.
Ideally I suppose some might want to downsize or have a flat for security, or sheltered if they need it freeing up the house for people on benefits - because those are the only people that will get them, it’s all points based now.

I’d rather target non occupation, where people have a home elsewhere and use the uk home as a benefits base.

DefiantRabbit9 · 03/04/2026 10:00

They should downsize. There's a huge list of families who have no where to go other than a friends sofa and on the sofa they'll stay because single people are living in a multiple bedroom property because 'screw them, got mine'.

Kirbert2 · 03/04/2026 10:00

A big issue is lack of smaller council properties.

I have a 3 bedroom council house and have no plans to move. I was told it is mine for as long as I want it.

Onmytod24 · 03/04/2026 10:00

hazelberry · 03/04/2026 07:52

People on MN forget that people who live in SH are people just like them. People with families and lives. They are not cattle to be moved around.

Social rent is subsidised rent perhaps the whole tenancy situation should be shaken up not lifetime tenants but tenancies according to need.

Era · 03/04/2026 10:00

HortiGal · 03/04/2026 09:57

@EraHere in Scotland lots sell back to the council even after 10 years but look at London areas, SH bought for £20k selling for £1m, none of that will ever be offered back.

You wouldn't be able to buy at 20k and sell for £1m though. You get a fixed reduction depending on how long you've been in the property. The maximum reduction is £38k and that is for the south east. In London the maximum reduction is £16,000

The rules haven't always been like that though.

Dollymylove · 03/04/2026 10:01

Councils should certainly be making concerted efforts to help people in larger social properties downsize to something smaller. It benefits the tenants wuth cheaper council tax, energy bills etc, and frees up a larger house for families

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:01

HortiGal · 03/04/2026 09:54

@Charlize43 Social housing is not free and aren’t all occupied by benefit claimants, it’s amazing that ppl have this attitude or just ignorance.
Buying or private renting is beyond many, teachers, nurses, police live in social housing, maybe educate yourself before making ill informed comments.

I think the truth is these days it's rare that working teachers, nurses and police officers live in council housing. Social housing is now pretty much last resort for the desperate, often with lots of problems. It doesn't have to be like this though, it's a political choice. We could build more CH and priorities working people.

Seaside3 · 03/04/2026 10:02

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 09:53

I disagree with the fundamental point of this, that council housing should only be for those with no other options. We should have enough council housing for everyone who wants one, regardless of income. Landlord of first resort not last. I also think people in right size housing works best for everyone.

How do we provide social housing for everyone? In your example, what is to stop every single person wanting one?

There's limited social housing stock, so, my view point is the right housing should be available to those who need it. A family on a low income get the 3 bed until they wither a) earn more money or b) the kids move out. Then they either buy/pay private rent if they an afford it, or downsize if not. This does rely on the correct type of housing being available, but also people relenquishing their social houses when they no longer need the support.

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:02

Onmytod24 · 03/04/2026 10:00

Social rent is subsidised rent perhaps the whole tenancy situation should be shaken up not lifetime tenants but tenancies according to need.

It’s not subsidised. Private rents are the ones that are subsidised. There are literally private landlords having their mortgages paid by the taxpayer.

aCatCalledFawkes · 03/04/2026 10:02

BackToLurk · 03/04/2026 09:57

This is easily forgotten. Families are often in flux. Relationships breakdown. People lose jobs. Children or elderly parents get ill and need care. There are reasons why people may move back into or into a family home. There is a long term benefit to society as a whole in encouraging people to create long-term stable homes.

Agreed. I have a nearly 19yr old in my mortgaged house. Where exactly would she go if she left? Even renting a room is through the roof here let alone finding the funds and credit for it for a flat. Its beneficial for us all she stays with me. I can't imagine that would be any different for a family in SH.

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:03

Glitchymn1 · 03/04/2026 09:58

They should be able to stay- it is their home. Years ago many paid rent on them, both people worked and many also bought them when they could.
Ideally I suppose some might want to downsize or have a flat for security, or sheltered if they need it freeing up the house for people on benefits - because those are the only people that will get them, it’s all points based now.

I’d rather target non occupation, where people have a home elsewhere and use the uk home as a benefits base.

I thought councils had a plan in place for this already?
They are supposed to rehouse anyone living in a house which is too big for their needs. This was introduced years ago.

It is NOT their home. They pay rent at a very low cost, subsidised, and which never reflects the true market rent for houses of the same size.

It belongs to the local authority and is paid for by tax payers, many of whom are also buying their own homes.

thunderful · 03/04/2026 10:03

It’s an ethical dilemma.

There needs to be more decent places to downsize to but I do think it’s selfish to stay!

Kendodd · 03/04/2026 10:03

Era · 03/04/2026 10:00

You wouldn't be able to buy at 20k and sell for £1m though. You get a fixed reduction depending on how long you've been in the property. The maximum reduction is £38k and that is for the south east. In London the maximum reduction is £16,000

The rules haven't always been like that though.

If you bought the place decades ago, the house now belongs to you and you can sell for whatever you can get and none of the money goes back to the council.

DurinsBane · 03/04/2026 10:03

Itchthescratch · 03/04/2026 08:00

Because council housing is subsidised, often significantly. This comes up on MN all the time. It's quite complicated but basically the state covers the cost of capital (i.e. interest payments) and often funds or discounts a significant proportion of the build cost. Imagine an owner occupier or BTL landlord having access to interest free mortgages. What a huge difference that would make! Then imagine that the land the housing was built on was potentially given for free or at a huge discount or even that you had access to houses on a development that had their building costs subsidised by everyone else that bought on the estate. This is why social housing is often so cheap and why we can't just knock up loads more of it if it's apparently self sustaining.

The reality is that social housing will always be a limited resource because the government subsidises it and can't afford to build lots of three bed houses just because people quite like to stay in their family home when their kids have gone.

I believe it is subsided as in cheaper rent, but is it actually costing the tax payer anything for older houses (I get it costs the tax payer when a new one is built)? For example I pay £550 a month rent. The house has been owned by the council for many decades, there wouldn’t be a mortgage on it. Does that house really cost the council more than £550? Yes they have staff costs for the housing team, and maintenance costs etc, but I don’t reckon it would cost them more than 550 a month just for my one house

HortiGal · 03/04/2026 10:03

@Glitchymn1 Wonder how many MNers own second homes that sit empty 90% of the year of Air BnB, but rage at SH.
The ignorance and sheer stupidity being posted here is astounding.

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:04

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:02

It’s not subsidised. Private rents are the ones that are subsidised. There are literally private landlords having their mortgages paid by the taxpayer.

Rents for council homes/ housing association are far below the true market value for private rentals and always have been.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 03/04/2026 10:04

From all I’ve ever heard the sale of council houses/flats has not been properly legislated for, or overseen. Weren’t tenants allowed to buy after being resident for only 2 years? And so there were (maybe still are) a good many carefully planned fiddles going on.

Not to mention the case I saw on TV where a young landlord was showing a prospective tenant a flat, telling him that he lived in another just across the landing. One was legally owned by him, the other was a property he was renting from the council! And the ‘landlord’ was a police officer!

You’d think there would be a system in place to check for such frauds/abuses.

Just to add, shortly after Right to Buy was enacted, a friend of mine bought the house where she’d lived for over 40 years, after inheriting the tenancy after her 2nd parent died. And good luck to her, as far as I’m concerned, in such cases.

custardlover · 03/04/2026 10:04

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 09:17

That isn’t how it works. Social housing accounts are ringfenced and don’t receive any subsidy from council tax. The difference in rent is because social housing rents cover the real cost of providing and maintaining the property with no profit element.

Quoting to re-post this as so many posting rage bait on here simply don’t understand how social housing works - not subsidised by taxpayers AT ALL.

Pepperlee · 03/04/2026 10:05

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:02

It’s not subsidised. Private rents are the ones that are subsidised. There are literally private landlords having their mortgages paid by the taxpayer.

Good point.

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:05

HortiGal · 03/04/2026 10:03

@Glitchymn1 Wonder how many MNers own second homes that sit empty 90% of the year of Air BnB, but rage at SH.
The ignorance and sheer stupidity being posted here is astounding.

Probably not as many as you try to make out.
They will be paying 2 x council tax on them and where does that go? err....to subside the accommodation provided by the council!

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:05

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:04

Rents for council homes/ housing association are far below the true market value for private rentals and always have been.

Yes they are. Because they cover the actual cost of providing and maintaining the property.

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:05

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:05

Yes they are. Because they cover the actual cost of providing and maintaining the property.

So you are now agreeing? They are cheaper.

hahabahbag · 03/04/2026 10:05

depen on whether they pay full rent or not. If they are working and paying the full rent on the property then absolutely fine, however if housing benefit/universal credit is subsidising their rent then they should downsize to something they can afford or the minimum sized they need for their circumstances if not able to work. Everyone deserves a decent place to live but if you aren’t able to pay for it yourself you should not be in a property larger than you require, after all there are families who are overcrowded who need that larger property

BIossomtoes · 03/04/2026 10:06

MorePlantsYES · 03/04/2026 10:05

Probably not as many as you try to make out.
They will be paying 2 x council tax on them and where does that go? err....to subside the accommodation provided by the council!

No it doesn’t. Legally the housing account is ringfenced and entirely separate from the general account. There is no crossover.

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