DD aged 10 needs root canal

[DDtooth]

I’m really upset right now and wondering if anyone can advise? My dentist can’t see us till Thursday next week. DD had pain in her upper back tooth and when I looked at tooth I can see a big hole. Called usual dentist and the receptionist who’s very rude and unhelpful said no appointment till next week Thursday. I contacted NHS 111 who gave us an emergency appointment. They couldn’t do much and have put a temporary filling in tooth which should last till I see usual dentist. She told me DD may have to have root canal.

i feel so guilty because I haven’t been strong enough. My MIL gives DD sweets, fizzy drinks and unhealthy stuff every time we see them (2x a week) for first 5 years of her life she would see DD everyday and ply her with unhealthy stuff, even giving her spoonfuls of sugar! Every time I told MIL not to she would scream in my face and start crying (Mil not dd!) and telling her she did this with her kids and they turned out fine. And questioning why I’m like this

DH never once stood up to MIL. We are of a culture where I’m supposed to “respect” MIL and basically just put up with her shit. I’ve limited DD only seeing her once or twice a week max now. MIL has diabetes so you would imagine she would understand how bad sugar is. DH just tells me to stop it and she doesn’t give her anything which is a complete lie and is evident from DD’s teeth. I limit sweets and chocolates in the house and she never has fizzy drinks in our home.

sorry for rant but I have no one I can be this honest with. Is this as bad as I’m thinking? I’ve told DD if grandma offers her unhealthy stuff just to refuse from now on but I know it will be hard for her. I just don’t understand what benefits MIL thinks giving DD all this sugar is.

Because she is 13 fgs. Completely different scenario to a 10 year old with a long term compromised 6.
Your high-tech GDP practice is irrelevant and something of a humble-brag.

You’re 10 are you ? 10 and facing molar endo? I don’t think so and therefore your experience is non-comparable.

Twice a day is plenty, anymore and you risk rubbing your tooth enamel off. The occasional three times is fine but not every day.

A girl I used to go to school with used to brush three times a day, ended up with terrible dental issues from over brushing.

Why are you telling everyone their experience is irrelevant? OP has asked for others experience to be able to make an informed decision.

I’m so glad you have said what you said about extractions in a paediatric service and sedation/ GA with local. Local alone in my 11 year old was awful.

Oops, someone else replied to my initial post about 'op are you sure that the molar(s) aren't hypoplastic?' and I thought it was the op 😆 my bad!

You are just blaming your mil but you need to take some responsibility she obviously is not brushing properly after eating the sweets get her an electric toothbrush and the purple dye stuff that shows plaque and mouthwash so this doesn't happen again and check her teeth after she has brushed them

Paediatric and Adult dentistry are different disciplines. What may be indicated in adult treatment is not necessarily appropriate in paediatric dentistry. Growth and development play a huge part in Paediatric dental planning whereas they play no part at all in Adult treatment planning. Therefore an adult commenting on their lived experience of a RCT is total irrelevant to OP’s 10 year old daughter. Posters who described their children’s experiences specifically aged 10 (maybe 11 at an absolute push ) and younger, are relevant. Adult /teen posters’ experience of molar endo are of zero use to OP.