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Work won’t let me cancel leave

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centregems · 01/04/2026 20:46

I work on a small team and only a few can be off at any one time. As soon as the holiday booking period opened in January I booked next week off as for 4 days leave you get 10 days off. Others also booked up too to the max allowed off. I don’t want that leave now as my plans have changed. My colleague is grumbling as they are saying they would have booked a holiday if they could have had the leave but I got in first. He complained to our manager who says I can’t cancel as such short notice. Is this allowed?

OP posts:
Femalemachinest · 01/04/2026 23:21

Yep its allowed. They can actually dictate when you take holidays, cancel your holidays as long as they give notice.

JoyousPinkPeer · 01/04/2026 23:42

Yes. Employers can actually stipulate when you take leave. You need to get your act together, booking prime time then thinking you can just canc3l.

TeamGeriatric · 02/04/2026 00:00

NoWordForFluffy · 01/04/2026 22:17

Some people ask to take annual leave instead of sick leave, so they get paid a full day's money instead of SSP. It's not the employer mandating it.

This is common that people don't get their normal salary when they are on sick leave? I have never worked anywhere that we don't get paid as normal if off sick. That said I've also never worked anywhere that I can't cancel my annual leave at short notice either, but equally the team I work in is scattered across multiple countries so we are not all wanting the same school holidays weeks anyway.

EavanBoland · 02/04/2026 00:09

shuggles · 01/04/2026 21:53

@ISpyNoPlumPie Most people wouldn’t use annual leave for emergencies or sickness.

Actually, most people do.

What's the alternative? You just don't show up or what? Sounds like a quick way to get fired.

Sick leave or compassionate leave (whether paid or unpaid) - these are quite the norm in most jobs.

Pistachiocake · 02/04/2026 00:12

IT does seem unreasonable that if you don't want the leave, and Jim does, that you can't swap it.
Obviously assuming you and Jim are more or less interchangeable-if you can do things/work hours he can't, then the manager might already have planned stuff. I do get that companies have policies as they don't like to be messed arounf regarding leave, but in this case, it seems harsh to me (mind you, I've had jobs where staff could just swap shifts/leave without the managers being involved).

EavanBoland · 02/04/2026 00:12

WhatWouldDianeLockhartDo · 01/04/2026 21:37

Don’t understand why OP and colleague can’t swap or even swap with someone who was next on the list but couldn’t get the time. That person wants the time off and OP doesn’t. Seems ridiculous to not just allow it. This rigidity is alien to me also. It’s not like the colleague won’t be able to enjoy the time off. Boss is just spiting two people and for what? I could only understand it if it left a team short or cover was needed.

The point as I understand it is that the colleague didn’t book next week off as they were unable to, due to OP having gotten in there first. Colleague may well be allowed to take leave now but we all know trying to get a good deal the week before Easter is difficult, if not impossible. So OP was quite selfish in booking prime holiday time so far in advance, thus depriving colleagues of the chance to book a reasonable holiday in advance. Even if colleague didn’t want to go on holiday but just make plans to see family etc, it may be too late. People will likely have their Easter plans sorted now, which OP should have known.

EavanBoland · 02/04/2026 00:15

NoWordForFluffy · 01/04/2026 22:17

Some people ask to take annual leave instead of sick leave, so they get paid a full day's money instead of SSP. It's not the employer mandating it.

This is also against the law. If you are sick and unfit for work, you must take sick leave, regardless of whether that is fully paid or statutory.

McSpoot · 02/04/2026 00:17

Pistachiocake · 02/04/2026 00:12

IT does seem unreasonable that if you don't want the leave, and Jim does, that you can't swap it.
Obviously assuming you and Jim are more or less interchangeable-if you can do things/work hours he can't, then the manager might already have planned stuff. I do get that companies have policies as they don't like to be messed arounf regarding leave, but in this case, it seems harsh to me (mind you, I've had jobs where staff could just swap shifts/leave without the managers being involved).

But the other colleague doesn’t want to swap now. It’s too late for them to make plans. Might have been different if the OP had tried to cancel earlier - when a swap was possible.

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 02/04/2026 00:29

Another ‘single post from the OP’ thread.

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 04:47

TeamGeriatric · 02/04/2026 00:00

This is common that people don't get their normal salary when they are on sick leave? I have never worked anywhere that we don't get paid as normal if off sick. That said I've also never worked anywhere that I can't cancel my annual leave at short notice either, but equally the team I work in is scattered across multiple countries so we are not all wanting the same school holidays weeks anyway.

Yeah. I've never worked anywhere where there's either no occupational sick pay ever, or if there is OSP, it's only after a qualifying period (a year where I am currently). I think that's relatively typical private sector.

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 04:58

EavanBoland · 02/04/2026 00:15

This is also against the law. If you are sick and unfit for work, you must take sick leave, regardless of whether that is fully paid or statutory.

Edited

Not true: https://www.gov.uk/taking-sick-leave

This specifically says that employees can ask to take holiday where, for instance, they don't qualify for paid sick leave (a fair way down the page):

An employee can ask to take their paid holiday for the time they’re off work sick. They might do this if they do not qualify for sick pay, for example. Any rules relating to sick leave will still apply.

Employers cannot force employees to take annual leave when they’re eligible for sick leave.

You just can't be forced to take it. It wouldn't make sense if you couldn't ask, but also didn't qualify for anything other than SSP (which had a 3 day waiting period until this month). The ethics of forcing somebody to take unpaid / very low paid sick leave are fairly dubious!

Taking sick leave

Fit notes (formerly sick notes), holiday during sick leave, returning to work, long-term sick, dismissals

https://www.gov.uk/taking-sick-leave

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:24

I think you were really selfish

and yes - employers can make you take AL

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:26

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 04:58

Not true: https://www.gov.uk/taking-sick-leave

This specifically says that employees can ask to take holiday where, for instance, they don't qualify for paid sick leave (a fair way down the page):

An employee can ask to take their paid holiday for the time they’re off work sick. They might do this if they do not qualify for sick pay, for example. Any rules relating to sick leave will still apply.

Employers cannot force employees to take annual leave when they’re eligible for sick leave.

You just can't be forced to take it. It wouldn't make sense if you couldn't ask, but also didn't qualify for anything other than SSP (which had a 3 day waiting period until this month). The ethics of forcing somebody to take unpaid / very low paid sick leave are fairly dubious!

This is about using AL when they’re sick nothing to do with this situation as OP isn’t sick she just bagsy’d the prime leave so others couldn’t have it and has not changed her mind

TinyMouseTheatre · 02/04/2026 06:26

We can change a week’s leave with a week’s notice but not all teams are like that. What’s the usual policy?

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 06:27

Blushingm · 02/04/2026 06:26

This is about using AL when they’re sick nothing to do with this situation as OP isn’t sick she just bagsy’d the prime leave so others couldn’t have it and has not changed her mind

It's a side conversation. RTFT!

Straightomyhead · 02/04/2026 06:48

Where I work now is really flexible and as long as business is covered most of the team can be off, we just need to work it around our own projects.

However I can totally see that it would be unfair to book a prime week where only a certain number of people can be off and then cancel it at the last minute. Others will have made arrangements, family booked annual leave to match you, childcare booked and potentially paid for whic often isn’t changeable at the last minute.

Take the leave as you have too and be aware that if you are going to cancel it then next time you need to do it much much further in advance.

Dancingsquirrels · 02/04/2026 07:02

Ablondiebutagoody · 01/04/2026 21:27

You can't bag the best leave so that nobody else can have it just in case you feel like taking it when the time comes......and then back out. That's really shitty.

Agree with this

Whaleandsnail6 · 02/04/2026 08:28

I can see why your manager has refused the cancellation, as other have pointed out above.

Its a bit selfish to book the "best weeks" annual leave just in case, leaving the not-so-prime-weeks for people who didn't get in quick enough, and then 2 days before deciding that because you didn't make any exciting enough plans, you don't want the leave any more.

Its probably too late for colleagues to plan anything for this time, and you cancelling would make more work for management, in them having to sort out the leave for when you wanted to take the days later in the year. They have already planned for you being off next week.

Just enjoy the time off work and make the best of it

rwalker · 02/04/2026 08:39

Yes this is on you next week is too short notice for a number of reasons
but also if you did this and I worked with you rightly so I’d be well pissed off with you

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 09:46

Surely the colleague could've booked this week off if OP had booked next week? Sounds like they were just slow off the mark if they didn't manage to book one of the two short weeks off, tbh.

Both weeks give you 10 days off for 4 days (assuming Mon-Fri working pattern with BHs off) so she hadn't blocked them from benefiting from this.

Ashkrevon · 02/04/2026 11:04

Paveparadiseputupaparkinglot · 01/04/2026 21:17

Pretty sure you can legally cancel any leave you want.. contact HR. However it’s a shame someone else wanted it and you haven’t given them enough notice!

Nope

And your employer can cancel your leave with twice the notice as the length - and they can tell you when to take it in the first place (UK)

grumpygrape · 02/04/2026 11:49

NoWordForFluffy · 02/04/2026 09:46

Surely the colleague could've booked this week off if OP had booked next week? Sounds like they were just slow off the mark if they didn't manage to book one of the two short weeks off, tbh.

Both weeks give you 10 days off for 4 days (assuming Mon-Fri working pattern with BHs off) so she hadn't blocked them from benefiting from this.

But it was the OP who wanted the 10 for the price of 4 offer that Easter gives. The colleague might just have wanted next week, not this week.

caringcarer · 02/04/2026 12:09

Whenisitmyturntorest · 01/04/2026 20:55

I think that is fair enough, given you blocked prime leave time and it is too late now for colleagues to make plans in that time.

This. If you were allowed to swap at this late notice you would want more leave later and that might deprive another colleague. You grabbed it now it's yours. Maybe you will let a colleague have Easter off next year.

Fends · 02/04/2026 12:14

I don’t know about the policy and I imagine if someone actually agreed to swap now then they’d allow it.

However, I can’t abide piss takers who grab the best slots “just in case” then think it’s ok to just cancel. We missed the opportunity for an amazing trip a couple of years ago thanks to DH’s colleague who had booked just 2 of the days for a stag weekend. Then decided he couldn’t be arsed and admitted he’d never really wanted to go anyway. Hate people like that, so yes, not surprised your colleague is “grumbling”.

Starlight1979 · 02/04/2026 12:29

This is what happens when we live in a world of social media lemmings who can't think for themselves.

Every year we get these "book these days off for maximum leave!" posts and people go "Wow! I get 10 WHOLE DAYS OFF if I just book 4" and do it to block others having them off.

If they actually stopped and engaged their brain then they'd realise that you already get 9 days off if you book 5 (presuming you work Mon - Fri anyway) so it's nowhere near as amazing as they think it is.