Hi everyone, I’m looking for some balanced opinions on my 3-year-old daughter’s development. I’m not looking for a diagnosis, just trying to understand whether what I’m seeing is within typical range or something that might need further assessment.
She speaks in full sentences and can have back-and-forth conversations with people She talks to strangers appropriately and engages socially, and she can share toys when prompted , always with wits her turn to the point of letting all the kids go first on the slide because they are quicker than her and she get frustrated as a consequence.
In play, she is very imaginative. She plays with animal figurines and creates little storylines and questions around them. She can play independently for quite long periods at home.
Behaviour-wise, she always listens to instructions ( always follow through non stimulating tasks etc ) and always says sorry and please and thank you unprompted. she sometimes gets up during meals and may say “no” quite strongly when she does not want to do something but that can be normal . She can become very silly or excited, especially when there are visitors or new people in the house, but she is generally calmer and more settled when it is just me and her at home. In more stimulating environments, she can appear not to listen as well, although she does not tend to have meltdowns or tantrums at home. Outside she does cooperate and if she cries it js out of fear or panic
She also has some sensory preferences. She dislikes loud noises and can get overwhelmed by them. She sometimes does not like wearing shoes because she is scared they might flash . and she does not like wet food or dirty hands. ( she eats everything food wise ).
In group settings, she struggles more in nursery and does not always listen there, although she does fine in playgroups and can engage socially once settled . Her behaviour seems to vary quite a lot depending on the environment.
She adapts well when plans change, for example she is not usually upset if something we planned like a playgroup does not happen. She understands rules at home and can show empathy, for example noticing if someone is sad.
Overall I’m just trying to understand whether this kind of profile is still within the normal range for a 3-year- She sometimes does not like wearing shoes, and she does not like wet food or dirty hands. When she is excited, she sometimes makes repetitive movements with her wrists or ankles.
In group settings, she struggles more in nursery and does not always listen there, although she does fine in playgroups and can engage socially with her peers Her behaviour seems to vary quite a lot depending on the environment.
She adapts well when plans change, for example she is not usually upset if something we planned like a playgroup does not happen. She understands rules at home and she behaves perfectly ( she sleeps well and never leaves her bed if she wakes up early ) . For example she was home with just me for a week and not even once she complained when we had to do things . Her dad came home an all hell broke loose . She shouts and doesn’t want to go out with him and this behaviour was happening prior to him leaving .
Overall I’m just trying to understand whether this kind of profile is still within the normal range for a 3-year-old . I can tell there is something at play here She is not at all like her peers but it could be temperament related . I have tried all the medical routes and gone privately as well with a developmental paediatrician in London and nothing came of it .
my husband is getting very disheartened about the whole situation and I don’t know what to do to change things