Nursery issues... album to move him?

[FedUp120028]

Am I overthinking this?

I wrote an incident form with the details of a head bump. My 2.5yo fell out of my bed when he stayed with me the one night and hit his head on either the bed side table or windowsill. The windowsill is very low amd the bedside table is little and next to so depending on how far he went over would depend on where he bumped. I was asleep??? I don't have a crystal ball, but they want 'more information'

This is a nursery that reported me for nappy rash and made out I was being neglectful. He does have sensitive skin which has been attended to by GP, it was also seen the same say of the report and the gp did not note any concerns about how the rash was there.

I'm not perfect, I'm a single parent with two children and can be a little disorganised trying to manage everything on top of the two year old that switches my washing machine on the second I turn my back and is into EVERYTHING. He is just a bit of whirlwind, what exactly is there problem? Just feels like they are judging me at every chance they can... from a nursery that hasn't even sent me an invoice since Feb 2025!

I honestly feel so sorry for you, they sound horrendous. Move your child out of their care, and make a formal complaint. You don’t need this stress i your life.

They are following their SG procedures, and every childcare setting has to. You child is arriving with injuries and if what you are telling them doesn’t sound plausible then they have to report you, the fact you didn’t deal with nappy rash will mean that SS have asked them for further information.

What are you going on about? The head bump has nothing to do with the nappy rash....

I did deal with the nappy rash, I went to the gp the same day who said it wasn't that bad, just as it wasn't that had when I changed him that morning. The rash incident was last year and was just an example of what had happened with the nursery before

When I went back in they said the head injury form bump was fine and now they didn't need information 🤷‍♀️

Do mean did I take him to gp the same day? Yes. All the nappy rash stuff happened on the same day LAST YEAR.

What prompted this post was their request for more information on a head bump but I didn't understand what else they could want to know.

Wow. What indicates I waited to be told to take him? Jesus Christ. Timeline just for you;

0800 - nappy change, was little sore so applied cream
0830 - nursery drop off
1130 - nursery calls about the bad nappy rash I know his skin is quite sensitive and I don't have eyes on him at that minute so I take them at face value and call the GP surgery as soon as I'm off the phone.
1135 - call GP surgery and get triaged for a same day call back.
1230 - GP calls back and invites us that after afternoon for 2pm so I collect him from nursery to take him.
7pm - I am at a bowling alley with the kids bowling while my little lad is at my mothers and I get a call from a police officer who explained what the call/visit was regarding.

Anything else you'd like to know in great detail?

None of that changes the fact that both SS and the police had serious concerns.

Yes I'm aware thanks.

But given no previous involvement it will have been based on what the nursery said. I don't have a crystal ball so I don't know what was said other than what was told. Just by the phone call from the police officer as we weren't in, it was stepped down and only the social worker visited.

Again, this post wasn't specifically about that, the s47 was completed and closed and it was about 10 months ago, I mentioned as a bit of background because I am just on edge all the time ever since. I was also wondering if I was just overthinking the fact I just thought this manager was targeting me a little with the head bump form, even though I'd provided a detailed explanation of what had happened. Toddler bump their bloody heads - its life!

Yes, they would have had on face value and the only way to appease those concerns is to visit and perform their checks. I didn't dispute or works against them.

This is honestly the last time I post in aibu, bunch of keyboard savages.

@Lavenderlovers I am not stupid, I am fully aware that on face value their concerns would have VERY serious but once looked in to they weren't serious were they? Case was closed.

What a muppet.

You are being very dismissive on this thread @FedUp120028 and it seems you've been the same in real life. You're talking to everyone as if you think they are stupid. It's not a good look. It comes across as glib and uncaring. Many parents would be worried sick if a MASH referral was made for their child. You, however, are on the attack and blaming others. I'm not being goady. I'm giving you honest feedback about how you come across because you seem oblivious to the way your behaviour is impacting on this issue. It would be really helpful to your children especially, if you could calm down, take the concerns of the nursery seriously and work out how to take on board feedback. That would be the more usual response of a caring parent. The fact that you're not doing this will be escalating the concerns.

Well thats a little unfair, I've just been trying and (failing it seems to explain) said several times its had me on edge and on several occasions on this thread people have been presumptious and rude so how else am I supposed to react? Even their posts have been removed. If you think I wasnt worried sick last year when I got that referral, and then the unannounced visit you are very, very wrong!

I haven't had another MASH referral, the only MASH referral I had was last year. It just felt the nursery were picking on me a bit when asking for additional information when I'd already given a detailed response. I always take feedback from the nursery, other professionals and people in my personal life if there are areas I can improve.

I was only asking if perhaps the nursery were just judging me specifically rather than just following protocol. Maybe I shouldn't have bothered posting.

Our nursery will ask parents to complete an incident form if they have an injury. It's not to catch them out or get them in trouble, it's a safeguarding requirement. Just write what happened and maybe add that you have now bought a bed guard to stop it happening again. That seems sufficient to me. I would say that it sounds like rather than having it in for you, the nursery has other concerns for your child's welfare. Ask to speak to the manager and be open and honest with them - getting annoyed and defensive won't help your case with them. Hope you get it sorted

Thanks, it is sorted now and I was never annoyed or defensive, I just asked them what else they'd like to know.

I'm always open with them and have asked they are open with me too, because if they have other concerns they aren't sharing them.

I'm glad you posted and I hope you do get something helpful out of the thread. I believe you that you're scared and worried. That's not what you show to the world though - at least not on here and possibly at nursery. You show fight and you defend yourself. Maybe you've had a tough life and it's how you've learned to protect yourself. I can be like that too. Do you think you could let down your guard a little bit and show your inside feelings more? I think that would show the nursery staff, for example, how much you care about your DC and do your best for him.

What? You know nothing about me. I got defensive on here because people were being presumptious and rude, getting things totally wrong and I was sick of repeating myself. which shows when a lot if posts have been removed.

Anyway of to pick my little dude up and his non existent new MASH referral everyone has concocted from this thread up.