More of a what would you do than an am I being unreasonable -
this is a hypothetical situation as my partners mum hasn’t passed yet, but she is elderly so likely will in the next few years. I have been with my partner 3 years. He has an ex who he was with for 20 years, separated 5 years ago, no kids together. I have only met his mum twice as she lives 4 hours away from us and me and my partner don’t live together so I don’t always see her when she visits him. He is still in touch with his ex as they own a holiday home together and have mutual friends. I have never met here and he gives the impression he would feel awkward if we did meet. His mum is still in touch with the ex, she went to a recent birthday party of the mum. I presume ex wll want to go to his mums funeral when she passes, I don’t mind not going as we’re not close but would want to support my partner so not sure what I should do when the time comes?