Crap… think I’ve made a mistake…. Aibu to think I can reverse it?

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I was having a hard time at work, lots of pressure and change, and decided to hand my resignation (about ten days ago)
But since I have, things have settled down and I’m thinking I might have made a mistake. Is there any way back? Aibu to think maybe I could stay? I don’t even know how to go about finding out :/
yabu - no that ship has sailed
yanbu- they might let you stay

There is only one way to find out and posting on MN is not it.

You can only ask. No idea what they will say or what field you work in but if you don't ask then you won't know.

Obviously if you know they've got your replacement lined up then that ship has sailed...

Honestly you won't know until you ask.

Although I would urge you to consider if you actually want to still work there or if it is the fear of making the change that is leading you to panic and think it was a mistake. I find very often it's the latter and actually once you've moved on you won't regret it.

You may be able to, assuming that you didn't burn any bridges with your resignation and that you're in good standing. All you can do is ask. I'd approach it like a job interview STAR response - explain the situation, the reason for your initial actions, then explain the reasons for your change of heart, the actions you've taken to address the problem, and your plan going forward. You don't have to go into detail if it's private, of course, but they'll want to know that you're looking at it logically (i.e. not just panicking now) and that you're not a flight risk/prone to changing your mind again.

You flounced
I wouldn’t have you back

🤣

You left without a job lined up
and now you realise getting another one isn’t going to be as easy as you’d envisaged?

it’s not so much the getting another job issue, more that I do like this job and I think I jumped ship a bit early.

it really depends. Even if I accepted your retracted resignation I would mentally write you off as uncommitted

But have you got another job lined up?

how long were you there for?

when you resigned, what was their response? No attempt to persuade you to stay?

and crap under pressure

It's worth asking. Recruitment to backfill your post will cost time and money, which they may want to save. But there are no guarantees, obviously if they think they can get somebody who is a better fit for the role, they'll turn you down.

I know several people who have handed in their notice and changed their mind and habe been able to withdraw their resignation. It saves them the trouble of recruiting. No guarantee but it's definitely worth asking.

You can certainly try but if I was your employer I’d be expecting you to do it again and putting the advert out. Even if I let you withdraw the resignation to ease the immediate burden of replacing you, I’d be expecting you gone, one way or another, soon.

what did they say when you handed in your notice, OP?

lots of places would be happy to allow someone to withdraw their notice if the circs were right.

I would say unlikely. I handed my notice in officially on Thursday. They’ve already advertised my position. Received an acceptance of resignation letter this evening.

You’ve clearly demonstrated that you can’t handle pressure, so unlikely.

It depends on what the response was when you offered your resignation. Did they try to persuade you to stay, or say ‘thanks, see ya!’

I handed mine in a month or so ago (for a
july finish) I had a few panics that I’ve done the wrong thing, but I’m sticking with it. Nothing has changed, I feel less stressed because I’m leaving and suddenly wonder if it’s just less Stressful and I’ve misjudged. Anyway… hold your nerves and trust your gut.

it’s worth a try

You can ask to rescind your notice but they don't have to agree.

What reason did you give for resigning?

Depends how good you are, and only you know that. In a long career, I’ve had a few staff “flounce”. It rarely comes out of the blue, other issues are usually present, so most I’ve happily waved off. The odd one I’ve had back, and to be fair, they’ve been solid ever since.

I know someone who did this and her employer let her stay. She was going through a hard time and handed her notice in without thinking it through. She had a good chat with her manager and they made adjustments. She was managing her own team within 6 months and flourished.

As others have said, I would ask why you resigned, how the conversation went, how it was received and are you able to stand by your decision. You shouldn’t threaten to quit every time something gets difficult BUT you should also know your boundaries.

I am a teacher who has handed in my notice twice over the last five years when things became beyond crazy and ridiculously stressful. Both times I was talked round (mostly because I hadn’t lined anything else up, and it was a response to the stress). This year the changes the head made were really unacceptable to me. I let them know that I was considering my options over the autumn (mostly so they wouldn’t be surprised if contacted for a reference) and then in February, gave them my official resignation. They have accepted this time, and I think that they know that I am absolutely done with this school…

have a serious think, be rational and consider the true implications. Then go with it. Ignore the fear! Better things will usually come your way…