Crap… think I’ve made a mistake…. Aibu to think I can reverse it?

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I was having a hard time at work, lots of pressure and change, and decided to hand my resignation (about ten days ago)
But since I have, things have settled down and I’m thinking I might have made a mistake. Is there any way back? Aibu to think maybe I could stay? I don’t even know how to go about finding out :/
yabu - no that ship has sailed
yanbu- they might let you stay

This was me a year ago - to nice?
they are lying.

A certain amount will depend upon how much goodwill you have at work. Something similar happened in my office - if she'd been a model employee then we would have happily kept her on... but if I'm honest, my boss and I were quietly relieved when she resigned.

Also, we had her replacement lined up in a day and a half! It wouldn't normally be that fast but we'd been interviewing for another identical job the week before and someone really good had narrowly missed out on that one, so HR let us offer it to that person rather than going through the whole recruitment process again. If you're going to ask, I'd suggest doing it quickly.

You can ask but it will depend what sort of employee you are and where they are in employing a replacement whether it is retractable or not.

If you were brilliant at your job I would allow it, if not I wouldn't personally.

But don't forget you will feel less pressure at the moment as probably new work isn't going towards you so the pressure will be less potentially than a normal week.

I have worked in HR and more resignations were rescinded than I expected (before I went to work there). It's worth asking.

You can ask them but they are under no obligation to say yes to you retracting the resignation so really it’s out of your hands what they decide to do. Also it may well have felt better the last few days because you have made that decision and the weight has lifted. So it may well be the right decision after all.

It's incredible how many people on here claiming to be managers are so inflexible and unsupportive. It's baffling why rates of absence are so high in some workplaces, baffling 🙄

I think a lot of the responses here about you flouncing and being crap under pressure are unduly harsh. It’s only been 10 days so it depends how quick they’ve been about replacing you but I doubt the process is that far along. Adverts can be withdrawn.

If I was the manager in this situation and an employee came to be and succinctly explained why they’d resigned and why they’d had the change of heart, I’d certainly listen and see what I could do to help them stay and avoid a reoccurrence, particularly if they’d been doing well up to that point.

Have a chat with your line manager. No guarantees but you may as well try.

Just say your circumstances have changed and you can stay on if they would like you too?

I felt exactly like you, handed my notice in and a few weeks later was thinking have I done the right thing, no other job lined up. I then had a wobble and had a think about the job and what pushed me to want to leave.
Im so glad I did because I’m still friends with people who work there and from what they say it’s not any better than when I left just under 3 months ago!

Tricky. Bit embarrassing to go, but I’d suck up the embarrassment if I really wanted to stay. As a recruiter, I’d probably retain you if you were any good and because the hassle of recruiting is a total pita.

I resigned from one job and was dragged into the head’s office twice for a massive persuasive conversation about why I should stay. Did make me laugh, he promised all sorts that I knew he couldn’t deliver and he couldn’t change the main issue, plus I’d been headhunted into a very nice school.

I resigned last week and there’s no going back, we’re moving. Allocations are being published tomorrow and I’m very keen to see how they’re going to deploy the returning from maternity leave colleague given we’ve all been teaching multiple subjects. I think my departure will be very practical.

Why are managers expected to be supportive of employees who want to leave when the going gets tough, and decide to stay when it all calms down again?
It’s hardly the calibre of staff you’d want to retain, is it? You know full well at the next hint of pressure they’d buckle again.

Absolutely

Were you able to get your situation sorted out OP? I worked with someone who left because they were unhappy. They hated their new job even more but were lucky enough to get their old job back soon after, without an interview. They soon started complaining about how awful it was again but probably felt they had to stick it out because the boss had done them a favour.

They said no

Understandable? If you decide it was worth leaving, would you want you back? It says something about how you feel about the job and your commitment. I can see their pov.

If you do ask again to return, you could say that you got very stressed about c and y but you now realise you overreacted and gave up a job you love and value. If they are willing to take you back, you will seek help with managing your stress better in future. But I guess it may be too late.

Oh no. You did what you could and asked rather than wondering. Perhaps they already went through a new hiring process. Did the give a reason why not?
I'd be reminding myself now of why I handed the resignation in the first place and look to a applying to other companies for a fresh start.

Bad luck, OP. I think try not to take it personally, it could just be that they were too far down the recruitment process for your replacement to turn it around now. It was worth asking.

I hope you find a new job that you like more!

Agree

I agree.

Thanks. I think a new challenge will be the best idea really, just a bit of a wobble.
the manager is a total nightmare and that hasn’t changed, the actual job was ok but the manager made every problem into a disaster so you feel like you’re constantly on edge.

Unlikely at my workplace, because it would show you can't cope with the job, and you would be a risk for l/t sickness and HR issues.

To be honest with your latest update - from what you’ve said this will be for the best. Scary though it is to be facing change, if the manager is a nightmare and makes you feel constantly on edge, life’s too short for that nonsense. You’ll look back on this once you’re settled somewhere better and be glad you forced yourself to make that change.

In that case, they did you a favour.

Good luck in your new job.

nobody should have to cope with a job with a nightmare boss....
their problem, not hers