Crap… think I’ve made a mistake…. Aibu to think I can reverse it?

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I was having a hard time at work, lots of pressure and change, and decided to hand my resignation (about ten days ago)
But since I have, things have settled down and I’m thinking I might have made a mistake. Is there any way back? Aibu to think maybe I could stay? I don’t even know how to go about finding out :/
yabu - no that ship has sailed
yanbu- they might let you stay

I rescinded my resignation after accepting another job, the new employer started changing the goalposts immediately after I accepted and the job was no longer attractive. I wouldn’t have accepted under the conditions they were now proposing. My old employer was happy to have me back and understood why the new role was initially attractive, and knew I wasn’t flakey. I stayed there for another 4 years. I explained my reasoning to the new employer, who tried to head hunt me two years later, so no bridges burnt on either side.

Its worth asking.

I've been on both sides.

I handed in my notice, but they wouldn't accept it. They made changes that I requested so that I could stay.

I've seen staff resign, been persuaded to stay (usuallyfor extra money), then leave about a year later.

What outcome do you really want?

It depends whether you said something along the lines of "You can stick your job up your arses, muthafuckas!" and mooned at them on leaving the room.

Shy bairns get no sweets, OP... if you can say you misjudged it, and if it saves them all the hassle of recruiting again, you might be in with a chance.

Someone i know handed in their notice during a stressful period, got within a few days of their leaving date and changed their mind. They’re still in the job and thriving five years later.

Are you a good worker? If so they’ll probably have you. This has happened at my workplace before, one time within less than 2 months lol.

I’m petty so I’d like to think as a boss I’d be like “no thanks bye” but reality is more complex than that.

Probably depends on your relationship with them and the culture. As well as how you resigned.

I have had employers who have taken back people who started their new job and realised they'd made a mistake, as well as declining to keep people who got cold feet a few days after resigning. Depends on the specifics.

If you've done them a favour in some way by resigning - or really burnt your bridges in how you did it - then I'd expect a "no thanks".

I handed my notice in once because childcare wasn't going to fit with my hours. I changed my mind just over a week later after finding a solution. Still there 4 years later. You can only ask!

most people in my small workplace have left and come back at least once, I came back without even an interview or a CV and I was “temping” there while I was at my other job, everyone knows everyone in this branch of healthcare too. who can say what your circumstances are?
hope all goes well

You haven’t made a mistake. Leave!! The feeling will come again. Find a new job

It's fine. I left for another job and went back to my old job after 6 months because I preferred it. Just be honest, there's really nothing to lose. We all make mistakes and most people can understand that. Good luck.

As a business owner, I wouldn’t want you back.

Stress comes and your response is to quit? No thanks.

This. Not enough info. But at the end of the day only your employer can answer this question. On the OP alone you quit under pressure and then want reinstatement when it calms down.

backstory pending.

Hadn’t they replaced you?!

Bullshit answer. You have no idea of the circumstances.

No one should work under long term protracted stress and as a business owner you’d understand that.

You can only ask. Hiring is a pain, so if they haven't started that process yet they may wwell think it's worth avoiding (they may not, seeing this as an opportunity rather than a big loss). If they do take you back, I think it's likely to affect the way at some of the management see you and their willingness to invest in you and give you opportunities for a while. You should probably have your CV polished and a good idea of the market so you can jump (again) quickly if you think you're not getting what you need from it anymore.

Did your manager seem saddened by your resignation?

Agreed. It sounds like the sort of answer a manager gives when they think you're the problem and they are trying to pretend its perfectly normal for employees to be stressed, over worked and emotionally broken.

It doesn't sound like the PPs stress is from responsibility and it's very likely it will get worse if she makes the decision to stay.

Perhaps it’s less stressful as colleagues are aware of you leaving.

I rescinded a resignation before and it worked.

I also more recently tried to go back to a job I'd left because the new one wasn't working out - and was told no. All they could say was "did you return your laptop as agreed?" They didn't want to know.

We can't really help you. All we can do is give our own stories and encourage you to ask. If you don't ask you don't get.

as far as im aware its down to management if they accept or not etc

Are you involved in recruitment? General question, not snippy. That’s a reasonable reaction but the ballache- time and cost of recruitment- and unless I actively wanted an employee to leave I’d do anything to avoid recruiting a new member of staff

As a manager I’d much rather have a good worker stay and not have to recruit or interview etc on top of my day job. And try and work on what they need to stay.

If they were not good, I’d be tempted to say no….

plus at my work if someone leaves, there is no guarantee that you can replace them, it has to go to a committee. So if they have similar, maybe they will want to avoid that!

No I’m not
But I imagine there’s a fair bit of ballache with having someone resign when they feel under pressure and then, quite evidently because they haven’t got another job, come crawling back.

Nothing will have changed but the op still wants to return - so as an employer, I’d be thinking it’s worth the effort of recruiting an alternative

added to which given the op gives no clue as to their response, I’d guess it was underwhelming

This!!! If staff leave I have to do all the recruitment on top of my day job so if I can get someone (good) to stay it’s much better!

I think the person not allowing someone to stay for “flouncing” is being way “flouncier”

It's not as uncommon as you think. Depending on how far they are down the line in recruiting your replacement they may well let you retract your resignation. It's worth asking.