Maintainence man manoeuvred my 3 year old out of the way

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Today I was in a bakery with 3year old dd, she went to look at the cakes whilst I ordered. However the maintainence man kept manoeuvring her out of the way back to me whilst I was ordering because there was a vent by her legs. It resulted in dd having a massive meltdown and throwing herself on the floor

On reflection am I being unreasonable to think the maintainence man could have walked me instead of taking ds shoulders and walking her back to me?

At first I was distracted at the till and didn’t realise it was a maintainence person

YABU. You should have held your dd’s hand or picked her up, not let her get in the maintenance man’s way, he was trying to do his job. He is not your babysitter.

So he was moving her away from possible danger? Or have I misunderstood?

What do you mean by he "kept" moving her? Did you let her go back there after the first time?

You didn't notice who was touching your 3 year old?

YABVU for all you know, someone else in that bakery was a threat and the "maintenance man" was making sure your child was at your side. Which you should have been doing instead of being distracted.

What do you mean ‘walked me’?
Sounds like your toddler was in the way of a maintenance man doing work?

"kept"? You mean he had to do it more than once before you paid attention?

You shouldn't be letting your young daughter walk off in a shop. You both sound like hard work from the details so far.

A couple of questions - was he busy doing maintenance in the shop or was he another customer?

If he was working in that area is it possible your child was in his way?
And therefore you should have been keeping a better eye on her & kept her beside you.
Physically handling the child may not have been his best choice but if you were distracted how else was he to remove her from the area

You were being unreasonable not to keep her with you after the first time he returned her.

Why did he keep needing to do it? Surely after the first time of her getting in his way you'd have decided to actually parent your kid and keep her next to you?

Well manoeuvering is such a weird term to use . However , you obviously did not have your eyes on her and anything could’ve happened. You are being too precious.

another one here wondering why he had to do it more than once?

This has to be some sort of reverse surely?

But if not, YABU. Watch your child. You were in a shop where people are working not soft play. Would imagine the maintenance man was pretty surprised he had to move her back to you more than once. Why didn't you get the hint the first time?

This. If this is genuine, you’re being bloody ridiculous op. You were being slack and, frankly, daft to be so unaware of what your very small child was doing and who had direct access to her.

You should really have been looking after your child.

The vent he was working on could’ve had dangerous wires, sharp edges etc. you should’ve kept a hand on your dd and if it was more than once yabvvu

Don't let your 3 year old wander away from you in a shop.

Reasonable would have been that the first time you'd noticed DD was in the guys' way and moved her before got the chance to, and the second time never happened because you weren't being too lazy to control your daughter.

AS it was, maybe if meltdowns aren't reasonable, choose to avoid them by parenting your daughter, instead of letting them happen because you are too lazy to parent.

You're very lucky that this wasn't another James Bulger case.

Ergh no. You should have had your child under control and safe. The poor bloke was just trying to get on with his job and he had some feral kid wondering along in his way.

Do better at parenting your own child so strangers don’t have to.

Blimey, just keep your kid out of people's way.
East.

Who was supervising your child whilst you ordered? No 3 year old would be allowed to 'go and look at" anything alone surely.

Would you rather she had fallen down the vent?

You should have been keeping a good eye on her from the start. You should have stepped in and removed her yourself once it became obvious that the maintenance man didn't think it was a suitable place for her to be and you certainly should have made sure she stayed by your side once he removed her from the area.

That was my first thought.