Maintainence man manoeuvred my 3 year old out of the way

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Today I was in a bakery with 3year old dd, she went to look at the cakes whilst I ordered. However the maintainence man kept manoeuvring her out of the way back to me whilst I was ordering because there was a vent by her legs. It resulted in dd having a massive meltdown and throwing herself on the floor

On reflection am I being unreasonable to think the maintainence man could have walked me instead of taking ds shoulders and walking her back to me?

At first I was distracted at the till and didn’t realise it was a maintainence person

If you couldn’t see that she was in their way then you weren’t supervising her. A tantrum for being ‘manoeuvred’ is better than her being hurt.

"I’ll go against the grain and say that adults should not put their hands on children that are not theirs. Except in places where the adults have a duty of care like school."

I would move a child who is in an unsafe situation if I thought that was the best option at the time. I would rather have a parent complain about it than an injured or dead child.

With ops wording I don’t know if we know for sure that he did put his hands on her.

Not a meltdown, a tantrum
because she was stopped from doing something, you both sound insufferable.

Yabu.

He was looking out for your childs Safety. And if you had acted after the first time and held her hand, then he would not have had to keep doing it.

pay more attention to your child in future op.

Yes!!

Meltdown my arse!

I can totally see how you can take your eyes off your children in a queue, it happens- I did it all the time.

Im not sure if your issue is the touching or the action of deciding where your child is standing that you’re offended by, but I wouldn’t be offended by either. I spend a lot of time in Greece where they adore children you’d have a heart attack at the things people would do

you’re lucky she’s not a James burger- wtf?!

Another entitled person who can’t parent her own child. He was keeping her safe.
Taking her eyes off her toddler in a shop for a few moments was exactly what James Bulger’s mum did… and she will regret that for the rest of her life.

A 3 year old should not be going anywhere in a shop alone. They should be next to their caregiver at all times for safety.
If the maintenance man returned her once, you should have thanked him and kept her with you.

Surely you should have kept hold of her after the first time. Man was likely keeping her safe as well as himself and trying to do his job.

My first thought too.

Do parents use reins anymore? I did when mine were small for exactly this reason. So I could keep them close to me. I can remember being told that I was treating them like animals I said ' better I treat them like an animal than they end up dead'.

This. You should have held on to her after he did it the first time.

Totally disagree. There's a whole range of circumstances in which its fine to lay hands on a stranger's child. Their safety being the predominant one, but also to prevent cruelty to animals or harm to another person.

It's called being a village.

The workman was trying to do his job and having to steer a child away from danger while the mother was letting child wander around.
The poor bloke probably foresaw that HE would probably be blamed if the child was injured, rather than the neglectful mother, didnt want sacking and his face all over social media. Life ruined because some woman wont supervised her kid!!

How long was the queue that the maintenance man had to repeatedly bring your DD back to you? Or were you sitting down having a cuppa while your child ran around disturbing the workman. In any case you were unreasonable.

You should teach your young child to stay by you in lines/shops. I have a zero tolerance policy on this. By my side, at all times.

This is just one of many reasons why children are not "school ready" no boundaries or basic rules at home, free roaming and not being told about dangers and respecting other people's space and priority.

At 3 she had a meltdown because she couldnt do what she wants?! Yeah good luck!

Can you please keep control of your 3 year old when out and about? So she does not get into danger?
Why on Earth you need to ask if you were unreasonable? And why did this person have to take your 3 year old out of danger's way more than once!!!???

Supervise your child properly.

YABVU
Supervise your child and this will not happen.

This. Put some reins on your kid if you really cba to watch her.

What on earth are you on about?

How did he do it multiple times? Why didn’t you pick her up or find a seat and sit her there , or tell her she couldn’t go over there?

Child toddling near hole.

Choice 1: Steer kid back to parent.
Choice 2: Call to distracted parent, “Excuse me - your kid’s about to fall down this…oops, too late.”

You see teachers on here saying that they have had enough, it is the demands and complaints from parents that is bringing them to their knees. I get it now. Your child is pre school but you are so gearing up to be a complete pain when your child is at school. Just a nonsense complaint when you were at fault. Be a responsible adult, look after your kid and stop trying to blame others who are working when you let her wander off.