To ask whats the nicest thing someone has said to you?

[worldshottestmom]

Or the best compliment you've ever gotten?

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I feel so uplifted right now after just having one of the most pleasant social exchanges of my life. Without being too outing, I was just speaking to someone I know, who I will not be able to see anymore, and she said to me "you are one of the sweetest souls I've ever had the pleasure to meet. It is so clear to see that your children love you and I admire you fighting so fiercely for them despite everything you've got going on".

I honestly was tearful at this and am again thinking about it now. It can make such a difference to someone who has no support system and does quite literally everything for their family alone. Having someone show such kindness and love really made me feel seen, and like its not all just done in virtue. Its nice to be recognised sometimes and has given me such a boost to continue in life in general, with a positive attitude.

A favourite compliment that I get is being called funny, I like making people laugh and always has. Always makes me feel good when someone says it.

So, whats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you? And / or the best compliment you've ever received?

A cashier serving me at a till: “Wow, you really don’t look old enough to have a 17 year old! You remind me of Lorelai from Gilmore Girls.” Put a huge spring in my step!

Last summer I’d had a really shit day with the kids, they’d bickered so much and in turn I’d gone on and on at them. In a bid to salvage something from the day, I took them to the coast after tea. As they were playing and I was enjoying them not arguing, a lady who’d been sitting nearby came and told me that she’d been watching and what a lovely mummy I was. I thanked her and told her the whole reason we were at the beach was because I’d been a grumpy one all day but it was so lovely to hear it at the end of a day when I’d felt like a really shit parent. It made my day to be honest and made me resolve to always say it if I think something nice about somebody because you never know when they might need to hear it.

I had a horrible time in my last job, it was toxic, it nearly broke me and I struggled to get my confidence back after I eventually left. Two years later I have a great job as an administrator in a university and I've had a couple of compliments that have meant the world to me. One of our lecturers told me I was 'the social glue that holds the department together' which was lovely, and just today another lecturer told me that the department really lucked out when I started work here because I'm so approachable, friendly and I get things done. The biggest compliment I've had was being told I'm 'very neurodivergent-friendly'. That one was really special.

Edited to add a quick personal one: when one of my adult children told me that he's really proud that I'm his mum. It made me cry.

You sound fantastic @worldshottestmom 💐

My husband and I were in a petrol station a few years ago and I left the queue to grab some windscreen cleaner which I briefly struggled to locate. When my husband reached the cashier, he said to him " tell your daughter its in the next aisle."

Made my day, not so much DHs (who is 2 years younger) 😂

"Jamie said Sam's Mum was nice, and you are." Names changed, and they were 8, but I was still chuffed 😂

A couple of days ago. A lady stopped me in a public bathroom (after an earlier interaction with her) to tell me my 3 year old son had the “kindest heart and oozed generosity”. I know this is a compliment for him, but it made me feel really proud and like I’m doing a good job raising him, which is the polar opposite to how I normally feel about my parenting skills.

These are lovely.
Wouldn't the world be so much better if everyone made a point of saying something nice to somebody every day.
I do try !

A friend once told me she loves how resilient I am. That you could keep knocking me down and I would just keep getting up over and over again when people would have given up

that im strange and not normal.

And a very old work one, I have the card here
”thank you for being so calm, kind and reassuring. It was terrifying but you were lovely. We’ve spoken about you many times in relating the incident to others. You will always be just that lady on the phone to some, but to us you are a life saver and a hero. Please know what you did was appreciated by two very frightened parents”
Many tears after getting that card

This is just so lovely 🥹

'I'm so damn lucky you are my mum and I wouldn't swap you for the world'. Adult DD in mothering Sunday card this year. Made me cry. We had our moments when she was younger, but I'm.so thankful I get on well with both DC now they are adults. I wouldn't swap either of them for the world either

My dying mum struggling to tell me she loved me❤️

Such a great thread and great idea to write them down.

My partner of approx 25 years quite recently said I was the funniest person he's ever met, which made me happy. (He’s not very effusive with compliments generally, but we do have a laugh together and I would say the same about him).

Something lovely but not a compliment is our DD3 in bed, she said ‘I love you’ to me, I replied ‘I love you more’ to which she replied, ‘It can’t be true!’ which I thought was quite sweet and grown up for a 3 year old!

I have three, once when I was whinging about how I didn’t have time to sort my hair/ make up out a colleague told me it doesn’t matter what you look like because you are a woman of substance. I regularly remind myself of this!

another (I know this is sexist but please don’t ruin it for me) colleague introduced me as the thinking man’s crumpet of our department. I’ve never considered myself pretty or sexy so that was nice

another was working with a very anxious child, did what I normally do and got the job done and afterwards the mother said to me that she’d never seen anyone ‘talk him down’ like that before. It hadn’t even occurred to me that I’d done anything out of the ordinary so the unexpectedness of it was lovely

It was when a colleague once said, “You make people feel calmer just by being there.” I don’t even think they realised what a big thing that was to hear, but it hit me straight to the heart.

I'm a therapist and when I was having my own therapy, the therapist (who I really rated) said, when I was having a wobble about my work ability, "I used to work at x place too and when I worked there, there were people who everyone thought were really special. And I can imagine people thinking that about you."

Another one was when a friend who'd had a very difficult childhood said being friends with me was like the bit in the Wizard of Oz when it goes from black and white into colour

One of my dd’s friends was worried that her poorly parent might pass away (they didn’t thankfully) and she asked me if I would be her mum.
Like a previous poster I’m not big on compliments, especially when they’re clearly being done to say something nice rather than share a genuine feeling. But this has stayed with me for a long time.

Oh Christ I literally teared up reading that. That’s beautiful.

This is absolutely beautiful

An elderly lady told me I was beautiful on the inside as well as the out. She said if we get to come back and do life over again, she’s coming to find me earlier in her life, so she could know me for longer.

Wow this was lovely to read! Even in a job such as yours, you are able to carry yourself in a graceful, considerate and fair manner, that has clearly not gone unnoticed by judges and clients alike. That really says something about you as a person and your character. You should be delighted at that, and I can see that you are! Thank you for being someone in such an important role that conducts themselves with such consideration for others. As you can see, it makes a difference ❤️

Oh my goodness that is such a sweet thing for her to say. How utterly beautiful. Speaks volumes about what a lovely person you must be ❤️

That is absolutely beautiful. To make a child feel so safe and loved they would say something like that. Im glad her parents are okay ❤️