How much weight do you lose for your wedding?

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Getting married in 6 months. Like most brides I want to look my best. I’m fairly happy with my figure as I’m a natural hourglass (a lot of my weight is on my boobs and butt) but wouldn’t mind being a bit more toned and leaner. But I still want to look like me. I told my family I want to lost 18 pounds and they think that is insane (currently 145, 5ft 3.5). I think that’s a normal amount to lose for a bride. Nothing extreme extreme.

edit: how much weight did* you lose for your wedding

None.

I didn't lose any either but I was a slim toned size 10 then!

I didn’t lose weight for my wedding.

if you lose that much you'll have issues with getting the dress altered to fit?

18 pounds is a huge weight loss in 6 months?!

Honestly? think i did lose a few pounds but nothing like that....

Almost 20 pounds is a lot to lose just to look more "toned and leaner", especially when you're already a healthy weight.

Why focus on the number? Just eat well and be active. Looking toned is about building muscle mass.

I lost 2.5 stone within 6 months before my wedding....but I was 14stone and overweight. I got back into md healthy range

None. Your future husband lives you exactly as you are, so why would you want to change your appearance in any way?
Don't fall for this sexist nonsense, OP, because I guarantee that the groom isn't worried about losing weight for your wedding!

None

I can’t deny all the very slim brides on Pinterest have probably influenced me too much

None

All my friends have definitely hit the gym / eaten healthier pre their wedding. I didn’t think it was that uncommon

How much is your future husband planning to lose?

It's about 12.5% or one eighth of your entire body weight, isn't it? I wouldn't say it was "extreme extreme" but can see why they thought it sounded like quite a lot, if they already see you as slim/a healthy weight.

Obviously it's not really any of their business but once you bring it up you can't blame people for responding. I wouldn't have mentioned a set amount, mainly because you then don't have to justify if you don't meet it!

A stone and a half isn't much to lose when you weigh 20 stone, but quite hard at 10 stone! I definitely wouldn't be choosing a dress on the basis that you 'need' to lose that much to feel happy in it, for example.

It’s really up to you. If you’re not happy with your weight generally and think this is the kick up the backside you needed to get around to losing some then it’s just going to benefit you long term; but you do need to be careful not to make the run-up to the wedding stressful and unenjoyable because you’re overly focussed on a particular number on the scale rather than just seeing how you look In your dress at a particular point and feeling good in it.

I didn’t as I didn’t need / want to, but I did put in extra weights sessions at the gym so my shoulders and upper back would look great in my halterneck backless dress.

None. My husband loved me exactly as I was then, and I have no desire to conform to some notion that women are only worthy if they're a slim an conventionally attractive bride.

I've since lost a considerable amount of weight because I wanted to, and I still don't regret not losing weight for my wedding

Nothing as I was less than 8 stone then.
You're the same height as me and currently the same weight. In an ideal world I like to be between half a stone and a stone lighter. I would have thought an 8lb loss is more doable and realistic than your target and should still give you a more svelte look.

I thought three pounds a month wasn’t insane

None, I didn't need to.

But if you're 5ft 3" and 10 stone, losing a stone sounds completely normal??

If I were you, I'd stop discussing such personal things with others.

I mean even this thread is pretty weird because why does it matter what others lost?

It's not.

But your question is.

That and the fact you're discussing your weight loss plans with other people.

I'm the same height as you and currently weigh about 8st 10lbs.

I'm slim but I'm certainly not 'skinny' and nothing about my weight is insane.

I think it sounds fine but would focus more on toning etc than the number as over a stone loss could cause you to look at bit raggedy if not done in a healthy way. To look your best on the day 10lb in a healthy way may look better than 18lb in a quick way iyswim!As pp have said no need to share with others and to be honest they can’t win - what if they had said ‘oh great idea - at least 18lb- I think’ that would not have been nice either!

I didn't lose weight. I did focus on feeling my best and having lots of energy, so I did increase exercise and reduce alcohol. if you want to lose weight, fine, but you don't need to tell others. Also you can get toned without needing to lose weight. Consider if you are having a dress altered as well!

I did lose weight before my wedding, I was unhappy after two kids and I wanted to feel confident. I absolutely would do it again in a heartbeat. If you are doing it for you and how you feel don’t let other people make you feel bad about it if it will help you feel more confident on the day. However nobody needs to lose weight for their wedding and brides look amazing on their day no matter what size they are. I think it’s more common losing weight now as people are getting married older and often have kids etc which doesn’t help with weight etc, I definitely was bigger than I was in my 20’s pre kids and wanted to feel like my best self.

I didn’t lose any on purpose but lose I did not a lot thankfully.

your at the high end for your weight and height so you don’t need to lose weight unless you want too which is normal for a wedding.

so your just influenced by pics and many of them will be tweaked and unrealistic so please bare that in mind too.

do also remember if you lose 18 pounds will you have time to get the dress refitted.

How is 18 pounds a huge weight loss in 6 months?
If you diet sensiblly you can lose 2lb a week minimim, so 18 pounds in less than 2 months is normal not extreme.

It depends on the type of dress you are going for. If you are buying it nearer to the time that's fine. If you have already bought it, discuss with the shop/fitter how much it can be adjusted.

Dress aside, lose weight if you want to (would you want to anyway, even if there was no wedding)? It sounds like you could lose 18lb and still be well within the healthy range for your height. 3lb a month is not a lot, but it is a long time to keep it up for iyswim. I might personally go for 4lb a month for a shorter time, so you can just maintain your new weight for the month leading up to the wedding and make sure your dress fits!