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To ask for an opinion you wouldn't say out loud for fear of judgement? (Inoffensive and light hearted please)

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/03/2026 22:46

Bored Come On GIF

Weather men and women should be sexy.

I don't care if youre a meteorological prodigy

OP posts:
sammylady37 · 18/03/2026 06:00

People can no longer tolerate normal human emotions and responses to stressful/upsetting/frightening/worrying situations and instead blame it on ‘mental health’ and expect tolerance and adjustments for this. Meanwhile, serious mental illness remains poorly misunderstood, poorly funded in terms of care and services are being left behind while time and money are invested in various bullshit wellness initiatives.

CarlaLemarchant · 18/03/2026 06:08

People who are disapproving of threads like this usually stick around to read the whole thing.

The men (and it’s always men) that drive at excess speed down my 30mph road should be stopped at the end of the road, their cars seized and be made to walk back down the full length of the road with no trousers or pants on so we can all laugh at their tiny willies.

canisquaeso · 18/03/2026 06:14

The Mayor of Kingstown is the most nonsensical series I’ve ever watched and I 100% imagine the actors laughing after some scenes cut because the dialogue is so stupid and pointless.

ElenOfTheWays · 18/03/2026 06:15

Jeans are ugly and absolutely no one looks good in them.

Bright pillarbox red hair or pink hair doesn't suit anybody.

People who are proud of being candid and "telling like it is" are usually the biggest liars you will ever meet.

ItsNotMeEither · 18/03/2026 06:15

20217plus · 18/03/2026 02:33

Hey @Isadora2007 ,

Stretching this thought process a little further, I wondered does this opinion extend to Olympians? Or footballers like the Lionesses, representing their country on the world stage?

These people spend an inordinate amount of time away from their family to pursue their goals (pun not intended).

Additionally, is this just a sports thing? Or does it extend to people who have other very time consuming professions, such as heart surgeons or surgical oncologists? Again from experience these people have very little time with their family day-to-do, due to the demands of the profession they've chosen.

Alternatively if the ultra marathon competitor was doing it as their main job, I.e representing their country in athletic/ running competitions, would it be less of an issue for you?

I only ask because most people cannot 'afford' to represent their country, they have to have day jobs to facilitate their day-to-day life, so if people didn't pursue their passions as a hobby, we'd likely have even more individuals existing with mental health challenges.

I was about to add an anecdote related to this, but first, I think most (Olympians) are younger and pre children.

I have friends, a husband and wife who each have an Olympic gold medal in their sport. They stayed very firmly involved, and playing age level rep teams for their country now.

When they had children, they continued with their sports, no longer Olympic level, but still beyond the average person by far. She told me that one day, when their eldest child was 7, their child wanted to go to an extra training session for a different sport. She told her daughter that she couldn't go because that's when she (the mum) had training. She went to training that day and informed everyone she was retiring, effective immediately. She said as she told her child she couldn't pursue her own sport that it instantly dawned on her that she'd had her chance, it was now time to support her children in their endeavours.

Her eldest went on to represent her country internationally in a different sport (not Olympic level though). The second child has been to the Olympics in the same sport as mum. I couldn't respect her more for what she did. Instead she has written newpaper articles and done TV commentary for the sport.

Her husband, continued with sport being number 1, they divorced. I'm not saying it's related, I didn't ask that. But he has now lived in at least two other countries, coaching their Olympic team in the original sport.

I have another friend, funnily enough, in the same sport. Has always played in rep teams, but not internationally. She's now in the over 70s team. When her kids were little, they couldn't play sport because it was all about the parents and their sport. They were in their 30s when I met them, so no longer aiming for Olympics. I remember their daughter being very sad when she had to give up dance lessons after one year, as it was too hard for the parents to manage around their sport.

I'm not against sport, but if you're competing at high levels after having kids, then I think you need a 'village' to make sure the kids don't miss out. If you can manage both, go for it, but if your child can't ever do things or really misses out on time with you, then, yes, it's selfish.

Murfmeister · 18/03/2026 06:15

BauhausOfEliott · 17/03/2026 23:40

People who win several million quid on the lottery and don’t give up work should be made to give the money back, so it can go to someone with the imagination to actually enjoy it instead

THIS!!!!

Why enter if you you are going to do fuck all with it? Give it to me, you unimaginative, dull twat (can you tell I've never won over £2.50...)

LarryStylinson · 18/03/2026 06:20

WilfredsPies · 17/03/2026 23:31

You only need three cheeses. A nice strong cheddar, mozzarella and a stinky, squishy one. Anything else is overkill.

Samuel L Jackson plays the same character in every film he does.

The holes in Crocs are where your dignity leaks out from

I am an avid cross wearer. Can confirm that is the purpose of the holes. They make you sign a contract adhering to this condition when you buy your first pair

LarryStylinson · 18/03/2026 06:20

Crocs. Damn you autocorrect

MermaidMummy06 · 18/03/2026 06:23

BauhausOfEliott · 17/03/2026 23:40

People who win several million quid on the lottery and don’t give up work should be made to give the money back, so it can go to someone with the imagination to actually enjoy it instead

I wonder, if you did a where are they now a year on, how many held true to that.

I bet once the reality of not having to work, or having a crap day and realising they didn't have to put up with it, they'd quit. Plus realising how much you can do with money + time. I'd be handing in my resignation the moment the money hit my account, and spend my notice period trying to not skip around the office with joy!!

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/03/2026 06:24

RedRec · 17/03/2026 23:37

People who let dogs sleep in their beds have weird standards of hygiene.

What about cats? And no, I can't shut her in or out anywhere.

Isittimeformynapyet · 18/03/2026 06:26

SquidGinn · 18/03/2026 01:23

But an emoji is just an emoji! There could be words or experiences to share that resonate!?!! Sort of the whole point of saying “I didn’t want to run and read” comes across to me as this has impacted me also here’s how I can relate and sympathise

Then they can just comment surely, without the silly MN cliché.

But then, MN clichés are a real bugbear of mine. In particular "First post nails it as usual!", which I find embarrassing frankly.

I suppose "I'm showing you who I am - believe me" 😂

Crumpled86 · 18/03/2026 06:29

People who struggle with parking and drive larger than average cars are daft.

GottaCatchSomeOfEm · 18/03/2026 06:30

Football is the most boring sport on the planet and I automatically assume people who follow it - especially the ones who can't fathom that I don't - lack intelligence.

Sharptonguedwoman · 18/03/2026 06:30

Murfmeister · 18/03/2026 06:15

THIS!!!!

Why enter if you you are going to do fuck all with it? Give it to me, you unimaginative, dull twat (can you tell I've never won over £2.50...)

I knew a lovely family who won the lottery. They moved to a big house with a garden the size of Texas. He bought a toy car, both gave up work for a year or three. Then went back to work. I think it was the need for structure and meaning in their days. I lost touch with them after a bit, no falling out, just life so I don't know what happened next.

SqueakyDinosaur · 18/03/2026 06:30

People who are obsessive about parkrun are boring, annoying and frequently exhibitionist. I don't give a flying fuck if you've completed the alphabet challenge or whatever.

Isittimeformynapyet · 18/03/2026 06:31

IPM · 18/03/2026 01:45

Yes but why the announcement?

The OP won’t know or care whether someone considered moving to another thread before posting.

It’s like they’re supposed to be grateful they didn’t 🤷‍♀️

Yes, this exactly. That's what's so irritating about it. I couldn't put it into words.

daisychain01 · 18/03/2026 06:35

Isadora2007 · 17/03/2026 23:29

I think it’s probably because my exH is into that kind of stuff and thinks of himself as a superior human as a result. But I see it as someone who spends an inordinate amount of time and attention on themselves and so it is selfish. And they always want to tell people. Yuck.

This is such a misnomer though, Women should be more selfish, that's the whole problem.

if they spent more time doing things for themselves they wouldn't need to feel like a martyr so hard done by and their men folk would have to step up.

Isittimeformynapyet · 18/03/2026 06:38

Batties · 18/03/2026 01:56

I’m not sure what you mean

I know exactly what @BauhausOfEliott means, and she's spot on.

The point of the thread is explained in the title: "wouldn't say out loud for fear of judgement".

Perhaps you don't have a wicked streak 😉

NeelyOHara · 18/03/2026 06:39

People constantly talking about their mental health is a massive downer.

fancytoes · 18/03/2026 06:41

Isadora2007 · 17/03/2026 23:46

People on WLI are zealots! 🤣

I confess I might be one 😬 only because I want to spread the word of Mounjaro to the fatties! (I can say that as a former one, btw)

AramintaBelle · 18/03/2026 06:44

World book day costumes should be characters or themes which started life as a book, and not characters from films, games or tv series. Looking at you Elsa and Pikachu

firstofallimadelight · 18/03/2026 06:46

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 17/03/2026 23:52

Gentle Parenting is shit and leads to badly-behaved children.

Gentle parenting is fab. Passive parenting is shit and leads to badly behaved children.

People who slate gentle parenting because of its (inaccurate) name when they actually probably use it a lot themselves are idiots.

FannyCradocksDoughnut · 18/03/2026 06:48

Flesh coloured scrunch bum leggings should be banned. I was stood behind a woman last week, in the queue at the chip shop, who was wearing a pair with what I can only describe as a sculpted bare arsehole at the back. It was so weird I actually got the giggles over it especially when trying to explain it to DH later, he'd never heard of them!

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firstofallimadelight · 18/03/2026 06:49

AramintaBelle · 18/03/2026 06:44

World book day costumes should be characters or themes which started life as a book, and not characters from films, games or tv series. Looking at you Elsa and Pikachu

I mean frozen is based on a book although tbf the mc wasn’t called Elsa.
Computer characters I agree completely (although my son once went as mario 🤦‍♀️)

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