To ask for an opinion you wouldn't say out loud for fear of judgement? (Inoffensive and light hearted please)

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Weather men and women should be sexy.

I don't care if youre a meteorological prodigy

Shocking when you look back, to be honest x

An opinion I hold more strongly all the time and doesn't seem to go down well IRL is that school uniform is a bad idea in the UK nowadays. Uniform is a problem for many children with additional needs, it's often not suitable for the weather (too hot in the summer, cold in bad weather), many uniforms are expensive and badly made/hard to wash and dry quickly, children don't look particularly 'smart' in them after week 1 because it often continues to be worn when it's past it's best and/or doesn't quite fit, children find ways to differentiate themselves anyway so it's not the big leveller people claim etc. For many families it doesn't make life easier. For those with less money I think it's actually harder to buy a small amount of expensive uniform and make sure it's clean every day (especially for younger children who spill on themselves and grow quickly) than to just wear comfortable every day clothes. Uniform can be a particular problem for girls around puberty (and any child who is an unusual size or shape) as the chosen clothing is often unflattering and awkward for those with changing bodies or anyone unusually small/large/tall/short. Universities and work places expect young adults to dress appropriately for the task without a formal uniform so why not schools? Plus teachers would not have to police uniform violations or deal with dozens of identical un-name items of clothing and parents/pupils complaining that lost items are not returned. And ties for young girls and boys- why????

Sunflower lanyards don’t really matter any more, now that every parent with a badly behaved child has bought one off eBay.

(Poorly executed) 'gentle parenting' is ruining children.

Absolutely. Sometimes we have to do things we aren't super good at or don't like. Sometimes we get better at things through practice. However and bullying towards those who are less able should be stopped - there was 1 boy who was doing this last term, and he was swiftly removed from the school football team for 'poor sportsmanship'. Parents kicked up a stink and were told that when their child could demonstrate the school values of respect and kindness he could return.

I don't like writing medical notes, I prefer seeing patients. Should I then get away with not writing notes - Absolutely not.

Thst rubbish though re football getting all the funding. The school should get sports premium funding and governors have oversight on how this is spent, with a focus towards those on pupil premium funding. At my daughters school they do a different sport in each lesson per week - 1 is a team/outdoor sport and 1 is fitness/dance/yoga/gymnastics. And then these change every half term. With free afterschool clubs for those who wish to focus on a specific sport

We much prefer uniform, saves the daily debate of what to wear.

But it should be a sensible practical uniform, not necessarily branded, with some flexibility.

I have a neurodivergent child and I agree with this

So when my son was going through a hitty phase I was never beyond grabbing distance so I could grab him before he landed a smack. Took him longer than average to learn but he learnt.

Not all children will be able to learn. Yet at a meetup with other neurodivergent kids there is a boy who is a hair puller, he jumped on my then 3 yr old and grabbed her curls and I had to carefully extricate his hands because his mum was at the other side of the venue talking to someone else.

Do I understand why he grabs hair? Absolutely, is a head of golden ringlets possibly irresistible if you have a sensory draw to hair, definitely, do I mind that he tried to go for her hair, no because she's used to her brother, knows to be tolerant and I'm right by her to stop it. What I do mind is she kept wandering off leaving him unsupervised and it kept happening. That's not ok.

I'm happy to accept it's noones fault he hair pulls, even to accept it might be years before he learns not to (he's only 7/8) and also that it's very difficult but if my son had a fixation with another child and kept doing that is be constantly redirecting, moving and being within arms reach. So I do think some parents develop and apathy or don't feel it's their responsibility to constantly manage his sort of behaviour.

I LOVE our schools approach to uniform. Boys can wear trouser or joggers in the school colours, shirts or polo shirts, jumpers, sweatshirts or hoodies. Any shoes or trainers are acceptable. Girls can wear trousers, joggers, leggings. Skirt, pinafore, polo shirt or shirt and sweater, jumper, cardigan or hoodie.

I'm wrong that and realizing I know a few boys who wear cardigans too and I swear if my son showed up in a pinafore noone would blink. I've also sent him in non black shoes and I know many who do the same and there is complete acceptance that some kids struggle to come to school at all and if pokemon trainers get them in, no problem. Also some kids just wear non black shoes anyway. It's like it a guideline, keeps their kids recognisable and fairly uniform but no one is disadvantaged

Rome is a dump

I think uniform is a good thing but needs a shake-up. The best-performing secondary in my town just has polo tops and sweatshirts rather than the naff polyester blazers/stiff shirts/clip-on ties the other schools have. Seems way more comfy and practical. I just think comfort and cost should at the forefront of deciding uniforms.

People who say they are getting their shit together, or that they lost their shit over something, are just disgusting.

Completely agree with you I have a severely autistic teen who has gone for someone's hair on occasions
But im ultra vigilant becsuse i fully aware of his challenging behaviour
He doesn't understand the impact of his actions but I do.

100% agree on this one. If i had an expensive to fix car you can be damned sure id be driving it like it was made of glass 🤣

The autism spectrum is now to wide which means those who genuinely are autistic and need help cant get it. This is said as a mum of a teenager who displayed very obvious autistic traits from a toddler and was diagnosed early on by the NHS with autis, ADHD and ARFID. Kids with genuine ADHD rarely are badly behaved but to many parents state "i think my child has ADHD" whilst ignoring awful behaviour, failing to set boundaries, rules and letting there kids play hours of online games.

All migrants should be placed in offshore camps until they are fully vetted and approved for asylum. We cannot sustain the influx of them and needing a better vetting process.

I don't have any problem with school uniform but the way it can implemented and policed enrages me. I'm in Scotland and I don't think we generally have the same issues, and while my daughter's school lacks in some ways, I'm totally on board with their uniform policy which is - as long as you're wearing school colours and your clothes are appropriate, that's all that matters. Most kids wear polos, leggings, tracksuit bottoms, cargos, shorts in the summer, and trainers. Some kids like wearing the smarter options and the blazers and the gingham summer dresses, my daughter is fond of a crisp white shirt - it's all good. You're only really getting a call home if there's something inappropriate like crocs on your feet. It's nice because they are all able to be a bit more expressive and make their own choices without having a total free for all. The high school is a bit more strict but follows the same basic principles.

I used to think Reformer Pilates was a cult. Now I've been sucked in I KNOW it's a cult.

Your post is so full of rubbish. Schools don’t ’recommend’ a diagnosis at all, they may however, recommend an assessment. There is huge benefit to having a diagnosis, and the diagnosis itself is not just to get exam access arrangements 🙄 They bring up the need for assessment if the child is struggling with various aspects, not just exams/work 🙄

People who pay actual money to make their cars loudly pop and bang are fucking antisocial losers who need to get a life.

People who vape are grim.

It seems a bit mad to send children into something for the entire day with stiff uncomfortable shoes and a big blazer doesn't it?! Why on earth wouldn't the default be comfort.

Agreed. Along with those who say something boils their piss. Vulgar and repulsive.

Tom's shoes,especially on men. Makes me think of sweaty meat and two veg packed into girly pumps Bleurgh

Dogs do not belong in restaurants OR pubs.

Sorry you had that experience

My dd is autistic and pre verbal. She has no business being forced into an unsuitable school 🤷‍♀️

me too, I love my Picanto ,

70 mpg too

That's just not true though. Prince Phillip and the Queen were both very attractive when they were younger. Princess Margaret was beautiful. Andrew was very handsome too, if you just look at appearances. I admit the siblings weren't that attractive especially Charles but I think Princess Anne could have scrubbed up well if she had been interested enough.