Thanks for all your opinions.
I should have said .. he does do the dishes each night, we dont have a dish washer, so he washes and his sister dries and puts away. Hes meant to clean his own room and take responsibilityfor it. Not to my standards, but we cant have everything lol.
I used to pay for his haircut at the local hairdressers every 6 weeks or so, but he didnt like going there (mostly ladies and not done to his standards lol) so he now goes to a barber in town, which he pays for himself as its more expensive than what i used to pay so I told him, my hairdresser or pay for yourself lol. So he pays that himself.
We do pay car insurance on my husbands car so he can get extra lessons with us.
He does save at least £100-£150 (sometimes more, depending on whats going on that week) every week as he wants to buy his own car when he passes his test and has near on £6k in savings ready for it.
The £300 per week IS take home pay after tax and NI, he earns as much as me lol.
There are no bus routes where he works, he does roofing and travels in the van with older boys to his jobs, then its back to the yard, and I lift him from there each night. If I made him walk to bus route & get a bus home, he wouldn't be home till at least 7pm each evening. He gets up at 6am everyday to get to work (he gets a lift) so being out until 7pm i feel is too much. I complained I guess because there is no offer of diesel money, or any proper thanks as I work too and when I get home, im tired, but have to get tea on and he usually phones for that lift, in middle of me making it. Husband sometimes lifts him if he is home around the same time, but its mostly me.
The netflix, internet & things like that are paid for everyone in the house, Spotify is in a family plan which ive just cancelled as its gone up to £22 per mth, a bill i dont need just to play music without ads. This didnt go down well as now most of his music he cant play due to too many ads etc ... ive told him if he wants unlimited play, he needs an account to pay himself.
The more I write here the more im thinking that he's not that bad a teenager tbh. Yes we get the usual stuff (found a vape in his room, couple of empty cans of larger etc) staying out later than he's meant to, but thats teenage stuff. We have talked to him about alcohol and drug taking, and we allow him to drink when he goes out, but we do advise it too mych etc) we kinda thought that allowing him would be a better approach rather than him hiding it, coming home hammered and getting into trouble.
I do feel however he should be paying for his own mobile phone contract and his own gym membership. The gym membership started because he stopped playing football. He used to play for local team and we paid his membership at £30 a mth, he asked that we pay same amt for gym as he wud rather go there than play football.
He was still in school at the time, so we agreed, but this has been going on now since he left in June last year.
Had another chat with hubby about this (bear in mind, its not me that pays his phone & membership its my hubby) and he now agrees that when he turns 18 that we need to have another think about these extras. Hopefully by then he will have passed his test, git himself a car and will realise they are not cheap to run either ... at least I wont have to run around aftet him and save some money (and time) myself .... but then i'll be worrying that he's driving himself about 🙄🤷♀️ lol.