To be annoyed by the volume of deleted comments which are merely mildly provocative or robustly stating an opposing opinion, rather than being unacceptably rude or offensive?

[auserna]

NOT a TAAT.

Does anyone else find it highly irritating when threads end up having more holes than Swiss cheese due to so many posts having been deleted?

Much of the time the person at whom the contentious comment was aimed has replied (obviously before the deletion) in a manner that suggests they weren't in the least offended or bothered by it - but now you can no longer see what they were responding to.

It sometimes feels a bit like being back at school, with everyone running to the teacher and gleefully exclaiming, "Reported!" as if they're going to earn a gold star for doing so.

It's not actually injurious to one's health to be mildly ruffled by someone having a different opinion or viewpoint on a particular topic, as happens all the time in real life.

I may be an outlier here, and am happy to accept that if it's the case, but I'm curious to know how others feel.

Pretty much. MN moderation relies on posts being reported. If you or your post are unpopular, that's bad news.

@Bagsintheboot that makes more sense so thank you. I would have thought that the moderation would be better tbh.

Will no one think of the sponsors.

I’ve definitely learnt that you are very unpopular on the Royal board if you don’t think Meghan is quite as bad as Satan 😆

Justine has posted recently about wanting MNHQ to deal (better) with unpleasant and nasty posts on MN, accepting that the 'tone' - for want of a better word - has changed for the worse over the last few years.

Is that just lip service though?

People are so offended by everything nowadays aren’t they?
Ive had comments deleted that weren’t in any way offensive, simply stating an opposing view to someone else. Seems some people have to silence others when they disagree with them.

Not sure which comments you're referring to @auserna but I haven't seen any deleted unless they have been rude, and insulting to the OP. (Or racist, bigoted, or just plain nasty.) Also, when you click 'report' now there is an option that says 'unnecessarily rude and aggressive' (or something similar,) so that could be making a few more comments disappear...

Well, she's not QUITE as bad as him! 😆

I think it is an old term for a person with fairly serious learning disabilities. It’s a slur. Calling someone a “moron” is about as offensive as calling them a “spastic” (widely used in my junior school in the 1980s, now considered an awful thing to say).

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway you will get hate messages now 😆

Tha'ts ridiculous.
A recent one calling me nasty and vile, by someone who had nothing to say about the topic, just me...was allowed to stay.

A further comment aimed at me by the same poster, was deleted, and I had no idea what the content was.

Well, no, I don't think so. If you click on the report button, you'll now seen an option for 'aggressive and unhelpful'.

@Dontlletmedownbruce

Doesn't that mean that MN isn't actually moderating it's site at all? Just removing individual posts at the request of other individuals.

MN is too large a site, with too many daily posts, to be pre-moderated. So it's only posts (or threads) that get reported to them, that are reviewed. And they'll never delete just because another poster has asked them to!

@BIWI I haven’t noticed any difference, so many posters are just deliberately contrary to the OP.

It’s typical MNs that an OP will start a thread about a disagreement but because she has mentioned dinner or the time she ate dinner posters will ignore the actual disagreement and focus on the word supper vs dinner or be outraged at the time the OP had said dinner.

I read elsewhere on MN recently that MNHQ have got some new, (young) mods who are rumoured to be of the “woke” variety…. How true this is though, is anyone’s guess.
I will say though, MN is a lot nastier these days than it used to be. I daren’t post a thread now and I actually have 2 current conundrums I could really use advice on.
My theory, is that a lot of the Gen Z generation haven’t been taught by their parents/guardians, that it’s ok if other people have a differing opinion on something; Even if it’s a contentious or controversial topic. It doesn’t mean it’s a personal attack on you, you don’t need to fight them over it, just agree to disagree or don’t say anything at all! - This to me is very worrying and doesn’t bode well for the future of society. I made sure my 11yr old knows & understands this but she regularly says that her peers in class constantly “take offence” whenever she says something they disagree with. Must be exhausting..

I read elsewhere on MN recently that MNHQ have got some new, (young) mods who are rumoured to be of the “woke” variety….

What does this even mean?!

Yes I did. Never heard back and it's still there now!

My theory, is that a lot of the Gen Z generation haven’t been taught by their parents/guardians, that it’s ok if other people have a differing opinion on something;

Gen Z’s are not using MNs! Look at the references to things like favourite movie, do you remember etc. I would say the average user is in their 50s/60s

And how old are these parents of Gen Z? Ah, yes - 40s-50s. So the blame therein lies with our elders.

I think the tone of people in general has become more unpleasant everywhere and is amplified with people hiding behind keyboards.

YANBU. The moderation on here is really poor.

No it’s particularly bad on here and doesn’t fulfil the remit of being a supportive parenting site any more.

When it first started all were welcome, now if you have kids with SEND, disabilities, ND or are on benefits or not white it’s clear this isn’t the place to be. It can be appallingly vile.

you've misunderstood, I think.

What have I misunderstood?
My view was unless the OP could actually remember the comment that was deleted how could she say whether it was offensive or just a differing view point.

I'm with you, OP.

I’ve noticed exactly the same thing, ie the OP responds to a deleted post in a perfectly normal, rational manner. It leads me to believe that many deleted posts are unlikely to cause offence. That’s what the OP is saying. Not that thy remember what’s being said, nor that they are the poster. I appreciate you’re saying we can’t know this for sure as we can’t see deleted posts but I’m sure you understand how the OP of this thread might have deduced this.