Nothing for Mothers Day (first as a single parent)

[BattyBurg]

It’s Mothers Day tomorrow and I have a bad feeling that I’m not going to get anything this year. I’ve celebrated today with my mum, dad DC. Done a buffet and baked a cake and we all had a nice day. I had hoped to see my teen tomorrow but he’s doing stuff with his mates all day which is fine but it looks like nothing has been organised with Ex, no cards though the post, teen didn’t come down with a card or anything today and my youngest wouldn’t be able to organise anything himself apart from a card in school.

AIBU to have expected ex to have organised something? Sent a little something through the post or a card etc?

For those of you who are separated, does your ex organise anything on Mother’s Day?

Gosh, I’m sorry but I would never in a million years expect an ex to organise something for Mother’s Day! Your teen might surprise you but if not, treat yourself.

It would be nice if your ex had organised something but amongst my single parent friends there is only one who’s ex does do this, the others don’t.

If teen is old enough to be out all day with mates then they are old enough to have sorted something for you though.

Very unlikely for an ex to do something. Most of them cannot manage to do something even when they are not an ex. I would be disappointed that the teen is old enough to go out with mates all day, but not capable of sorting out a card and some chocolates or flowers.

No, my ex has never done anything (well other than the first year split when he was hoping I'd have him back...). My DC is small but has made cards at nursery and I'll be happy with that.
I'd expect a teen to be able to get you at least a card with their own initiative though.

Yes, YABU. He’s an ex. You don’t need to do anything for him for Father’s Day, either.

He’s your ex. It’s not his responsibility.

Take dc to a shop. Give them some money and let them pick something themselves. Thats what I used to do when dh was away for months at a time.

Yeah perhaps he will surprise me yet! We officially celebrated today with my mum so I didn’t pressure teen to do much tomorrow but I card would be nice. Ex is normally good when it comes to cards on my birthday or Christmas from the kids so it’s surprising that nothings been done this year.

Your teen could've and may have organised something even just a card, would your parents have nudged him?

Why would your teen come down with a card today though?

See, I will always plan to sort something for Fathers Day and get the kids to make something etc. We are newly separated and this is the first Mother’s Day, we haven’t had Father’s Day yet.

My ex doesn't, barely did when we were together as I wasn't his mum 🙄My DPs ex messages him with presents for him to buy from the kids. I'd never.

My parents aren’t the type to get involved in things like that, I think I just assumed ex would have sorted something especially from our youngest. There’s still time but I’ve got DS homemade card from school which is always very cute 💕

We don't do mother/fathers day in our family so maybe different view of it, but I wouldn't expect another adult to organise something on behalf of a child. Even if you do buy into celebrating it what is the point if it's been artificially produced by someone other than your child?

Children tend to make cards at school if they are not capable of organising something themselves.

But its not mothers day yet?

No I don’t really think the norm is for an ex to plan your Mother’s Day.

Mothers days tomorrow not today, they might surprise you.

This is the first year my DH is to disabled to organise me something and I’m feeling really sad about that but I know it’s nonsense and selfish really. My 11 year old told me out the blue to not worry about it the other day and that he’s got it sorted 😂🤣 to be honest that fills me with horror but we’ll see!

No. I don’t think you are. A fucking card from your son to the mother of your child is basic manners your ex clealy lacks!

Your parents aren't the sort to get involved in things like that yet you've had food etc today for Mother's Day? I'd really expect grandparents to get their finger out and organise things for you from your dc, not an ex.

I take my son to the shop - he picks a card . I pay for it . He gives it to me on the day .

same for birthdays and Christmas .

You need to take some action if you want things to happen , rather than just complaining about it .

Good luck! 🤣 Keep us posted! It reminds me of when my (then) toddler said he had got me a drink - he was determined I drink it, he said it was very special (I pretended to drink it) he then laughed and said it was toilet water 🤢 🤣

I dont get anything😄

But I bought myself some flowers and I might do myself a nice dinner while dd has her French fries

That’s the best idea ✅ I think it’s cos when we were together ex always organised everything so now I’ll have to take the initiative. Had a lovely day anyway with lots of cake so can’t complain too much 😀

no i dont get gifts from my ex for Mother’s Day and never have, your teen is old enough more than old enough actually