Nothing for Mothers Day (first as a single parent)

[BattyBurg]

It’s Mothers Day tomorrow and I have a bad feeling that I’m not going to get anything this year. I’ve celebrated today with my mum, dad DC. Done a buffet and baked a cake and we all had a nice day. I had hoped to see my teen tomorrow but he’s doing stuff with his mates all day which is fine but it looks like nothing has been organised with Ex, no cards though the post, teen didn’t come down with a card or anything today and my youngest wouldn’t be able to organise anything himself apart from a card in school.

AIBU to have expected ex to have organised something? Sent a little something through the post or a card etc?

For those of you who are separated, does your ex organise anything on Mother’s Day?

First year no as was 2/3w after I kicked him out and he said not together anymore and no Money

dd 6 very upset and my friend took her to get stuff few days before bless her

last year - nothing but Dd knew the drill lol - asked to go beg of March so I took her and stayed other end of shop so didn’t see what she got

this year same. Dd now 8 was so thoughtful with gifts that she choose by self

tho ex did give a card in it today with money in it which suprised me

im amazed how many say ex shouldn’t do as an ex. It’s not for them. It’s for the kids who want to

I always get something for him as dd wants to get him stuff and that’s fine as he’s her dad

I think under 5 - parents should regardless of together

at school they make a card there and old enough to say can we get something

secondary school /teens etc old enlighten to do theirselves

if can go out with friends , the can organise a card /flowers etc

I think it’s good you have mentioned it today and hopefully in future he will step up. I have mentioned similar things in the past and it goes in one ear and out the other. This is one of many things that are hard for us as single mums, that no one understands unless they have been through similar. We are supposed to do more and be happy with far less recognition. Meanwhile there are other threads with people upset about bought sandwiches instead of homemade. People say that older kids are capable of doing it themselves, I mean my 11yo may be capable of walking into a shop and buying a card and flowers, but he still needs to be driven to a shop (we have none selling flowers for example within walking distance) and handed the money to do so! They don’t do cards in y6 either as they are too busy prepping for SATS and if they did them in schools that’s hard for kids who don’t have a mum in their lives. I hope your next Mother’s Day is better.

But that's on you if you want to go out of your way to celebrate Father's day. Doesn't seem reasonable to impinge your expectations on your ex. It's your son who should be more thoughtful.

The first year my sis was a single Mom, we stepped up. I brought the kids something little (wasn't in a position to take them shopping) so I just too them to the loo in the pub, gave them wrapped gifts and sent them out to their Mom. Same for her birthday. I honestly wouldn't have expected the ex to, even if I think it's a decent thing to do for the kdis if not their Mom

I would say it is an ex's responsibility to be a good parent and remind your mutual child to show respect and kindness to their mother tbh.. agreed not many do but they bloody should!!

My ex didn’t organise anything for Mother’s Day even when we together. If you separated on reasonable terms I would expect him to remind snd help them but otherwise, no.