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AIBU to think my husband‘s attitude is really mean

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Hayfield123 · 12/03/2026 09:39

Would you give up your time to be a witness at a strangers wedding? Husband and I were chatting to a couple the other day who are getting married, but they haven’t told any of their friends and family and they’re hoping to get to strangers off the street to be witnesses. My husband said that they’ll never find anybody, they said they were going to go to the local pub and find some people that were sitting there and just ask them if they would do it. I said if I had the time I would absolutely do it he said he wouldn’t. He said if he was sitting there having a drink with his friend, he wouldn’t want to be disturbed. I think that’s really mean.

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QuintadosMalvados · 13/03/2026 06:59

Springisspringingnow · 12/03/2026 10:12

I agree that this isn't it an an unusual request.
I wonder if some of the pp who think it's strange have been conditioned by the modern trend for marriages being the ultimate stage managed, multi thousand extravaganza where everything, including the witnesses have been organised to the ninth degree. Therefore they can't comprehend a situation where some people just want to get exchange vows and the witnesses are a legal formality.

Not me. I had an extremely basic wedding but I still made sure there were witnesses for the day.
In fact, if people do only see it as a legal formality you're going to be more organised about such things, not less.
Like I said I'd be OK with it if at a loose end, I would, however think Jeez how disorganised are these people. Lol.

CurlewKate · 13/03/2026 06:59

I’d do it like a shot. It would be fun!

Zanatdy · 13/03/2026 16:31

I definitely would

Witnesses · 13/03/2026 17:51

QuintadosMalvados · 13/03/2026 06:46

I wouldn't fear any repercussions for myself from it and I might do it if at a loose end, I would, however, think the couple were truly unorganised people unless there was a real urgency to the marriage.
I mean crikey what a risk to take, what if nobody said yes?

If everyone says no we are planning on calling for two taxis to wait to take us back - so they can be the back up witnesses 🤣

We're driving 9 hours to the wedding location so we can't really ask a friend!

CurlewKate · 14/03/2026 20:35

gannett · 12/03/2026 09:55

That would really be your first thought?

Is thinking the worst possible thing about other people a habit you have in the rest of your life?

Have you MET Mumsnetters??😂

19lottie82 · 14/03/2026 20:44

When I got married we had to register our witnesses in advance.

openall · 14/03/2026 20:48

Wasn't someone on Mumsnet asking for two witnesses to her wedding for the end of this month?

CinnamonBuns67 · 14/03/2026 22:46

I'd not take the time out my day for it either, it's not mean to not want to do something especially for someone you don't know.

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