To have a shower while a contractor works at our home?

[FryingPam]

Husband also at home, me fully dressed into the bathroom, lock the door, shower, coming fully dressed out of the bathroom again. DH thinks this would be very weird and make the contractor feel uncomfortable.

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Not really. Just some nephews and nieces (children) on occasion.

Heavens, maybe your husband could sit in the loo and act as a chaperone? Has he also dressed you to cover your wrists and collar bones lest the tradie gets any more fanciful thoughts?

Sometimes a thread comes along on MN that reminds me how differently everyone's brains work.

It wouldn't occur to me to even think this was an issue, or never shower when men are in the house?? Very odd to me.

People who do think that way- why don't you? What do you think is going to happen?

He's a stinky husband and a bit daft @FryingPam worry ye not 🌻

Same here 😂

Of course it’s not weird and why should he feel uncomfortable? you are getting dressed in the bathroom not parading around in just a towel. Personally I wouldn’t be showering if I was alone in the house, especially as our bathroom is downstairs without a lock - but that’s not your situation. So take your shower (which I assume you already have as it’s now 10.30).

No one has quite been able to account for it. Various mutterings about being 'at your most vulnerable' in the bathroom, though presumably if the tradesmen involved were in fact given to sexually assaulting clients, it wouldn't make much difference whether the client was fully dressed in the kitchen or unclad in the bathroom?

I wouldn't feel vulnerable (though others might have said that).
They might want something/to ask a question.
They might do something I wasn't happy about. I've had contractors trail mud into my house and trample flowers.
I wouldn't watch them like a hawk, but I can't relax while they're in here because of those things.

I don’t think anything is going to happen.

For me it would feel awkward and uncomfortable, that’s why I wouldn’t do it.
It would feel odd socially if the bathroom wasn’t in a different part of the house (in which case I’d have no issue). I wouldn’t be suspecting the men of anything btw, this would be purely because I’d feel uncomfortable.

I’m very used to men being around for what it’s worth. I’m the only woman in a house of six (adults and teens) but they’re all family, which is different.

Ha this is funny. Dread to think how badly your DH would stink during a long-term project! Our extension took 9 months, definitely showered with the builders around.

I mean, they’re hardly there day and night though?

I'd shower & walk from the bathroom to my bedroom with a towel around me.

This is what I don't understand. People are just saying they'd 'feel uncomfortable' but nobody seems to be able to say why they feel uncomfortable having a shower in a locked room.

But OP’s husband is at home as well. He can keep an eye.

Is going to the toilet ok when a tradesperson is in the house?!

But surely you just tell them you're taking a shower and is there anything they need to know in advance, otherwise they're going to have to wait fifteen minutes or so -- the same way as you would if you were taking a call or going onto a Teams meeting? And you tell them to wear shoe covers or to be careful not to stamp on the begonias? Are you saying that any time you have workmen in, you hover about all the time? What about work?

I worked largely from home during a recent renovation, but my study is up at the top of the house. I would see them first thing, and any time I came down to make a cup of coffee or eat, but otherwise they would phone me if they needed to ask or for me to approve or check something.

The contractor will be used to people carrying on with their lives around him while he is working. Your husband sounds overinvested in what other people might conceivably think.

So you're going into a room fully dressed, and coming back out of it fully dressed, I don't have a clue why anyone would find a problem with this.

I've done a couple of houses up while living in them, so have had no choice but to get on with my day, and nobody has given a shiny shite.

Contractors are humans. What does your DH think will happen if the contractor can hear the shower running? Can he explain why this is a problem? Is he usually this Victorian?

In OP's case, but I was replying to a PP who was asking a general question.

I never have but that’s because I wouldn’t feel comfortable. I dry myself in the bathroom but get dressed in the bedroom so would feel weird walking past him in my robe. I also always think they will have a question as soon as I go in the shower. But if your husband is there to answer anything that comes up then I don’t think it’s a problem.

No, I don't hover about all the time.
I feel like doing that but I stop myself.

We had our house fully renovated whilst living in it for about 9 months. I had a team on contractors here from 7:30 every morning. It would have been a nightmare if we couldn’t go about our lives, showering, using the bathrooms etc whilst they were in the house.

Your DH is being weird. Contractors have seen it all. They are just focused on getting the job done as quickly as possible. Not fretting about a woman being naked in a locked room nextdoor.

I've had this exact scenario - only time I could get a run in was when a tradesman was here, and I'm way too sweaty afterwards to go about the rest of my day unshowered.

Didn't cross my mind that it would be an issue. And DP wasn't even there. And I didn't even come out of the bathroom fully dressed. (In a towel, bedroom next to bathroom, tradesman on a different floor.)