When I'm distressed I talk about my feelings alot

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I've been told I'm a pain in the ass when I'm upset I talk about my feelings alot

The best thing we can do is not engage. She’s not in a particularly stable state of mind at the moment and is misconstruing our remarks, and so Im concerned we might inadvertently make things worse.

Can't you see that you completely dismissed his feelings because you wanted him to feel something for you that he doesn't. He was telling you loud and clear that your relationship was over and you just kept at him, thats not healthy.
Even now over a year afterwards you are still badgering him and going on about what you want and how you feel.
It really does sound as if your marriage ended because you couldn't stop talking about your feelings and going over and over and over it again. You say your angry because he just stopped loving you but it wasn't sudden it was a death of a thousand cuts, everytime you started on about your "trauma" it will have killed his live for you a little bit more.
Your friend Debbie has depression and you've stopped talking to her, what does mean have you ghosted her or have you just stopped talking about your problems? Do you ever let her talk about her feelings, do you support her at all?
The sad fact is that everyone in real life are saying the same thing as most of the posters on here but you wont listen, you need to stop talking about it and move on (yes i know easier said than done) with the right psychiatric help whether thats cbt, dbt or some other type of therapy. When everyone is telling you the same thing they are telling you the truth and you really need to listen and stop painting yourself as the victim because you aren't, you are the master of your own misery

Good point. Will hide post now.

I'm not saying I am a victim as I keep saying I already felt bad that's why I posted for support I don't need judgement im AlReady trying to talk alot less about my feelings that's all I can do I keep saying I have a Councillor and talk to helplines I can't change the past I don't talk to bebbie about my feelings problem s as she is depressed she says she can't handle it so I just speak about light things I try not to with my mum and everyone else I didnt realise I was doing it I've alpologed several times to people im not saying I'm a victim

what does support look like to you?

You’ve had so much advice on this thread and the others you have started. You choose not to engage and so I’m not sure what you want here. You need to seek real life support.

I just wanted to feel better have some understanding!!! I feel traumatised by my marriage ending I've always spoken alot to him about things, that's who I am I had a lot to say as I said we were fine, then I spoke to a friend she went behind my back and said everything to someone else who told him then he said he didn't love me ,anymore then the love didn't didn't come back

we were in a tent I said I wanted the good times back he said you ruined the time in the tent he pushed me out the tent I went to jenny who called him a narc I spoke alot about things as I was every emotional over him saying he didn't love me I was off my anti depressant tablets it made me more emotional I couldn't help it I have taken advice I'm not talking to people so much and and only spoken to a councilor I don't know what else to say

You need to stop talking to your ex about your trauma from the relationship. The person who hurt you can't help you or heal you.

I just said i try not to overload peolpe im not trying to use them as unpaid counclors

I don't mean to sound annoying it's a habit I'd got in to as I was upset I couldn't help it