What is considered rich these days??

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So my husband and I live a pretty decent life but not one that warrants being called ‘financially out of touch’ and ‘how the other half live’ in my opinion which is just a couple of example of my sil many comments towards us.

My husband earns around £250k a year, I don’t have to work so don’t. We live in a nice 4 bedroom detached house with a lovely sized wrap around garden. We’re lucky enough to send our children to private school. We don’t go on extravagant holidays or wear high end designer clothes etc. We both drive Range Rovers but one is second hand (5 years old). And bottom line we have worked really hard to be where we are but don’t consider ourselves ‘Rich’ more so comfortable that we can live a modest life without financial restraints

it really bugs me when she says stuff like ‘you wouldn’t know what it’s like to budget’ and ‘it’s alright for some’ etc. I do budget monthly and am very much aware of how much things costs etc

Am I being unreasonable in this situation?

Why do you call everyone dim?
Why not be supportive?
or at least be respectful with your comments

You claim to be a barrister but you’re coming across very uneducated

Yep

Boring now.

Are you calling her a liar?

posters are always blaming all the usual barriers to social mobility to justify their situation,

harder to do when it's between siblings, but it's always easier to find excuses and blame everybody else isn't it.

I do find these comments odd though particularly on mumsnet... smacks of jealousy, given we are all aware of the load women hold whether children, household or otherwise.

Why should someone be supportive of an ableist and unpleasant, and yes, dim, take?

Your posts do amuse me

Put it this way, your after tax take home pay is more than a "set for life" jackpot lottery win...

Yes you are very wealthy. You can afford to send 2 children to private school on one salary for a start. I came from a working class background and feel very privileged and comfortable with a joint £80k (before tax) salary and that I can afford to work part time while DC is small, (we also have post grad degrees) how did you come from working class backgrounds and not recognise how incredibly privileged you are?

Did you come out of uni and just hit the ground running into lucrative careers perhaps and never experience any of your adult life on a tiny budget? That's the only way I can phathom you might be so out of touch. We spent many years genuinely penniless in our early 20s trying to establish our careers before we started earning enough to start a savings account for a housing deposit. After we got on the housing ladder life started getting more comfortable in our 30s.

The point is her post is all about money but she isn’t bringing in the money and bragging about her husband who does. It’s uncouth.

I didn't call him/her dim, just said it was a dim take.

Do you agree with PP that all siblings have exactly equal earning capacities? I think that's such a silly opinion that I was struggling to find a nice word to describe it. I guess in court I might say it's a "rather surprising submission", not a "dim take".

No. Read your words. I've reacted to exactly what you wrote.

You have a really odd passive-aggressive style of communication.

Haha "rather surprising submission" made me laugh, in the same way I used to say something was "a remarkable coincidence" 😂

You are being unfair, because you know that wasn't where the comparaison was.

It's still true that many families who could at a push chose private education decide not to. Not saying they're wrong (and in many cases I believe they are right frankly.)

but it's absolutely true that some families prioritise education and others don't.

How many also decide to buy a house based on the school catchment and only based on the school catchment? Same thing. No one is saying everyone can afford to do that either.

I don’t agree with it. I also didn’t shut her down.
I read between the lines that she was referring to siblings with similar abilities.

I have two children who are very different and know they will not have the same opportunities in life regardless of being brought up in the same home.

I just don’t get the argumentative and judgemental vibes from your posts.

It's almost like they are tyrying to annoy and irritate people

I'm now imagining being the plain, clumsy and short little sister of some gorgeous supermodel and trying my hardest to set up my successful plumbing business because the fate of our birth means I'm destined to match her multi million quid income 😂

We do need the laughing emoji back.

And, now, sadly, I do need to try to sleep or I'll be a complete useless heap tomorrow.

Goodnight all.

Except the OP's s-i-l who I hope is on a deservedly lumpy mattress!

Humble brag!

😂

"Certainly an... interesting interpretation" (raised eyebrow to the judge)

It's all relative. I wouldn't consider 250k rich now but I do remember a time when I thought 100k would be an amazing salary.

Not even humble, just nouveau riche crassness,

we were talking about school and family support, but never mind, it can be hard to keep up for some 😂

Yeah but if her dh earned 35k would posters say the same?
As per my previous post yes I think they- the couple - are out if touch or missing the point with the family comments. But still.

Regardless of class. Some people don’t prioritise education. That’s a fact.
There are plenty of very wealthy uneducated people in the world. That is also a fact.

It is absolutely awful that some families live in such conditions and I wish with all my heart that no one had to live in poverty and have to choose between food or warm. Basic needs being met should never be a compromise.

I felt your post was coming from a place of anger in which I didn’t want to engage as that was not what I came here for. I have posted here many times and everytime there are a handful of people who just want to be rude and accusatory and ridicule and look for an argument which I refuse to engage with hence my short response to you

Apologies for any confusion on my part