What is considered rich these days??

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So my husband and I live a pretty decent life but not one that warrants being called ‘financially out of touch’ and ‘how the other half live’ in my opinion which is just a couple of example of my sil many comments towards us.

My husband earns around £250k a year, I don’t have to work so don’t. We live in a nice 4 bedroom detached house with a lovely sized wrap around garden. We’re lucky enough to send our children to private school. We don’t go on extravagant holidays or wear high end designer clothes etc. We both drive Range Rovers but one is second hand (5 years old). And bottom line we have worked really hard to be where we are but don’t consider ourselves ‘Rich’ more so comfortable that we can live a modest life without financial restraints

it really bugs me when she says stuff like ‘you wouldn’t know what it’s like to budget’ and ‘it’s alright for some’ etc. I do budget monthly and am very much aware of how much things costs etc

Am I being unreasonable in this situation?

Grads I know usually start on £30k

Every line of your post scream “out of touch”. You have a faaaar above average lifestyle and you don’t work so please Ty leisure time as well. Money & time is literally the definition of privilege.

“We have worked really hard…..” says the woman with no job relying on her husbands wage. Let’s hope there’s enough to go round in the divorce

Isn't a marriage a partnership?

Your sister is going to keep pointing out you are rich until you finally admit it!

You are rich, and if you do not realise that you are completely out of touch. Think SiL is fair, probably resisted commenting for some time

Earning lots of money isn't all about hard work and there IS a lot of luck involved. I believe that to qualify as a barrister you need a strong sense of self belief and confidence which will usually stem from a supportive family background. Studying to the required level is easier if you're fit and healthy. Not impossible, of course, if you're not - but illness and disability are added challenges in life. Above all you need a very good brain and memory, which is genetics.
It's disingenuous to state that your DH's enormous salary is simply the result of hard work. Luck comes in all shapes and sizes.

Luck doesn't negate hard work. So it's "luck" to believe in yourself? And "luck" to not be disabled? Being disabled is unfortunate but most people are able bodied? Genetics are not destiny. With school and studying all you need to do (bar massive LD/sen) is just knuckle down and put pen to paper.

although..he isn't a barrister

Oh it must have been someone else. Oops

OP didn’t say she’s never worked!
she’s clearly worked hard before having children and now chooses not too because she doesn’t need to.

If you won the lottery would you still work?

There’s a massive difference between ‘working hard’ in the context of working long hours, physically demanding, few days off etc to ‘working hard’ when someone has worked to get themselves out of poverty and within a different class bracket financially. They have gone against the grain and achieved things that weren’t expected of them - that’s working hard and is very commendable

I always have such respect for people that go against the odds and don’t accept what’s been given to them in life. They fight for more! Well done OP and your husband. It’s impressive you’ve both come from working backgrounds and worked hard to better yourselves.

As do the SIL - it’s a simple thing called JEALOUSLY - rise above and ignore her

Oh god, if one of the Range Rovers has to be second hand I think you qualify for some benefits. The form is a IM0UT-0FT0UCH

I don't personally consider £250k a year single income for a family as 'rich', no. Well off, but not rich. Others will disagree with that because it's relative.

If your SIL is rude, then she's rude, full stop – doesn't have to be entwined with your money.

The 'working hard' comment is off, yes, because you must clearly know that many people work as hard as your husband and don't and can't earn this salary – there simply aren't enough jobs at this level available to everyone 'working hard'. Also YOU have not worked hard – you don't work. And the things you do work hard at (parenting) aren't earning, so there's no point coupling the two together as a description.

You say you view luck as 'winning the lottery'. Is your husband a white man? That's all the luck he needs.

Make your mind up - most mums netters say that all income is joint and belongs to both people. He gets his childcare free then !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!