…to want my cake tin back?!

[GimmeMyCakeTin]

DH made a cake a while ago that he took to his sister’s, in the baking tin 🙄 he left the tin there. I then went to make a cake a few weeks later and couldn’t find the tin anywhere, which was very irritating as I was mid way through baking. Realised what had happened, and that he’d obviously left it at his sister’s. It’s a 20cm cake tin, but a good quality one.

Anyway, he met up with his sister yesterday and she gave him the tin back - but it’s not my one! It’s a cheap poundland one! Just thin aluminium, not my nice thick one.

Is it ridiculously petty to ask for mine back? It’s the same size, so I can imagine it would look petty. But not all cake tins are created equal! Maybe I am being unreasonably irritated about this. What would you do? Would you accept the tin with a smile? Would you say something? Am I being unreasonable?

I'm sorry that she did that. Sadly you can't replace your Grans one, but yeah I'd give that one to the charity shop, & buy yourself a nice one in memory of your Gran 🌷

Do they live far away? If not I'd engineering this 'next time' PDQ!

If they'd ridicule you in the family group chat I'd be distancing myself .

Does she have fifty, then? 🙄

I want brand names for brilliant cake tins.
I have only one I like at the moment and want to palm off the panic buy thin ones on my going to uni daughters.

Bonkers 😂
I don’t know the OP’s name so I used a cake-related one. My text message suggestion was just a quick example for how I think man might ask his sister for his wife’s cake tin back….

Yes it was bonkers that you'd reply like that

🙄 anyone for fruitcake?

This is a DH problem. I’d simply say to him “that’s not my cake tin, if you don’t get mine back you need to buy me a new one exactly the same”.

He doesn’t give a shit about your cake tin but if he loved and respected you then YOU wanting your cake tin back is all that should matter.

The only embarrassing aspect to this is how useless your DH is being, he needs to sort it.

I’d be making sure that your idiot husband went and fucking got it and didn’t come home again unless it was with the same tin. Then he’d understand the cost and pain in the arse factor and would not do it again.

DH said tell your husband that if you lend his Audi and get back a Skoda how impressed would he be.

Im beginning to realise why I am always skint.

I would have just bought a new one and impressed upon DH not to repeat the scenario.

This isn’t a big deal, just send a text saying “sorry, I think you mixed the tins up, this one isn’t mine! Could you find mine and I’ll bring this one round so we can swap”.

That's just rubbish that she's spinning you. The very first thing you do whenever somebody gives you food in a tub/tin of theirs is to make a mental note that it's theirs and that you will need to get it back to them. You don't just put it in your cupboard with your own ones.

I've done it before when people have given me things in a used ice cream tub - made sure to offer it back to them, even though it's of very low value... because it's theirs and not mine.

Interesting if she is seeking to ridicule you for perfectly reasonably wanting your own belongings back, but not to seek ridicule for herself for trying to appropriate somebody else's quality cookware. Any normal person who admires the quality of a borrowed item would make a note of the brand/details and then look to buy an identical one for themselves after returning yours to you.

Did we end up with a brand recommendation at all? I am always on the lookout for improvements to the baking tin situation, particularly cupcake ones for some reason.

She knew what she was doing, I’ll say it again

I'm back for brand recommendations.
My Yorkshire puddings improved no end when my mum gave me her mystery make heavy weight tray.

If she has lots it’s quite possible she made a mistake so you are certainly not unreasonable to say she has unfortunately returned one that’s not yours.
But you really like yours because (reasons) and would like it back. And of course you will return hers too.

Mermaid is a very good make of extremely sturdy bakeware. It’s not cheap but it lasts and lasts. I’ve got a few tins and a baking tray I use virtually every day and it’s great.

Lakeland also make good cake tins and bakeware.

My personal favourite are Silverwood. They are very lightweight but indestructible. They are quite pricey but mine are 15 years old and showing minimal signs of wear.

https://www.silverwood-bakeware.com/collections/bakeware

You can buy American Pan on Amazon. The brand is touted as the American equivalent of Silverwood but I don't think they are anywhere near as good and they are just as expensive.

I have a Prestige muffin/cupcake pan which must be at least 20 years old and it's excellent. I don't know how much I paid for it or whether the quality is still the same today.

I hand wash all my bakeware to protect the finish and avoid warping so I can't comment on how well any of these brands hold up in the dishwasher.

I found the Prestige muffin pan on Amazon. The reviews say it's heavy duty which I would agree with. Currently on sale. There is a Yorkshire pudding tin in the same range.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Prestige-Inspire-Steel-Non-Stick-Muffin/dp/B009SP9XK6

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Oh, 100% SiL was being goady.
They all look alike? 🙄
I gave the cleanest one back. 🙄

When someone gives something in a tin/container, who doesn't clean it and put it aside to give back? And, really, just chuck it in the cupboard with 50 other similar pans and then say, Oh they all look alike. That just sounds stupid and untrue unless SiL has dementia or is nearly blind, in which case her excuses would be plausible. 🤔

Do you reckon the DH is blind or demented as he didn't notice he'd got the wrong tin either?

Also a possibility.