The amount of crap for Mother’s Day is getting worse each year

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PJs, vases, mugs, wall plaques, cushions - the crap is endless.

People feel ‘forced’ to buy this crap. I get told not to buy anything.

Plus it must be horrible for those who lost their DMs.

Mother’s Day is more busy than Father’s Day as based on my circle of friends and family- when they have only one parent, 90% of the time - it was their DM. A combination of non contact/never seen him and died.

I hated working at supermarket on the day before as it was rammed

‘Stuff’ is pretty cheap isn’t it? £4.99 for some tat from a supermarket display in place of something personal and thoughtful. Tempting for people to grab something that shows they remembered.
By personal and thoughtful I mean time and effort and words.
I have three grown DC and have demanded they buy nothing. Just cups of tea on demand and a big hug (they all still live at home).
But we’re all different. Some people’s love language is gifts.

It is weird having lost my mum but the ‘stuff’ doesn’t bother me as would never have bought any of it anyway. I know some people love shopping however useless and wasteful the outcome though.

I agree and it does just put pressure on people to buy stuff thats not needed at all.
I have always told mine that a relaxing day with random cups of tea suits me.
My dh always does a roast (my fave) and some dc now old enough to help alot.
One loves baking so makes something for everyone for after the roast.
But I don't expect any of this or mention it. The only thing I do expect or ask for is to try to be extra nice to each other for the day. So no she took my favourite top or he keeps winding me up .
I do get my mum flowers/chocs as she loves both but never buys herself them.

My mother died a year ago and all she ever wanted was a thoughtful card and daffodils. A meal cooked by one of us would have been a bonus.

I'm having my Mother's Day today because my DS will be away doing stuff on the "official" Day - this happens quite often over the years and doesn't bother me at all.

I love my Mother's Day because we go off together to somewhere that i get to chose: a beauty spot or a museum, or an art gallery or similar.. And we call in at a garden centre and he buys me a plant ior a shrub. Then we come home and eat together. And I just love spending a whole day together because he lives in a another city and we don't generally get to soend much time together. That's the important thing for me, not the gift.

I dont feel forced to buy the crap neither do they, why do people find no impossible

Just dont buy it no one is forced to the idea is ridiculous

I lost my mum 5 yrs ago and work in a supermarket. It doesn't bother me. My mum is with me every day. I'm a mum too but still always think of it as my Mums day.

As difficult as it is for people who have lost their mothers we shouldn’t dampen the celebration of others for that reason.
My DH lost his mum at 30 and would never begrudge seeing Mother’s Day things in shops.

I love mothers day because it's just very sweet. It's a nice little day where my DS makes me a little card and a bunch of daffodils and a nice lunch.

Hopefully we all lose our Mums, or we bury our children. So don't knock people celebrating how they see fit. The job of supermarkets is to sell stuff. You don't have to buy any of it. I like pink, so get bits because I change stuff in my bedroom seasonally. I asked my DD if she was going to buy from my GC, anyway. So I've chosen a chick with ears, from Home Bargains, to add a touch of whimsy to my Easter decorating. I got a lamb, with a flower headband last year.

It's awful. Just a load of landfill crap. I've said I don't want anything, except a nice dinner and hugs.

I'm not a fan of all the stuff, this year is the first DS who is almost 14 will be buying for me from his pocket money, I've said I'm more than happy with a bunch of Daffodils from Asda and a hug. We always go out to our fave restaurant for a meal.
I don't agree it should be watered down in supermarkets/shops in case of anyone who has lost theirs you could say that about any celebration.

The stuff you call tat is available because people want to buy it and do. If you don't want to then fair enough. I appreciate no one needs endless mum mugs and plaques and thankfully that isn't the sort of stuff I receive. There isn't a pressure to buy stuff just because it is there. My kids are little so will help dh choose a gift but he knows I don't like clutter so is aware of what to avoid.

Every occasion is filled with people on mumsnet saying they prefer a hug or a phone call and if that is you then fair play. I appreciate the day can look different when you have older kids or adult children but I disagree that effort shouldn't be made. I would never consider it a hassle to ring my mum to wish her a happy mother's day. I text my auntie too. I will pop in on my mother in law on the day or day before. So many mums always put the kids first and themselves at the bottom of the pile and it is never a bad thing to celebrate your mum. However I don't take my mum for granted and am never too busy to check in with a call or text and visit when I can.

My kids are little and I get hugs all the time, I enjoy them and hope that never stops. I do enjoy being celebrated for being their mum and whilst dh shows his appreciation for my parenting all the time it is nice to get a homemade card from the kids that I will keep. I enjoy getting flowers and having a meal out or cooked by dh. I do get a present and yes I enjoy it. Dh and i have also bought for both mums. They are wonderful women who deserve to be thought of well and celebrated. The biggest gift for me is taking the time and making effort.

I hate the stuff and tat that is churned out for every occasion, but I do like treating my elderly mum on mothers day. She just wants a lovely lunch with her daughter and granddaughters, I will buy her a card and usually a book, as she is an avid reader and charity shops them afterwards.

Time spent together is the greatest gift, no need to add to landfill.

Yanbu about the endless crap. It's the same with Easter, Christmas, Halloween etc

However, YABU about people feeding forced to buy it because in my experience that's not true. Most people don't buy it.

Also, YABU about those who have lost their mum and mothers day. If you've lost your mum then that's sad but it doesn't mean no one else shouldn't enjoy mothers day.

The mothers day gift that always gets my back up is face cream. For some bizarre reason it's marketed as an acceptable gift which I just don't understand.

Flowers and a card, that's all you need for mothers day.

That sounds absolutely incredible.
Lucky you. ❤️

All the tat in the shops for Valentines, Mother's Day, Easter, football tournaments, Halloween, Christmas- just fuck off! It's just obscene to think of the waste going into landfill. It just needs to stop. We need to say no to it all. It's hard because life can be crap and it's tempting to buy a little something to compensate for the crapness, but this is not sustainable.

Nobody is forced to buy this crap. You are being unreasonable.

I totally agree about all the tat. Each to their own but it would soon stop of no one bought it.
I do wonder how many folk who buy this crap will bang on about protracting the environment etc without considering the impact of all this.
I told my sons not to waste their money and my mum when she was alive said the same.

We should appreciate our mum, dad’s etc all year round. The best gift you can give anyone is your time.

Agree it’s so depressing. Growing up Mother’s Day in our house meant flowers, a card and a day without chores. I’ve carried this on.

No one is forcing anyone to buy anything, stop blaming others. The best thing people can do is raise their DC to know it’s tat and you don’t want it. Teach them that simple things a cup of tea in bed, an extra long hug, cooking a nice meal, a walk together - spending time together is what’s important.

It was always like this I thought. I remember buying a mug saying happy Mother’s Day for my mum circa 1992. I haven’t noticed a vast increase in it myself. Not the same as Easter and Christmas which have gone beyond a joke at this stage . I don’t buy crap like that anymore usually a nice take away and some wine or something like that instead of.

When DB and I lived at home, my mum asked for a day without chores and a handmade card from each of us :)
That's what I want from my DS (helped by DH as DS is 9). Flowers would be an extra added bonus!

I backed off from mothers day many years ago. As my sister was the golden princess and I the black sheep if was easy to do so without guilt. I am childfree so I dont have to guilt my unborn children into buying me crap.

People are free to spend their money how they wish. If that's on cushions and PJs for their mum, then that's up to them. Perhaps their mum loves cushions and PJs? I get a card and sometimes I cook a meal for my kids (who are all adults now) but they are starting to have families of their own so I won't be seeing as many of them for Mothers' Day as previously as they, very rightly, are giving their wives and partners their own Mothers' Days. Childfree ones will be with me if they are able.

It's just a nice opportunity to say 'hey Mum, I see you. Thank you for being my mum.' I used to send my mum a card and a bunch of flowers, just to acknowledge the work she did bringing me up. But some people like a more financially demonstrative Mothers' Day and as long as nobody is coerced into spending more than they can afford - it's up to them.