The amount of crap for Mother’s Day is getting worse each year

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PJs, vases, mugs, wall plaques, cushions - the crap is endless.

People feel ‘forced’ to buy this crap. I get told not to buy anything.

Plus it must be horrible for those who lost their DMs.

Mother’s Day is more busy than Father’s Day as based on my circle of friends and family- when they have only one parent, 90% of the time - it was their DM. A combination of non contact/never seen him and died.

I hated working at supermarket on the day before as it was rammed

Agree.

I don’t feel this constant pressure to buy and do things. It does for some reason annoy some because it is the ‘done thing to them’ as if there is some rule book people have to seemingly follow or else they’ll be frowned upon.

My DH knows all I want for Mother’s Day is solitude, to be left alone without anyone asking me for anything, hence tradition is me going out for the day or spending a night in a hotel on a Saturday. The kids see me on Mother’s Day when I get back.

My mum died when I was a young adult, I don't think tat on mothers day reminded me, like I had forgotten all about it. Plus cheap things saying Mum was not her style at all, so on that point I disagree. I can imagine it being much more difficult for those with a strained relationship.

I totally agree however on it being so commercialised. Don't get me started on Valentines either. I encourage my kids to be thoughtful and I refuse to cook, that's about it. I don't want that rubbish cluttering my house.

It can also be difficult for those struggling with infertility or miscarriage,desperately wanting to be mothers and losing hope with every passing year. I have no children and my mother - my last surviving parent - died 9 years ago, as it happened a week before Mothers’ Day.

I'm running a half marathon on Mother's Day.
I only have a teenager at home now and him enabling me to be out 1/2 the day i.e. not making any demands on my time, is what I appreciate.
I'll hopefully get a cup of tea in bed (haven't worked out what time I need to leave for the race so this might not happen if it's an early start) and a homemade card.

It is the natural order of events to lose a parent. I don't understand not wanting others to celebrate a lovely day if they choose to.

Who’s forcing who to buy tat though?

I only ever ask for some chocolate.

With respect everything could upset someone somewhere.

I don't want my children to buy anything for me.
A meal would be lovely though

Of course. It’s just that sometimes a little acknowledgement goes a long way. Mothers’ Day tat no longer causes me difficult feelings, it barely registers now, but I can remember how I felt when I was in the depths of my infertility struggles and can empathise with others going through that now.

Same here. When we were small it was tea and toast in bed for mum and a card. As we got older, we would buy a plant/something for the garden/chocolates (chocolate gingers, her absolute favourite!) A pp mentioned face cream not being acceptable, my mother always used Ponds Cold Cream, she was very happy to receive that too!! ‘Tat’ is not compulsory!

🤪 some of it completely useless too! Seen a hanging ceramic heart with ‘Gran’ on just can’t work out who hangs it & where????????

A few friends and colleagues went to restaurants for Mother’s Day last year (different parts of the UK) and never again. Full of screaming children that ran about.

None of them suggested the idea of going out - it was either their siblings or their OH.

Plus one of the restaurants had a limited menu and if ate out on any other day, would be £10 pp less!

My mum died in 2024. I had to leave the Range when we went there a couple of weeks ago because everywhere I turned there were reminders of Mothers Day which made me sad but also I felt an unreasonable rage because it was all tat. It's fine if a small child is buying something ad chooses a teddy or a cushion because it says "Mum" on it. But it seems insulting to sell this stuff to adults for their mothers. I would take ages choosing a gift or something to spoil my mum. Even when she was in a care home with dementia and didn't know who I was I took care to buy something that would speak to her in some way.

I love Mother’s Day. It’s the one (well one of two days) where I get waited on hand and foot by the teenager. He will make me tea without asking and will even cook dinner although I’ve said this year no to cooking. We are having a nice lunch out on Saturday instead at a local steak house and then on Sunday I want to chill in clean pjs and have cups of tea and read and then we are having an afternoon tea which is getting delivered in the Saturday. Presents I don’t need stuff so the afternoon tea and meal out is perfect for me.

for my own mum she’s currently on a time out due to bad behaviour so she will be getting nothing until she has sincerely apologised for her colossal screw up and I’m not holding my breath at that happening any time soon!

Sending you love, I had to do this once from a supermarket after I’d lost my mum, I just had to get out of there.

A ‘Mum’ mug is nice though. I still treasure mine from years ago

One of my strongest memories is looking at mothers day cards with my friends from college when I was 17 trying to find a card for my mum and joking that they should have some saying "worlds okay-est mum" because they obviously couldn't all be the best. I got something generic and vague.
She died suddenly 2 weeks later and so I felt pretty guilty after that.

I ask every year for a pack of aniseed balls or vegan bubblegum fizzy bottles from my sons for mothers day, birthday and Christmas but I never get them. They're still too young to visit the shops or order online on their own though in their defence 🙈 I do usually get a card they make at school - and try to take them for a day out so we get quality time together and a day off housework (to an extent) which is all i really want or need.

I don’t feel any presto buy that stuff and neither do my children, I know what my mum would like and my children know what I would like and it’s not that stuff. You can’t water down celebration because people have lost their mums, it will happen to most of us hopefully or else our mums will lose us first and that would be awful for them

A card and a bunch of daffs and i am delighted. The shops can keep the tatt.

Same here, a year ago for me too. So this will be my second Mother’s Day without her and it will suck. Like your lovely mum she had simple tastes and was happy with flowers, a candle, a good book or treat from the bakery and someone to make her dinner. I avoid that aisle in the shops like the plague. Makes it worse that it’s there as soon as Valentine’s Day is over. I like my daughter to get me a little something (well, my husband!) but I’m happy with nice flowers, a bottle of wine and/or my favourite chocolates. No tat for me either, although my daughter is getting to an age where she might want to pick the present herself with her pocket money and if she did that I’d be so overjoyed I honestly wouldn’t give a stuff what it was.

I can never understand why everything has to be in twee pastel shades with slanted writing every time. Are mums not allowed to like a strong colour or block font?

I don’t have kids but I would be delighted with a posh moisturiser as a gift. Lots of people are very into skin care and to those that are, a fancy face cream is a treat, anti-ageing or otherwise. My mum’s 81 and loves a posh, rich face cream.

We both find hand cream very dull though.

Everyone is different. People know their own mums better than you do. Nobody is forced to buy anything.

I’ve taken my mum to restaurants many times for Mother’s Day. Never experienced kids running around screaming, ever. I expect it depends on the restaurant, but a decent restaurant (eg not a chain or a pub that does roasts) won’t allow kids running around and rarely caters to families with small children.

I’m cheerful with a card and a bunch of daffodils, but the kids buy more. My mother is dead, but life rocks on.

Its one of 2 days a year i get spoilt. Bring it on!