The amount of crap for Mother’s Day is getting worse each year

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PJs, vases, mugs, wall plaques, cushions - the crap is endless.

People feel ‘forced’ to buy this crap. I get told not to buy anything.

Plus it must be horrible for those who lost their DMs.

Mother’s Day is more busy than Father’s Day as based on my circle of friends and family- when they have only one parent, 90% of the time - it was their DM. A combination of non contact/never seen him and died.

I hated working at supermarket on the day before as it was rammed

I’ve requested, if anything at all, just some short lived bits this year. I’d be chuffed with a cake/chocolates and a bunch of my favourite, pretty cheap flowers - tulips

It’s like any other commercial opportunity- you need to teach children to resist pressure

We've never done mothers day, m didn't like it nor do I. It is tat and land fill, like so many other things for these 'special' days. But if it makes peeps happy...

I haven't noticed anything in the shops - I basically just go to Sainsbury's.

I shop with a list, so just go to the required aisles. I don't ever need to go down the seasonal tat aisle.

I'm personally happy with a bunch of daffodils, and maybe someone to clean up after lunch. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen.

I've got my mum a lego set, box of chocolates, a new book, and a card. I don't consider that tat
My mum wouldn't expect anything, but I want to spoil her a bit. I do agree some of the stuff I see in the supermarkets look rubbish, but I guess some people do buy it.

I was in Sainsbury’s yesterday and didn’t see that much Mother’s Day tat just the usual. For me, my mum has enough mugs, doesn’t like candles so I’ll probably get her a plant.

My nephew 7 wanted to buy his brother 2 a gift got Valentine’s Day, not a heart one more of a toy! God knows why.

Urgh. I cannot bear novelty knick knacks - don’t buy me anything if that’s your budget. I do not need or want any plastic shit that I have to divert to charity or landfill. Even less so to celebrate being a mum.

I’ve lost my mum, the first Mother’s Day after her death I had to leave a supermarket because I was so overwhelmed by all the marketing stuff everywhere for Mother’s Day.

I got really upset out of nowhere because I just wasn’t expecting it so I turned around and went home.

I’ve noticed a lot of brands give you the option to opt out of Mother’s Day/father’s day emails now, it’s good to have that choice.

I don’t like all the tat in shops but some people do, we’re all different. I don’t think it should be watered down because some people don’t have mums, surely the nature of life means at some point the majority of us will lose our mum at some point. Being a mum is an important role and should be celebrated.

'Doing' MD doesn't automatically mean buying the tat and gifting novelty mugs and plaques and whanot.

We've always celebrated it, both for mine and dh's mums and the dc for me. That means a nice card and a gift. But it will be something wanted/needed/proper and not MD branded tat.

Last year dh (on behalf of dc) got me new gym trainers which I'd wanted for ages.

I haven’t felt forced to buy any crap nor feel my sons will feel any pressure.
The only discomfort I have felt is an email from Prezzo saying I could opt out of Mother’s Day comms if I found it difficult. I understand the sentiment but you have to learn how to manage your feeling when you no longer have your mum (likewise for any festival or “day”). They just made a thing out of it rather than me just scroll on.

Why are you so bothered about what other people are buying their mums?

Tell your family you don't want any of it or don't buy it yourself and let other people get on with whatever they want to do.

It's not like people's only choices are do nothing or buy unwanted shite.

I think it's nice to do something thoughtful that someone will like. That's always an option.

I'm happy with a WhatsApp gif. It's okay if they forget though as they're nd and have better things to think about. The whole mothers day thing is just marketing shite.

This talk of constant ‘pressure’ to do or buy things is ridiculous. This “pressure” does not exist, except in your own mind. Nobody else cares what you do or don’t do or buy or not buy. It’s just a made up excuse people use to justify to themselves why they’re doing it or buying it, when they’re doing it/buying it because they WANT to.

Seem to be on offer. Most mums will be insulted if their DC bought them anti wrinkle cream.

A nice hand cream - ok

Kudos to those companies that ask customers to opt out these events. I opt out because to reduce the number of emails. Many don’t give an option.

Also should be able to opt out for MDs in the future too not just the current one

I genuinely am unbothered by Mothers Day. My mother lives in a different country and it's a different day but I often forget when so i call her on the UK Mothers day to try and get some brownie points in the bank if I miss it. But for me, I don't care. But that's just me. If others want to celebrate that's fine. But I have noticed massive amounts of tat in the shops. And yesterday when I was in Sainsburys there was a whiole wall of Happy Easter cards which I confess I have never noticed before. I briefly thought about buying some as I didn't do Christmas cards this year- then rejected the idea.

Nobody is forced to buy anything and not everyone who has lost their mum has an issue with it . I lost my lovely mum 5 years ago . It isn’t the sort of crap that I’d want but my adult children are both excellent at gifts so I know I won’t be receiving it .

I have long since forbidden my children from wasting good money on this pointless crap.

Don't go for a shitty meal at a shit pub because everywhere else is booked out and you feel you are supposed to.

Don't do Mother's day. Don't do valentine's day. Don't do father's day. Don't do Halloween.

Do pancake day as that's just changing your meal for the day. Hate fireworks and don't do but DH does because he helps run an event.

Do do plenty of other local events. Do do things that aren't just because someone says you should.

Easter is one egg for DS and maybe a creme egg for us. Neither DS nor DH are big on chocolate.

Do Christmas. Do New Year with friends. Do birthdays.

Life is far less stressful and ruled by advertising as a result. I am not missing out. No one else in my family is missing out.

I don't get the angst.

Welcome to the dark side where you dont give a shit about what other people think you 'should' be doing. Free yourself. It's great.

Yet every year on here, all we read after Mother's Day is people bemoaning the fact they weren't given the very crap being sold in supermarkets, so there must be a market if people still want it,

Agreed but that pressure has clearly existed in the minds of all the parents who feel pressurise to

buy their DC internet enabled mobile phones
let their DC open SM accounts
Buy their DC overpriced logo-infested clothing
And toys that cost an arm and three legs

its called pester power, from which nobody seems to be immune. No such thing as NO stop asking! millions of parents feel they have to buy all the dross due to pressure, because they feel their child will miss out or be unlike other children in their friendship group. It isn't a new thing. It's been going on for as long as consumerism has existed and compounded by social media,

Buying things like that just does not enter any of our heads!
Im hoping for some Lego flowers from my adult DC
Elderly DM wants nothing apart from our time - so we will be taking her out for either dinner or afternoon tea