The amount of crap for Mother’s Day is getting worse each year

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PJs, vases, mugs, wall plaques, cushions - the crap is endless.

People feel ‘forced’ to buy this crap. I get told not to buy anything.

Plus it must be horrible for those who lost their DMs.

Mother’s Day is more busy than Father’s Day as based on my circle of friends and family- when they have only one parent, 90% of the time - it was their DM. A combination of non contact/never seen him and died.

I hated working at supermarket on the day before as it was rammed

Me too! Mainly on MD but occasionally the nearest Sunday.

Started during COVID when DS drove to see me. We walked his dog. Really special day.
It was helped by his GF who said that DS had been so delighted to spend some quality time, just him and me.💙

I leave the choices to him and have discovered new places to visit, cafes to eat in. It has really helped our relationship.

(as a family we laugh about DS’s ‘annual grilling’ - really in fun - but a great chance to find out more, check in, talk with him just him).

It's not just Mother's Day. Valentine's Day was just as bad.

I dont like the ‘tat’ personally but who am I to judge someone elses taste?

My DH and kids usually buy me chocolates, wine, a nice mug they know is my taste etc and its very much appreciated. We do everything between the two of us (no family nearby), both work and I really appreciate them taking the time to get me a present.

I can’t judge others taste just because its not my own and there should be gifts for all budgets. There are small gifts in the shop that cost a few pounds and its the thought that counts. It’s once a year and mine always make a card (aswell as the card from my dh).

Very small amount of money (a nice mug for example) can mean a Mum knows someone has taken the time to recognise everything they do. I bought something for my own Mum today that she had pointed out to me in the shops a few weeks ago (as a passing comment that she liked it).

Mothers’ Day is banned in this house. I don’t want my kids spending all their money on cheap tat. A cuppa in bed in the morning will do me.

Totally agree, it will happen to all of us. Staying off social media would be the first thing i’d do and most companies im signed up for emails with have already emailed to ask if you want Mother’s Day emails, so there is definitely thought out there for those without a Mum.

Even more of a reason for those of us with our Mum’s to celebrate them.

I lost my mum in 2023. She didn’t want any of the crap available trust me. It doesn’t trigger my grief though.
Ever growing retail trends of landfill makes me sad though.

My own less than delightful mother has already sent me the link to the gift that she wants. It’s not cheap, but I’ll buy it, but I won’t see her. That is my compromise. She will brag to all her friends “oh look what Ferdy bought me” but I don’t have to spend time with her. It’s worth it!
I will spend it with my own adult DD who is delightful. We’ll have lunch, she’ll buy me a nice card. Lovely.

We always go to our local pizza restaurant it's family owned, it's just the usual menu and it's always a lovely atmosphere. We go there for most occasions so it's not always bad eating out.

Don't knock people celebrating how they see fit. Probably the wisest words on this site and should be pinned on any thread about mother's day, Easter, Christmas, Halloween etc

I’ve never felt forced to buy anything like that.

Every year I get my mum a lovely bunch of flowers and we go out for lunch.

I’ve just seen an advent calendar for Easter

can’t blame people trying to, Xmas Eve boxes caught on and Halloween, spring wreaths in door I’ve bought into decorating at Easter etc

I lost my Mum on Wednesday, it's not the stuff that gets me but knowing I won't ever buy a card for my Mother again.

Commercialism is like a tumour that keeps on growing, every calendar occasion - Christmas, Easter, Halloween, etc, has been monetised to within an inch of its life and while we serve a capitalist society that will never change

Well I love pjs vases and mugs 🤷‍♀️

I was in B&M yesterday and a little girl with her dad In front of me at the till had a mug and a candle with best mum written on. She looked so pleased with them, even though they are 'tat' when given to them by a young child who was proud that they had chosen them who wouldn't love them

Of course people celebrate how they want to however companies and social media are influencing this and convincing people that buying more is the best way to do it. All this encouraging people to spend at every opportunity keeps them poor and the capitalists rich, plus it’s terrible for the environment.

But you don’t have to buy into this nonsense. I don’t and also have always told my adult DC not to bother and thankfully they don’t. It means nothing. The same with Valentines, complete and utter nonsense and don’t get me started on the crap available for Halloween - last year I saw duvet covers, doormats, door wreaths. Who on earth buys a doormat for use on one night per year? Just because this stuff is available in shops it doesn’t mean you have to buy it.

Never bought any of that crap, apart from when I was a child. I live 250 miles from my mum so will send her an M&S voucher as usual. Moving closer later this year so probably be flowers and wine. I don’t want much from my kids. DS2 who is my most thoughtful child is taking me for a meal, though his father (my ex) may send him the money, as his sister who is a teen will come too but he is working now so he may pay.

Like most things, consumerism has taken over. I remember my first Mother’s Day, my antenatal group complaining about what they received. I was just so thankful to be a Mummy that day after waiting so long. My DD was my gift.

To me, all I want is a lie in and spend time doing something nice with my DD on Sunday! I gave up relying on someone planning this for me 5 years ago and book the day myself each year. We have made some lovely memories each year and no plastic tat in sight. My favourite thing I receive is the card made at school

I tell my children every year when they ask what I want. I say a card or a msg happy mothers day. Thats it. I do not want them spending money on stuff i dont want and they cant really afford to buy. For christmas a print of their favourite photo of the year. I know they love me and thats enough. The only day of the year we would not go out for lunch is mothers day. Absolute carnage with people thinking its the only day of the year you can go for food with your mum!. I buy my mum flowers throughout the year when i think she could do with cheering up not when society tells me i have to buy them

I’m so sorry for your loss.

My family know not to buy me any stuff I hate it

i prefer to have a day out with my kids doing something fun - last year we went rollerskating disco, this year we going to a west end show

Yes, I managed to both for my mum. Treated her throughout the year with flowers, lunch etc, I certainly didn’t have to wait until Mother’s day! However, I always made Mother’s Day ‘special’ for her. She deserved it! ❤️