If you got told you could be heard doing it you’d stop - right??

[Laskey]

We were away with my cousin, her husband and her young kids. Two weeks in Florida. One week in a hotel, one week in a holiday home.

When we got to the air BnB it was very much needed after being crammed in a hotel room. It became very apparent however that the walls were paper thin. We heard everything from the open plan kitchen and diner.

The first time it happened dh and I jokingly said sounds like you had a good night. Just to acknowledge we could hear and give the hint to adjust behaviour. They were mortified. But did they stop? No. It was absolutely ridiculous. It’s not like we could hear screaming just the thud sound as the house was very flimsy even by American standards

AIBU in thinking cousin and her husband were being really inconsiderate. I think they’re trying to conceive baby number 4! I just wouldn’t have carried on if it were me.

My toilet suggestion was only in response to the idea that things can be private and also perfectly normal and natural. And that having privacy with certain things doesn’t make you a prude.

I guess the noise is subjective and neither of us were there. I’m not picturing one squeak of a mattress spring, the word thudding to me sounds repetitive and extended.

But noone suggested this couple fling open the door wide so everyone can see them. By all accounts they were being private and in some houses you can hear everything - as I said, in some houses I have stayed in you could hear people clear their throat really quietly in the next room. Its impossible to make everything completely sound proof which is why not being OTT about it is the sensible choice.

If you got told you could be heard doing it you’d stop - right??

Nope!

That’s, possibly a turn on for them!

The hint to... not have sex in the privacy of their own bedroom while on holiday?

I assumed you meant full screams abs moans but honedtly, some headboard banging, I think you're being quite prissy tbh. Yes I'd have tried to move somewhere less bangy but I couldn't get upset over this. It's OK you and your husband want less sex if that's what's bothering you

I think it’s gross and rude. I don’t want to hear anyone having sex. My pearls are firmly clutched on this matter, no apologies.

If I so much as suspected I could be heard, and if I had my druthers, I would roadblock the street.

But did the OP not have sex herself the whole holiday?! 2 weeks?! Think my DP would combust...

Oh, the 'definitely no sex in a house with other adults in it' stance is probably a variant of the 'I never poo anywhere other than in my own bathroom -- the idea! Ew!' position.

if they sang in their sleep or had the radio on at nighttime so you could hear it through “the paper thin flimsy walls” would you complained about that ?

I’m guessing people who are ovulating

A house with seperate bedrooms is not a shared space

It would make me feel awkward. When DS was still at home we’d either have a quick bonk when he was at school (gotta love WFH) or do it when he was at rugby 😂

Calling bullshit on this, so you are quiet as a mouse or don't have sex then head board doesn't ever once bang?😀
Many Brits ARE up tight about sex and nudity it's a fact of life, only have to read MN to know that. So...have said that I stick with the stiff upper lip and pearl clutching.

Don’t be ridiculous. It’s not a sex phobia to not want to hear people doing it. They could easily abstain or put a cushion behind headboard if they were that desperate to do it

NOBODY unless they are perverted wants to hear anyone having sex. It’s gross

What a weird post!

Surely a sperm is able to find an egg without waking up the neighbourhood

Did you read the op? It WASNT performative sex, it was an occassional thud of a headboard

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I don't want to hear it either but I can't get wound up about ir either. It's part of life,
as I've said before some people need to lighten up,
People watching porn must all be perverts then by your reckoning.
Personally I dislike porn or hearing someone else watching it but each to their own.

If you got told you could be heard doing it you’d stop - right?

Why?

It's always been a thing to talk about your family planning choices with other women who you're close to. I've notice some people of a certain age recently have been implying that anything they didn't do when they were young is some sort of modern newfangled trend. I don't have any close female friends but my sister-in-law and I certainly discuss trying to conceive/avoiding pregnancy quite frequently as this is the time of life we're in.

Oh, grow up ffs

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