Would you be hurt by this?

[ScottishHaggis85]

A close friends young daughter said something strange to me near Xmas.
She heard us talking at a dinner table about saying goodbye to people after they pass & seeing them & i said going into see my Father was so hard & hurt me so much . She then commented to me “Not another sob story is it (with my name)??
I was shocked as shes under 10 but I said to her well it’s a horrible thing to see you’ll understand one day. & she just went away.
Tried to speak to friend about it she said shes too young to understand what she said & theres no point speaking to her about it now it’s done 🤨

🤣🤣 okay

Are you unemployed?

You are rude.

Thanks I can only hope…
There always is very grown up things discussed in front of her & she gets away with a lot so I guess it’s difficult for everyone including her gran :/

Well either a) it’s a random phrase she heard and related without really understanding the meaning of impact or b) she’s copied from presumably her DM saying it about you. If (b) I take a step back and objectively considering there may be some truth in. After all rather than forgetting about it and moving on you brought it up after 2 weeks and again now over 2 months later. Do you have a habit of dwelling on things and talking about them a lot?

She's heard her mother saying it. Do you tell a lot of sob stories? (Be honest). There's no point bringing it up with a kid 3 months after the fact, don't be so utterly ridiculous.

What you said to an 8 year old is awful though. She was repeating something she's heard, you were just being nasty to a little girl.

I can see you have very little to do with children, which sounds like it might be for the best.

No, I’m the Queen

It’s not something to be discussed in front of a 10 year old really is it? No wonder they’re confused!

A guy at work used to give me a lift home as it was on his way.
One day I got in and his wife and daughter were in the car.
After saying our hello's I was just putting my seat belt on and his daughter piped up "do you think my daddy's a taxi driver?"
😂
Obviously my colleague had been moaning at home about giving me a lift.
I was embarrassed and a bit hurt at the time but I laugh about it now.
'Out of the mouths of babes ....'

I dunno if their confused i think they know what they said as a lot is discussed in front of them but I’m not the parent I guess people forget ears are listening

She's 8. You are a grown woman who said a horrible thing to a child. You'd have been shown the door saying something like that to mine.

Oh god…. Noooooo you must have been mortified lol x

And again it’s okay for children to say that and laugh? Okay bye

Do I tell my apparent best friend a lot of sad stories? What do you think?? 🤔

I see your commenting on me having a problem with what the “child” said while laughing but you don’t have a problem with any of this being discussed in front of the child. Again Im not the mother but I would know when to tell a child their badly behaved nearer the time of when it was actually spoken about !

Unless they’ve experienced someone close to them dying, they may not understand. I think you’re taking it way too seriously. Children learn empathy gradually, with experience of life. They don’t come out of the womb with it.

But are you the one going on and on?

You stole my username

Child repeated something she has heard an adult say. Whether or not it was said about you is irrelevant. What you said to the child was bang out of order. You know better. An 8 year old is still learning.

Her mother probably didn't pull her up because she was right.

This.

Do you think you tell a lot of sob stories?

if so, I would say it came from the parent.

If not, it could have came from anywhere and the child may not have understood what they said.

I think you are over reacting

The child could have heard any adult say this and repeated it just because it stuck with her. Dont give it too much thought or take it personally.

Trying to be objective about yourself, do you do this?
I don’t think we can always judge how we come across.

Someone once told me I was cold, I think of myself as warm and friendly, then someone else said it and it hurt me but made me realise I was coming across as cold (typical middle class hold it all in upbringing!)

Thanks but that isnt my concern here…. My concern is this child saying such an adult thing and where she has heard it