What's your upper age limit for having last baby

[Suburbiton63]

Just that really!
I am 37 would love one more (a third) but just don't think I can put my body through I again.

Haha, it has helped me realise that maybe I’m being daft considering a fifth after 37. If I were having my first (and second) baby I’d be far more flexible with my thinking like you are.

But the point is, they dont care know or care either as you live the situation you're in.

You sound lovely.

35 and I stuck to it.

Health is at increased risk of decline after hitting 50 so i didn’t want younger kids going into my 50s.

And having 2 kids has fucked my health so i’m glad i am able to use my late 30s to try and reclaim some of it before entering my 40s.

Having one last go for a third. I think my limit is probably 41/42.

My personal cut off was 35, and I ended up having my third and final 3 weeks before I turned 35.

I am ideal world I would have been done by 30 (had my first at 22) but it took us several years and MCs conceive number 2 so I had to reconsider.

I found my third pregnancy and newborn stage the hardest by far, whether this is age related or having older kids related I don’t know.

I had my third baby last year, a few weeks after I turned 37. I’d quite like to have a fourth at 38/39, so I don’t feel too old (aware that how I feel doesn’t trump biology, but I do think it’s hilarious that people always suggest that late 30s is somehow too decrepit to look after a baby.).

I was 43 with my first.
Fit and healthy to start with and an easy pregnancy.
Challenging baby though with possible CMPA and silent reflux so very little sleep at the beginning. Co-sleeping was a game changer though!
Yes I would do it all again in a heartbeat if I could guarantee a health baby

I think it very much depends on personal circumstances and individual wants etc.

Personally I wouldn't have anymore now I'm 38 but that is more due to me having 2 horrific labours and the anxiety that left. I wouldn't say 37 is "too old" nor would I say your body wouldn't handle it we are all different and some of us are in better shape now than we were in our 20's....

I think it's a big decision though but having a child is always a huge impact on our lives regardless of age. If you want another OP and you feel you can manage etc then go for it

What?! Why do you believe that? There used to be medical advice that it was harder/more risky to conceive after 37 based on a very old
french study, but since thinking has moved on massively. It hugely depends on a range of factors but before 40/41 is doable for most/many people.

Im assuming this is a joke! Too outrageous to be true

Yeh everyone is different that is true . I’m sure it’s nice having kids when you are younger and have lots of energy . It just wouldn’t be what I wanted to do with my time back then personally .

I wouldn’t have gone past 30.

These threads always go the same way. Older moms get defensive about their choices and circumstances, younger moms get defensive about their choices and circumstances. As others have said, it isn't always a choice.

I agree, and everyone thinks their choice was the best, but ultimately nobody is able to weigh up the options objectively because we have all either done one or the other. Even those who had, say, one child at 18 and then another at 35 are still going through that 2nd pregnancy and parenthood as people who have done it before so it's still not truly objective.

Lucky all you fertile myrtles who didn't take years to get pregnant and ended up being in your thirties before you have a child.

Not a nomad. I mean meeting people at hostels , going to random parties , full moon parties etc etc . A week with a child is not the same . I do that now in my 30s .

I had my first at 40 and second at nearly 43, she’s 6 months now and I’m considering a third

In exact same position OP

Hostels don't appeal to everyone, parties can still be done. There are plenty of child free young people that can’t or don’t want to go to parties.

Not saying it’s automatically the right choice for everyone to juggle young adult life and having a child, but you can still have a good time and have fun. You generally get more opportunities to do random stuff. Most people by mid-20s are working 5 days anyway.

Adventurous people carry that through every life stage. Propel uproot countries with kids in their 30s and 40s.

hostels certainly don’t appeal to me now but I had the best times in them when I was younger. I can do all the other stuff now with my kids . Can’t do the stuff I did when I was younger though really .

I wanted to be done having kids by 35, and was done by 31. But I’ve known lots of women who had babies after 35 - I was born when my mother was 36 - and several who had babies after 40. It’s a call you’ve got to make for yourself.

My cut off was 45 I had my last ds at 42

I had mine at 26, 28 and 30 - having had a fun few years travelling and working abroad.
Me personally would not have wanted to be older than about 35 having babies but maybe if I had not had any by then I would have felt differently.
When my eldest is 20 (and semi - independent) I will just be entering my fifties which I hope will be my 'me' decade where I am still young (and fit) enough to do some travelling/holidays and adventures but also time to make a bigger effort to save for retirement etc.

I’m 37 and 21 weeks pregnant with my third! So far the pregnancy has been the easiest yet, all bloods and scans etc come back perfectly fine. Having the other two to play with each other this time around massively helps too! This one wasn’t planned but we’re all very excited 🙏🏼❤️