What's your upper age limit for having last baby

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Just that really!
I am 37 would love one more (a third) but just don't think I can put my body through I again.

@Ella31 my deepest sympathies on the death of your boys, Ella 💐

45 I think. I had mine at 41 and 43 (and two older stepsons, one which lived with us full time so full house), my friend 46 and another at 45. All conceived naturally. I mean none of us wanted to have kids that late but circumstances; I didn’t meet my DH til I was 39, the 46 year old mum got married at 29 and just put it in mother natures’s hands and 46 was when it happened, the 45 year old was actually told that her age and PCOS meant getting pregnant was not going to happen so she relaxed her birth control and boom. So I guess preferably pre 40 but otherwise 45 as upper limit.
You don’t say if you had particular complications? Just pregnancy as it is? I didn’t enjoy it at all but wanted two. I also developed type 1 diabetes in my first pregnancy making it riskier. You weigh it up how it may affect your lifestyle and decide. And also prepare yourself that it may not happen at all.

They probably were thinking "fuck that" about me but I didnt know or care if they did.

All I know is I'm freeeeee, right here and now, in the present, and can enjoy myself now, whereas they're not free now but enjoyed themselves in the past.

Swings and roundabouts I guess.

My personal cut-off point was 35.
I had mine at 32 and 34.

I had DC at 33 and 39. I’m 40 now and say cut off would be 42. I would like a third. DH isn’t keen so if he doesn’t change his mind I’ll have to let it go. 42 is older than I’d have liked, but like PP we couldn’t afford to start TTC any earlier.

We met at 23, but aren’t from well off families, paid for our own house deposit and wedding, and didn’t really earn decent money until DS was about 3. Add my PND in to the mix after DS and I couldn’t have had more earlier.

I think not only should you consider your age and whether it is what you and your husband want but also your current two children and how you are as a family unit.

A friend of mine had a third when her older children were 3 and 7 years old. The third child has a severe disability and it has turned the family unit totally in another direction and the older two have had to adapt to a younger sibling who needs constant care and always will. Yes they love their sibling but I am saddened when I think about how different their lives could have been. Now family holidays, going to the beach etc etc are all much more major events than they were before. Can your current children deal with something like that happening? Can you deal with it yourself?

3 out of 4 of my DS’s GP had died before he was born. It really isn’t anything I’ve given much thought to. You just create a different life to match your circumstances.

We’ve found that we have linked up with many others in broadly similar situations as they are invariably the type of families that have fewer wider family commitments and therefore have time to spare. It has worked really well for us.

It would have been 40 for me but I had my first and only at 34 which was late enough for me. I can't imagine doing it again now at 41.

I was 32 with my third and last. Pregnancy was much harder on the body than at 19/20

My grandmother had my dad at 25, then she lived to 98. So he was caring for her in his seventies. Not sure that’s an ideal situation either!

If I’d never had any, I think I would have just kept going until I had one.

After I had my first at 29 my cut off was 35 which looking back seems utterly ridiculous now. I do sort of wish I’d had a third baby around age 37/38, which now seems pretty young tbh!

Sorry I know you probably are just asking generally but these threads really annoy me (and there's enough of them) and always loads of comments about what age is too old/ how tough it is when older etc. It's not a choice for everyone. Many many women have kids older not by choice but through circumstances (in my case health problems and ivf) and these repetitive threads beating down women who have kids when they are older are just depressing. Everyone is different and every body is different and it's not a one size fits all. You should know what will work for your body and your circumstances and it won't be the same as what works for others.

Sorry I know you probably are just asking generally but these threads really annoy me (and there's enough of them) and always loads of comments about what age is too old/ how tough it is when older etc. It's not a choice for everyone. Many many women have kids older not by choice but through circumstances (in my case health problems and ivf) and these repetitive threads beating down women who have kids when they are older are just depressing. Everyone is different and every body is different and it's not a one size fits all. You should know what will work for your body and your circumstances and it won't be the same as what works for others.

40 would have been my limit. As it was I’d gone off the idea by then! I had my 2 at 32 (nearly 33) and 35 which I was happy with.

I shudder at the thought of spending my 20s raising kids . A time for self discovery and to enjoy life before responsibilities in my opinion. Also, my parents were in their 50s when I was a teenager so to me that’s not something I had an issue with… perhaps if you are really unhealthy and unfit you might feel this way I guess.
I don’t “plan” anything about being a grandparent cos I’ve no idea if my kids will even have children so to me it seems ludicrous to take that into account when planning my life .

Same, my grandad was 23 when my mum was born and she was running about after him at 70!

I always thought it would be about 35.. then I met second DH, he had no children with his first wife
. miscarriage at 40, then baby at 41, then 42, full blown menopause
Someone posted they didn't want to be an old grandmother or well, the following year,my 21.year old DD made me a grandmother. They grew up like brother and sister.. youngest DD said she would never have babies after 30, has in fact had 2!

Medicals? What does this mean? I had my second at 40. Pretty sure I could have managed another until 45. Loads of women have babies into their 40s. Medicals allow it.

We had this on DH's side. MiL was trying to care for late 80s parents in her late 60s while helping her children with their babies and toddlers. While working.

Me too, I feel compelled to say something similar every time I see a thread like this. They get really unkind about Mums at both ends of the age spectrum and are completely unhelpful as nobody can decide except the person having the baby.

I had my only at 37 although we had been trying for 5 years. We needed IVF and at that point had set our limit at 42 because the odds of IVF working after that are low. After our son was born we tried with our frozen embryos but decided against having fresh cycles because I wanted to move on from treatments.

If you had 2 already it would depend upon their ages.

You’re probably right. I only check these posts to see if there’s anyone who was younger than me out of sheer curiosity.
I imagine they’re pretty tedious for someone who had their children at 29 and 31

For me it was 35 but after splitting with ex at 35 and childless I upped it to 40. It meant putting the pressure on now DH when I was 38 to get cracking but it all worked out for us DS was born when I was 39, and we expected to not want anymore but once DS arrived we quickly confirmed this was the case. I started with health issues at 41 (likely started after pregnancy) and think I’m coming into peri at almost 43 so am relieved DS isn’t any younger and that we haven’t got a baby in this mix.

It's all based on personal circumstances isn't it. I had my first at 27, second at 31 and I was done. Now I'm 45 and I have my freedom back, this has been a godsend whilst going through a brutal perimeno. I finally have time to swan off to the gym, money to spend on my crumbling face and greying hair, whilst my teens are off doing their own thing most of the time.

I have no idea how I'd have coped with a little one at this age. My relative is the same age as me and has just had her first baby. I'm so happy for her but also kind of relieved that I'm over the baby and toddler stage (as cute as they are at that age). It's so all time consuming then.

I had mine at 26, 29 and 39.
Advantages and disadvantages to being younger, advantages and disadvantages to being older.
I "celebrated" my 30th with a 6 month-old, I "celebrated" my 40th with a 6 month-old, so I am getting rather drunk on my 50th!!! 😀