To think than more men should have vasectomies?

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If they are definitely done with their family.
Why should it be on their partners/wives to have to keep on with hormonal contraceptives until 55?
But instead so many women just do this, having that responsibility on their shoulders for years, and increasing risks such as cancers and MH effects.
Stuff that!!

Yanbu but I also think more women could consider tube removal during c section, which I've had done. If you're having a c section and you know you don't want more kids, it's a short procedure that they can do straight after.

I'll never have to worry about contraception again.

equally, if a woman doesn’t want another pregnancy or to take hormonal contraception, they could have tubal ligation?

It's not "equally" because it's a much more invasive op than vasectomy unless you're having it with a c section.

But I do think more women who happen to be having c sections anyway could consider it

When we were done with having kids my DH went to the dr to ask about it and they persuaded him that I should make an appointment to discuss the mirena coil!

A work colleague also enquired about it (complately different surgery) and they said he was too young. He was probably about 30. My DH would have been 50+ when he asked, so obviously not the same issue for him.

Tubal litigation is far more invasive and risker than vasectomy. Also, I had three vaginal births (many women do not have C-Sections) so not an option.

i realy don't think tubal litigation should be considered over vasectomies.

As others have said, it is much more invasive and therefore carries greater risk.

My DH had a vasectomy about eight months after our last DC was born. I don't like condoms at all, and he didn't want me on hormonal contraception as he knows what it does to me.

I love the fact he can experience everything and I can experience him fully, without needing to worry one bit about pregnancy

More men should have it.

@JacquesHarlow Same here. My husband booked himself in after his first and last was born. He was 44.

DH and most of his friends have undergone vasectomy after children. The waiting list and recovery time is shorter then tube tying in our area - 1 year compared to 3 years.

But I have found it seems to be a correlation between similar backgrounds and attitudes of the men I know who have had it. The ones that work as a team to parent are much more likely to.

@Fizbosshoes Did he have it done in the end?

Still irrelevant. You don’t get to decide what other people should do with their bodies any more than they get to decide what you do with yours.

Yes YABU really.

Their body, their choice.

And if the woman refuses to have sex with them due to their choice, that's on them.

No-one should be forced to have an operation and no-one should be forced to use contraception if they don't want to.

But what they do need to do, is stop having sex if they reach a stalemate.

No, I am on the mirena coil though and love not having periods!

YANBU.

However when DH looked into it he was told that in our area, the NHS no longer covers it. We paid privately for him to have it done but it was hundreds of pounds. Obviously cheaper than another baby, but not cheaper than free contraception for the woman so I can see why some couples do that instead.

Same with our friends @Scottishskifun , most of the men have had them.

@UncannyFanny Well if my husband had refused to have one, I'd have refused having sex with him!!

Of course I couldn't make him, but he was respectful of me as his wife to make the choice. He knew it wouldn't be fair on me for a start to become pregnant again with a baby neither of us would have wanted. A vasectomy was by far and above the most effective way of making sure that didn't happen.

I don't think anybody should feel under any pressure to have medical procedures that can come with serious side effects, however rare they may be.

I also don't think anyone should feel under any pressure to use any form of hormonal contraception if they'd rather not.

Generally speaking I'd rather have tubal ligation myself as I'd want to have 100% control and autonomy over my body. I appreciate though that we're all different and wouldn't ever suggest everyone should feel the same way.

@Fizbosshoes May I ask why he didn't go for it? And I'm sure you know, but you can still get pregnant on the coil. Of course likelihood reduced, but still there.
I guess it also depends if you are in the "Don't really want a baby" or "Definitely don't want a baby" school of thought?

You mean you get to enjoy it without having to take any responsibility? It isn’t up to us to decide what more men should be doing with their bodies any more than they should decide what we do with ours. Although it’s funny how equality never seems to stretch to women being equally capable of taking permanent steps to prevent unwanted pregnancy. Ooh no, it’s not fair because that’s more invasive…. 🙄

@NoSoupForU But then what? Husband says no to snip, woman says no to hormonal contraceptives. Abstain?

Which is often refused if you dont want children at all. Im nearly fifty three and i asked many years ago and was refused. Was told Depo was better. On that for five years in the early two thousands. Have been on the mini pill for the last four and a half years. Desogestrel.
Both of these have been in the news recently with links to meningioma Brain tumours.
Risk is higher if you are#
a. over forty five and have taken mini pill for five years or more.
b. have previously taken depo for five years or more
If i stay on the mini pill to fifty five like the NHS recommends i will have been taking it for seven years.

10 years of the combined pill halves your risk of ovarian cancer, an effect that lasts for decades after it is stopped.....

@UncannyFanny That's fact. TL IS far riskier and more invasive than a vasectomy. Fact.

So you’d blackmail him? Nice…

@metalbottle I would argue most women who have taken the COC have been on it for that period of time already.

@UniquePinkSwan No. My body, my choice not to have sex. I would not accept running the risk of becoming pregnant again.