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Original poster

To want a cleaner?

126 replies

johnso · 16/06/2008 14:34

DH is trying to put his foot down, but that rarely stops me.
I want a cleaner. Our son's are at school all day, I have the time but I have a lot on my to do list, too.
DH says I should have the time to it!!
The swine!!!!
Is it really that big a deal?

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MarsLady · 16/06/2008 14:35

I have a cleaner. When the DTs go into school in September I will keep my cleaner.

Life's too short to clean (besides she's so much better at it than me).

I'll get rid of anything/one but not my lovely lovely gorgeously lovely cleaner!

Twelvelegs · 16/06/2008 14:35

Just get one, mine comes twice a week and I'm a SAHM (one at home two at school). She's brilliant, polish and rushes around like a crazy woman.... she even lifts rugs and moves furniture to wash the floors!!

Twelvelegs · 16/06/2008 14:36

Polish...

cheesesarnie · 16/06/2008 14:36

id like a cleaner but itll never happen as could never afford it plus id tidy first

flowerybeanbag · 16/06/2008 14:36

Sounds like you do have the time, but if you have the money to spend on a cleaner anyway then why not? It's a case of priorities isn't it? For many people if they have the time it wouldn't occur to them to pay someone else to do it, but if you have the cash and that's what you want to spend it on, then fine.

But of course, whether you have the cash and what your priorities for spending are as a family is a joint decision.

Mutt · 16/06/2008 14:37

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scorpio1 · 16/06/2008 14:39

yanbu

Cappuccino · 16/06/2008 14:40

are you a SAHM? and your kids are at school?

what on earth is on your to do list?

tbh if dh was a SAHD and wanted a cleaner I would tell him to go jump

I'm getting a cleaner this year for the first time ever, because I want to go back to work part-time (I've been off for 6 months with chronic fatigue) and spend time with the children and I can't do everything

I could stay at home and clean but this is more important

if I was at home all day with no kids then I wouldn't even think of it

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johnso · 16/06/2008 14:43

I have worked out that he would only have to do anothe shift and a half a month to pay for it

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Love2bake · 16/06/2008 14:43

How big is your house

Sounds a bit Unreasonable to me.

jelliebelly · 16/06/2008 14:45

if your dh has to work extra hours to pay for it then YABU

Mutt · 16/06/2008 14:46

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flowerybeanbag · 16/06/2008 14:47

If you are expecting DH to work more to pay for it I think YABU I'm afraid.

cheesesarnie · 16/06/2008 14:48

yep if your dh has to work more i can see why hes putting his foot down!yabu.whats on your to do list?

mummydoc · 16/06/2008 14:48

is this a wind-up ? what on earht do you do all day ? if it means your dh working more he should slam his foot down hard.

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johnso · 16/06/2008 14:48

I have worked out that DH would only have to do an extra shift and a half month to pay for it.
It would mean only having a cleaner for four hours a week.
Do you think that's enough?

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Love2bake · 16/06/2008 14:50

Sorry but - we want to see the list!!

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Cappuccino · 16/06/2008 14:52

oh christ you are johnso! I have just remembered who you are!!

you are the insane woman who treats her dp like shite and says he makes crap pasta dishes?

your dp should not get a cleaner he should get a new dp

Cappuccino · 16/06/2008 14:53

go to work and pay for your own cleaner you harpy

GryffinGirl · 16/06/2008 14:53

YAB slightly U. "1.5 extra shifts a month" still sounds like he's putting in all the effort and your "to do" list gets in the way of you even lifting a duster. I know nothing of your financial circumstances, but "shift work" sounds to me like he is not spectacularly well paid.

does your DH do his share of stuff around the house? I work full time and we do have a cleaner. Originally, my DH was dead against getting one "because we should be able to manage all the cleaning between us". Then he started working away and he did nothing around the house. It was a question of priorities - he didn't want to be cleaning for the short time he was at home and I wasn't going to do everything while working full time myself, so put my foot down and we got a cleaner.

cheesesarnie · 16/06/2008 14:53

lol capp!!!!

i want to see list!!!!

EffiePerine · 16/06/2008 14:53

Ah yes. You were complaining about your DH having a rest on his birthday?

Mutt · 16/06/2008 14:53

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GryffinGirl · 16/06/2008 14:54

oh dear - just seen what Cap wrote.