Has anyone on here ever made you cry?

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I’m embarrassed to say I have. I don’t really post much anyway. I usually just read and scroll, but I have let some comments get to me before.

One time, someone called me a cunt, which I know isn’t horrendously awful, but it just really got to me. In my 30 years, I think I’ve only used that word once when I called an ex that after I found out he cheated on me. People here throw that word around for the tiniest reasons.

Another time was when I shared my concerns about my sister’s new boyfriend. He was showing signs of being controlling and coercive, and I just didn’t think he was right for her. I was genuinely worried about her and wanted some advice. Omg, the backlash and comments from people asking if I was single, saying I must be because I sounded so bitter and jealous that she had a man. They were saying how lonely and sad I must be to try to ruin her relationship, just really personal and nasty. Yes, I admit it upset me.

I know you need to have thick skin on social media, but it can be hard sometimes. We’re all human at the end of the day. So, just out of curiosity, if you feel like sharing, has anyone on Mumsnet ever upset you that much?

About eleven years ago I got flamed alive for asking a child health question. It got taken the wrong way and one person actually accused me of refusing to get my child medical attention. I took it really hard at the time and deleted my whole account. Silly, looking back! Because I knew I would never do anything of the kind to my DD. But I had hideous anxiety at the time

I also got flamed a couple of years ago, just before my breakdown. That was my fault, but was pretty upsetting none the less

I've cried at other people's circumstances. I can't take that anymore though and don't read anything upsetting. I hide a lot of threads and some whole sections

Not made me cry, but I could certainly see how that could happen. I stupidly went on a political thread and stated the opposite opinion of what the OP and others were virtue signalling about and riling up. It was light-hearted, in good faith... Just a different perspective. But no. They were like a swarm of vultures coming for me. It reminded me that not everyone operates in good faith or from a good place.

And I've seen how people speak to others on here. It can range from unnecessarily dismissive and bitchy to downright nasty. I think some people enjoy it. Trolls, they used to be called.

Also no one can seemingly detect something tongue in cheek or humourous or playing devils advocate as part of an interesting discussion. No nuance.

Terrible lack of SOH on this site, so po faced.

Never at someone being mean but a few very sad (and sometimes relatable) posts have made me cry before.

About eleven years ago I got flamed alive for asking a child health question. It got taken the wrong way and one person actually accused me of refusing to get my child medical attention. I took it really hard at the time and deleted my whole account. Silly, looking back! Because I knew I would never do anything of the kind to my DD. But I had hideous anxiety at the time.

I've been here for years and this is something you learn about mumsnet. People will gladly pick up the ball and run with it.
Not good for anxiety at all.

Not crying but the lack of understanding around SEN is really awful on here and can compound feelings of isolation and shame when old fashioned posters pile on blaming parenting and lack of boundaries. The lack of empathy, critical thinking and ability to imagine what it might be like can be astonishing and depressing. On the other hand there is an enormous amount of solidarity amongst the many people on here who do get it.

I wish people would be less adamant and entitled and could acknowledge when something goes way beyond their own realm of experience. It’s infuriating.

I think that - sometimes - people who get ripped to shreds on Mumsnet are ridiculously awful people and absolutely deserve it.

Mostly they don't. But sometimes when people say 'I'm leaving this thread because I'm being attacked really harshly' I think 'Nowhere near harshly enough, you terrible cunt'.

To be clear, it was a really small thing about my DD's fingernails after getting hand foot and mouth. And I didn't flounce on the thread 😁

No, I am usually more disgusted at people’s posts than upset. Especially when a few bullies get together and pile on on one poster.

Just remember how pathetic these people’s lives must be and be glad you’re not like them.

When I first joined around 2011 there was a regular poster. She had one DD, hadn't known that she was pregnant and posted pictures weeks before she gave birth, to show it was possible to not know. She loved being a Mum. Her DD was around six. Then one day, it was her last post, her DD had died. You could feel the devastation in what she wrote. I had a cry that day. I'm not a cryer at all.

@pictoosh ive had that - such an awful thing to say. I work full time, great job, single parent, kids thriving. 10 years previously was with their abusive dad. I left for them to have a better life. Im there for every pickup, drop off, every event at school. And someone here said that to me!

No one has made me cry.

I do find myself astounded over and again at the ganging up.

Someone starts a thread asking a question, or for people’s opinion on a situation, you reply and give your opinion or answer the question and then along come people who disagree with you - which is perfectly fine by the way - but are unable to do so in a polite way. And once one starts, it’s a free for all.

I do think though that people that disagree but in an uncivil manner instantly lose any credibility.

Maybe ripping into people makes them happy.

Anyway, to the posters here who have been brought to tears by the mean and spiteful comments on here, have heart. You’re worth so much more than they are.

Yes, that would upset anyone. Harsh, personal comments can hurt, even from strangers. It doesn’t mean you’re weak it just means you’re human.