Letting 16 year old DS have girlfriend sleep over?

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My DS has a girlfriend, they are both 16 and turning 17 in the next few months. Been seeing each other for a good few months. His gf has only been over a few times to hang out in the evening. He said she doesn’t have a lift home after a party they are going to soon. I’m wondering whether to offer her to stay?

AIBU to say she can stay over? Not sure whether to allow them to sleep in the same (single) bed 😬 or for her to have his bed and he sleeps in with his brother in another room. Or just say no to it and she has to find somewhere else to stay or find a lift home.

It all seems a bit grown up but I’m aware what age they are too 🙈. This is all new territory for me as she’s DS’s first gf, WWYD?

This thread is really strange - I don’t know why people are assuming there’s something off.

OP, you’re either happy with it or you aren’t - and if she stays, just stick them in separate rooms. FWIW, I was joining my boyfriend on family holidays at 16 and we shared a room for a whole week(!!) I’m not traumatised, and didn’t get pregnant til almost 30, so the two definitely don’t have to correlate. You’re the parents, it’s your rules.

Maybe they don't have a car and can't afford a taxi both ways. Ever thought of that?

If they haven’t initiated a request for her to stay, I wouldn’t do this; can you offer her a lift home?

I’d offer to let her stay, and to mention to her parents too. But, I would also say that the offer was for your son to sleep on the living room sofa, and she can have his bed.

That was the condition I was allowed to stay at my boyfriend’s house (his parents rules but they never contacted my parents). Just to add my boyfriend and I were both happy with this arrangement. We didn’t mention to his parents how much time we spent in each others beds while our respective parents were at work and there were no ring doorbells back then! 😂

less 16 year olds probably are having actual sex than people think.

She’s 16/17, to your knowledge they’re not having sex, and you’ve not spoken to her parents, but she needs somewhere to sleep so you think “how about with my son in his room in his single bed”.
Wtaf OP. Give your head a wobble!

My DS has a girlfriend who lives 2 hours away by public transport so she has often stayed over as it's not possible to get her home at night. We had a spare room so they were in separate rooms to start off with (they were both just 16). When they asked if they could share a room, I was ok with that - like others, I'd rather they be safe if they wanted to have sex. And I got together with my now DH at a similar age, so didn't think it was too young. But I also checked in with the gf's mum that she was ok with the new sleeping arrangements before we went ahead.

When my stepson brought his 16 year old gf to visit us, his mum called me to lay down the law that they sleep in separate rooms. Hilariously, her mum also called me to say they always share at her house so don't worry about it if we're happy.
Check with mother, then speak to son.