Vinted - passive aggressive?

[NewGoldFox]

I sold something on Vinted, it arrived at their collection point on the 13th Feb. They’ve as yet not collected so this morning I sent a message with just a full stop as someone did this to me before and it was actually a helpful reminder. They have replied with “I’m going to collect it today, relax no need to be passive aggressive.”

I feel like their reply is ruder than my full stop 😂

Friendly but unnecessary. Why the need?

Because she hadn’t received any notifications from Vinted. She just messaged me saying she had no idea the item would be returned to me at 9:30 tomorrow and thanks so much for letting her know. She’s on her way to get it now.

So now I will be able to conclude the sale and get my money.

Because people often don't pick things up and its frustrating? Since I've started sending friendly messages about this it happens less. I think because people see you more as a person rather than a shop

Is that usual though, Ive never used Vinted (and certainly have no plans to now after this thread) but others are saying they pester and nag

As another poster says above, the seller is not the boss of me and I'll collect when Im ready. I would be irritated and annoyed and view you fairly badly. Obviously the other person has a better temperament than me!

I wouldn’t even know what a message with a full stop on its own meant and would think you were quite odd but ignore it.

I’m not sure you understand the issue in my situation?

My buyer didn’t know that the item she ordered was going to be returned to me the next morning unless she got to the shop in time to pick it up.

I don’t randomly message buyers because their item has arrived, only if Vinted tells me the item is going to be returned as buyer has failed to collect.

Either way, a full stop is really rude and weird.

Haven’t heard of sending a full stop. What did you mean by it?

You get enough notifications from vinted themselves about posting and collecting parcels so you really don’t need to chase a buyer to collect. The buyer knows it’s there waiting and they haven’t broken any rules in collecting it as late as possible.

I’ve messaged people. I’ve had two people not pick parcels up as they aren’t notified. But I literally say “ Just sending a message as I know not everyone gets a notification”.

Their reply was rude .

What happens if buyers don’t pick up the parcel?

Edited as I can op has already responded.

I think sending them a message with a full stop was very odd.

If you wanted to message why didn’t you type out a quick “hello, your parcel is at the collection point”.

It is returned to the seller.

With InPost, buyers only have 72 hours to collect.

Why do you need to open the lines of communication, the platform exists already, no one needs a full stop. If you just got impatient, thought you were being smart, then I’d just own it.

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I can’t even quite compute this - you mean you literally just sent a full stop?!! This would utterly confuse me as a buyer - I’d assume you’d lost the text somewhere along the line ?! How completely bizarre ! Besides which- why would you pester someone to collect ? Odd all round - but if I as a purchaser had realised you intended the full stop to chivvy me up then I’d probably deliberately return to sender because that’s so incredibly rude!

Argh, messages on vinted!

I have sold stuff online myself, so I perfectly well understand that people want the funds released. If it's applicable, I always leave positive feedback as soon as possible, whatever the platform.

But not long ago, I checked my emails on the bus home from an incredibly draining 12+ hour shift, to find a message from vinted saying my parcel had been left at my closest InPost point that morning. Alongside a nagging message from a vinted seller, timestamped a scant couple of hours later, asking why I hadn't collected my parcel yet. Yeah sure, I'll walk out of work 6 hours early to pick up a jumper.

Was it you, OP?

One of the reasons I like Vinted is because I am often out all day! If I could be at home to receive parcels at random times of day, I wouldn't have selected a pick-up point in the first place.

Even though my way home that night naturally took me past the InPost point, I was so tempted to deliberately leave the parcel there for the next day, simply out of sheer pettiness. But I couldn't because then I'd be taking that locker out of circulation for the next day's deliveries. it's not fair to inconvenience everyone else because of one rude person.

Somebody sent me ??? yesterday so I blocked them instantly. I don’t want to deal with idiots or rudeness.

Perhaps it was the buyer I blocked 😂

There's no need to remind people to collect, Vinted does that. If someone sent me a message with just a full stop I'd assume it was a mistake to be honest.

This is partly why I turned off all postage options other than Inpost. They have 3 days to collect otherwise it’s returned. I had far too many people with evri or yodel just leaving it at the shop for over a week.

Anyway, the message was passive aggressive as fuck. In future just say “just so you know, this parcel needs collecting by x date, it’s been at the pick up point since x”

Very rude. A friendly message is fine. It is annoying when people don't bother collecting for days on end I know. I send a reminder when it's less than 24 hours before it's due to be sent back to me.

Sometimes you just genuinely don't have the chance to collect quickly though, as long as you're within the timeframe I don't really see why sellers can't just wait? Vinted sends reminders anyway.

There have been many times for me where a parcel has arrived to the pick-up point on a Friday night when I can't collect due to being home alone with toddler in bed, then we've been away at in-laws for the weekend, home late then work on Monday...etc. Just an example, but I always collect when I can, I don't need pressure from sellers.