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Reform wants women barefoot and pregnant

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Sweetiedarling7 · 14/02/2026 07:57

Reform candidate Matt Goodwin wants women to have children early in life and introduce extra taxes as punishment for anyone who chooses not to have children.

Misogyny in plain sight.

How long till they ban abortion too?

Women voting Reform may want to consider if they are turkeys voting for christmas.

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nicepotoftea · 14/02/2026 13:13

sittingonabeach · 14/02/2026 13:04

Many people are just choosing not to have children, not necessarily because of financial reasons. Sometimes it is because they don’t like the way the country/world is at the moment and don’t want to bring a child into it. Not sure a Reform government would make them see the world in a more positive light, no matter how many tax breaks they are offered!

I think the biggest drop is in people having 3 or more children, and because in any population some people will have no children, you need the 3 or more families to just maintain stasis.

One of the reasons that people have fewer children is that they start to have children later. Many women will be perfectly happy with this state of affairs.

Leaving aside whether this is a problem, the thing that annoys me is the 'We must tell women what to do" approach.

Does it not occur to men that they they could have something to do with this? That perhaps they need to raise their game?

TempestTost · 14/02/2026 13:15

ParmaVioletTea · 14/02/2026 13:08

Matt Goodwin used to be a pretty good academic and could run an argument based on evidence and research. What a pity he's lost that ability.

If any government wants women to have children earlier in life, then they need to REORGANISE all of public life - education and employment - around the life cycle of the FEMALE body. So that it is the norm for women to take time from careers and education for children, and that this is not an issue.

Reform needs to commit to wholesale actual reform, and demonstrate how they will dismantle what is basically a masculine, male-bodied life pattern of
education ->starter job-> climb career ladder -> manager-> retirement, with absolutely no thought about who is doing the reproduction of the species and all the work related to that.

Or that women (like me of an older generation) don't have to pretend that we are just "female men" in terns of our bodies, and our life-cycle.

And a little suggestion, Dr Goodwin - maybe, just maybe, you might address the generations of Peter Pan men (and current deadbeat dads) who avoid commitment throughout their twenties, leaving their female peers in the lurch, then turning around in their mid-30s and picking a mate who's 10 years younger ...

These things are all true, but they are major social changes. Having a differernt type of career path for women who want kids younger would be really good for many, and very practical given our long lifespan now. But people won't see it, they don't have enough imagination.

He suggested a tiny element - tax breaks for young families - and look how people here on MN have responded - apparently that means trying to force women to have kids, and wanting them barefoot. If he's suggested changing the expectations in working life and progression for women, what do you think people would have said?

The big issues with this are housing and childcare, and I think it's very valid to say that without addressing those, trying to encourage people to have kids younger is just tinkering. But I don't think you can blame him for not suggesting that people completely change the way they think about the working life cycle, MN's head would probably explode.

Pineneedlesincarpet · 14/02/2026 13:15

changenameagain555 · 14/02/2026 13:11

The planet can't sustain the worlds population which is ever increasing. Yet Western nations are looking for ways to increase the birth rate to pay for an aging population. Yet apparently we can't afford immigration. It makes no sense to me at all! Surely if we need more workers we can just redistribute the world population to where it is needed.

Like some sort of sub-class of workers that do the jobs we cant be arsed to do? Dubai of the North.

We dont mind the ones that contribute more than they take out and support themselves though. I thought that was the point of a good immigration policy

WearyAuldWumman · 14/02/2026 13:16

Dontcallmescarface · 14/02/2026 13:13

Equally, are those who give up their child for adoption still eligible for the tax break?

An excellent point.

Prendetew · 14/02/2026 13:16

AtlasPine · 14/02/2026 08:10

I hate how we are sliding backwards and people still support this dangerous, dangerous party.

It's depressing. Reform voters will be the downfall of us all

Pineneedlesincarpet · 14/02/2026 13:16

Prendetew · 14/02/2026 13:16

It's depressing. Reform voters will be the downfall of us all

No sectarian politics will. Far more dangerous.

NoisyViewer · 14/02/2026 13:16

TempestTost · 14/02/2026 12:59

What a load of shit OP - I'd go so far as to say, a lie.

You could just as soon reframe this as "MG wants to adjust the tax system to give a break to young families."

There are lots of couples that would dearly love to start their families younger, and can't, and would welcome tax breaks to make that more possible. And that is long term a benefit to the country. And yes - it is actually a good thing when governments bring in policies meant to address long term issues, why some idiots think that is a bad thing is fucking bizarre.

And to say this is "forcing" people to have kids? That is no different than saying something like a tax break for students is "forcing" people to go back to school. Grow the fuck up - tax schemes by governments are always meant to make it easier for people to do things that are beneficial to society at large.

Will this work? I think housing is the big issue here, and will have to be addressed. That's going to be the really difficult thing for government to address and I don't see any party offering a solution. But tax breaks for families are a really good step too.

From what she wrote I didn’t think it was through a tax incentive. What an overreaction

MikeRafone · 14/02/2026 13:17

Thelostjewels · 14/02/2026 08:01

That's not good but neither is the idea that women feel pressured to have DC and then put them into full time nursery care from very very young ?

well without raising wages - which reform will not do and they've already gone back on the £20k tax allowance - its not possible for many families to have a spouse partner stay home to look after the children, its not affordable.

Allisnotlost1 · 14/02/2026 13:18

bemoresloth · 14/02/2026 12:55

If you read the whole thread you can find plenty of links.

Are you using Hungary as an example to follow?

Hungary would not be a great example to follow. They’ve created these policies but, despite that, have a lower birth rate than the UK.

Echobelly · 14/02/2026 13:20

I think they're totally going to copy a lot of the worst 'ideas' from across the pond.

They won't be able to use the 'Jesus is sad if you have an abortion' argument here, but I'm sure they'll pull some line about selfish women not having babies and reduce bodily autonomy and copy the idea that's being pushed in the US to financially penalise women for not being (heterosexually) married with a baby by 30 (yes, that is a thing).

Reform is all based on the idea that everything was better years ago (it wasn't) and the way to make things better is to go back to how it was years ago.

TempestTost · 14/02/2026 13:20

NoisyViewer · 14/02/2026 13:16

From what she wrote I didn’t think it was through a tax incentive. What an overreaction

Sorry, I'm not sure if I am understanding you, do you think I'm over-reacting? I'm not really upset, but I do think that the OPs post was really rather dishonest. It's a topic with a lot of good discussion points but you have to present the policy idea accurately.

charliehungerford · 14/02/2026 13:21

bemoresloth · 14/02/2026 12:55

If you read the whole thread you can find plenty of links.

Are you using Hungary as an example to follow?

I’ve read the thread, i haven’t found one single contextual link that clearly shows him saying that people who don’t have children will have to pay more tax. Ideas are being discussed to look at what we can do to encourage young people to have more kids and not rely solely on immigration. And no, I’m not advocating a Hungarian system, I just mentioned it as they are trying it out as there as birth rate is also falling. I’m not a reform voter, although I do find Matt Goodwin interesting, he does back up his arguments with stats, and he’s not stupid. Tbh I wouldn’t vote for any of them at the moment. They are all pretty terrible.

Shamsie24 · 14/02/2026 13:24

The poster is being disingenuous - the proposal is tax breaks for those with children. And yes, the higher rate of tax will be paid by all childless workers - men and women.

Allisnotlost1 · 14/02/2026 13:24

TempestTost · 14/02/2026 13:15

These things are all true, but they are major social changes. Having a differernt type of career path for women who want kids younger would be really good for many, and very practical given our long lifespan now. But people won't see it, they don't have enough imagination.

He suggested a tiny element - tax breaks for young families - and look how people here on MN have responded - apparently that means trying to force women to have kids, and wanting them barefoot. If he's suggested changing the expectations in working life and progression for women, what do you think people would have said?

The big issues with this are housing and childcare, and I think it's very valid to say that without addressing those, trying to encourage people to have kids younger is just tinkering. But I don't think you can blame him for not suggesting that people completely change the way they think about the working life cycle, MN's head would probably explode.

I checked and he has said he wants to tax people who don’t have children. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/reform-matt-goodwin-children-tax-gorton-denton-b2914817.html His previous comments also indicate a distaste for women in academia and a belief (shared with others in the manosphere) that women in workplaces creates a negative (read not pro-men) culture.

I’m not sure why, to be supportive of families and children, we have to punish people who don’t have them, or denigrate working mothers or women. You might not be intending to do that, but Goodwin is.

Reform by-election candidate suggested people who don’t have kids should pay more tax

Exclusive: The Reform politician’s suggestion would ‘punish millions of women and strip them of their basic dignity to choose’, Labour’s deputy leader has warned

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/reform-matt-goodwin-children-tax-gorton-denton-b2914817.html

Dragonfruitini · 14/02/2026 13:26

Allisnotlost1 · 14/02/2026 10:50

Presumably you’re not advocating that more people have babies at 16 when they are homeless though? Yours is a success story but a statistically rare one.

No my original point was just that I don’t consider twenties young because I had my first at 16 so having my second at 24 felt really old, to me personally. Then someone asked how I supported myself, I think when you have your first kid as young as I did people assume your parents did everything for you, but not in my case.
I was very mature for my age it’s not for most people

ParmaVioletTea · 14/02/2026 13:27

nicepotoftea · 14/02/2026 12:14

Men's sperm also has a best before date. Perhaps Matt Goodwin could focus on encouraging men to be better partners and fathers.

At what agge did Dr Goodwin have children?

Shamsie24 · 14/02/2026 13:28

I've found the good men will be good whatever the circumstances. Deadbeat Dads and Peter Pan pillocks will be like they are regardless.

LadyCrustybread · 14/02/2026 13:33

Thelostjewels · 14/02/2026 08:01

That's not good but neither is the idea that women feel pressured to have DC and then put them into full time nursery care from very very young ?

And how would having their kids younger help with that? It wouldn’t… in fact they’d have less money to use for staying at home.

Goldenbear · 14/02/2026 13:33

Pineneedlesincarpet · 14/02/2026 13:16

No sectarian politics will. Far more dangerous.

What's "sectarian politics" it seems like the new extreme right buzzword, another deflection from their extremely worrying politics or a way to encourage the electorate to be bored and disgusted by politics, to ensure they stay at home and do not vote as this is useful to a party like Reform.

ParmaVioletTea · 14/02/2026 13:34

Allisnotlost1 · 14/02/2026 13:24

I checked and he has said he wants to tax people who don’t have children. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/reform-matt-goodwin-children-tax-gorton-denton-b2914817.html His previous comments also indicate a distaste for women in academia and a belief (shared with others in the manosphere) that women in workplaces creates a negative (read not pro-men) culture.

I’m not sure why, to be supportive of families and children, we have to punish people who don’t have them, or denigrate working mothers or women. You might not be intending to do that, but Goodwin is.

Yes, if you follow the OP's link, it's all there. He suggests that the major problem with universities is "childless women."

In an academic career of 40 years my main problem has been arrogant and dickhead men, generally with children (although also generally divorced and shacked up with a postgrad student they were supervising).

And yes, he's said that childless women should be taxed more.

MO0N · 14/02/2026 13:34

I would think that reform voters are the type to be of the "why should I pay tax for schools when I don't have any children" view. The idea that those without children should pay more tax ... well that will go down like a cup of cold sick surely?

tartyflette · 14/02/2026 13:37

Thisseasonsdiamante · 14/02/2026 08:11

I had children in my twenties and early thirties and I do think it is the right time to be having children biologically. It is still much later than previous generations on average. So I definitely would like to see policies enabling this.

I also think both parents should get a years leave each in their children’s first two years, mothers year 1 and fathers year 2 so children are with both parents in early years Housing and living costs and policies should broadly support this. That’s who I would vote for.

I think that sadly more than a few men would run a mile from this. Their identities and manhood are too bound up with their work life, or they love working, or it's "women's work" and hence beneath them.
Some would countenance it, of course, but others would (perhaps rightly) feel ridiculed, belittled, or simply thought less of in often-toxic workplaces.
(But women still get it in the neck from all sides. "Why is she bothering to have kids and then paying someone else to look after them?" Very common.
Along with sneers about being 'a career girl' - i.e. not a real woman.)
I used to work in an ostensibly non-sexist company and atmosphere. But these attitudes persisted strongly, even if they were not always voiced.

MO0N · 14/02/2026 13:37

I think it's the case that no policies implemented by governments to incentivize child bearing have been successful. I can't see this being any different.
I think governments will end up having to offer women a full-time wage in return for being a stay at home mother. Even then many women will feel they can have a more interesting and fulfilling life if they have a career that isnt being a stay at home mother.

Marmalademorning · 14/02/2026 13:43

rainingsnoring · 14/02/2026 11:49

Nope.
I v much doubt that Nige supports SAHMs (note you say SAHMs not SAHPs). No party is likely to actively encourage women to be less economically active when we have an increasingly aged and ill population.

Yep, and I bet a US-style system is exactly what Reform would aim for eventually. It fits perfectly with the idea that everyone must be economically active and not burdening the state.

Over there, you’re lucky to get 12 weeks off, usually unpaid. Most women are back at work before the baby can even roll over because they have no choice. It’s the ultimate business first model, wouldn’t surprise me at all if that’s the direction they want to take us.