To ask what you’re going to do for your child(ren) for Valentine’s Day?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

I might take dd to the cinema to see and then to Nando’s and to a bakery for a cupcake. Will need to find a flower shop to buy her one red rose

I hate that it’s on a Saturday, I really don’t wanna see young teens out on dates while I’m chronically single 😂

will you do anything? No judgement if not, it’s just me and dd so I like to do this stuff

plus, when someone’s son decides to take her out when she’s older, she won’t be thrilled by literally the bare minimum!!

edit to see either Gaby’s dolls house, zootropolis 2 or The Goat (kids cartoon) - not sure which 🤷‍♀️

Well there was always likely to be somebody just as weird back then 🤷🏻‍♀️ No where near as widespread as today, have you seen the aisles of absolute tat in the shops?

I don't think it's creepy it's just not who the celebration is for. It would be like me buying a Mother's day card for my Husband or a birthday card for someone when it isn't their birthday.

Omg I forgot about our cat! Will get her some extra licky licks and play with her for longer when dd goes to bed (and I’ve had some wine)

That’s a sad outlook. We have a baby son but if we ever had a daughter, and my boyfriend wanted to treat her on Valentine’s Day and do something lovely with her, I’d think it was gorgeous.

my kids are grown with kids of their own now...but nothing...ever. Even my husband and I refused to give into the "hallmark holiday" flowers cost double that day... dinner out is also more expensive for the valentines "experience" this year.. we have two movies picked out for the tv.. I am making his fave dessert..banana cream pie.. we are having a massive starter plate of airfryed wings... chicken popsicles, tempura shrimp, spring rolls, and a chacuterie plate with crackers. Really looking forward to our couch night. with a shit ton of snacky food lol

Because it’s about romance. I love my kids, but not romantic love. That’s weird 🤢

I’m 38 and my DM used to give me a valentines card and a little gift every year and we’d often decorate- like people say, anything to spark some joy! She now gives my kids presents (so I don’t need to!) but I’ll do a valentines breakfast and make them a card and DH will get the same.

We’ll make pink cookies. But that’s not an unusual occurrence in this house. I can’t be doing with extra celebrations in the house.

I won’t be doing anything for my adult DD but can’t see the harm in it if people choose to celebrate any day with anyone. I will be kind of doing Galentine’s Day on Friday, coincidentally as there’s a women’s AA meeting 🤣.

I’ll be taking dd2 to a friend’s house where all her girls are having a “galantines” afternoon, dd1 is out with her girlfriend who she’s dated for almost 2 years and dd3 will be bored and wanting entertainment (she’s 14 but rubbish without her twin at home). I’m on call for work so will be chilling at home then dh is cooking a nice meal for him and I.

there’s always been a few mums who do valentines for their dc but it’s only the slightly weird helicopter mums round here and definitely not seen as normal.

While OPs day out sounds great, and I’m sure her DC will love it, am I alone in thinking it’s better for kids to not be the centre of every single celebration? For there to be occasions that don’t involve them being given ‘stuff’, but to witness attention being lavished on the other people who are important to us? Of course our children are hugely important but so are the adults who care for them and it’s vital they learn their needs aren’t always paramount.

That sounded more serious than I meant it to! Worth considering though if we want our children to grow into generous, empathetic adults.

Someone’s clearly never heard of Galentines either then!!

Life is too short to be this miserable honestly

Bought my teen son some heart shaped sweets/chocolates, always have done since he was little. My parents use to do the same when i was younger and still send over some kind of cake with a heart on every year even now.

I’ll be making them cards Friday night and leaving them on doormat for them to find Saturday morning. Will also buy the heart shaped crumpets from Aldi.
They are 7 and 6

Lego set here … why not?!

Not much!!
DH and I don’t even celebrate / acknowledge Valentine’s Day.

I sometimes give them some love heart sweets, or a heart shaped biscuit or something. But that’s it.

Weird as hell that people involve kids in Valentine’s Day…it’s for couples

Not weird…….just someone who always wanted to inject a little love and fun into life. We always had a fun activity to do growing up. Baking, picnics, treasure hunts, valentines, Christmas traditions, Halloween parties with siblings. It’s only as an adult do I realise that we had nothing (materially) growing up and both parents gave us the happiest of childhoods in any way they could. I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s what kids remember.

Life is too short to be this miserable honestly

Amen @Jellybunny56

Fuck me this thread is quagmire of misery.

Shit. I forgot about the dog 😂

I always get them a card and some chocolate, just something small

Is it though? Holidays can mean different things to different people. I’ll use the Xmas example again. Some people will be religious about it, some people will be purely commercial. These days evolve. Just like Easter isn’t about Christ for most people but buying chocolate for all your relatives. I think it’s actually quite weird to associate your idea of romance and then projecting it on to a single parent that just wants a reason to have a little celebration and calling them weird for it.

Now that’s cute. Enjoy your day!

Actually I might buy this for DD!

You are not being unreasonable at all!!!

We are having a ‘Galentines’ night on Friday with an old school rom com movie, antipasti, a heart shaped box of chocolates, popcorn and matching pyjamas!