To ask what you’re going to do for your child(ren) for Valentine’s Day?

[mumofoneAloneandwell]

I might take dd to the cinema to see and then to Nando’s and to a bakery for a cupcake. Will need to find a flower shop to buy her one red rose

I hate that it’s on a Saturday, I really don’t wanna see young teens out on dates while I’m chronically single 😂

will you do anything? No judgement if not, it’s just me and dd so I like to do this stuff

plus, when someone’s son decides to take her out when she’s older, she won’t be thrilled by literally the bare minimum!!

edit to see either Gaby’s dolls house, zootropolis 2 or The Goat (kids cartoon) - not sure which 🤷‍♀️

I have 3 DC, nearly all adults now and I have never done anything for valentines day. In my opinion it’s for couples, and you show your love for your DC in other ways, and they get plenty of stuff / treats. My friend does a big basket and I find it very OTT and yes it is each to their own, but frustrating when it becomes a new expected thing and young kids can’t understand why their friend got lots of gifts and a day out for valentines and they did not.

Because it’s just a hallmark card day. I’m not wasting a fiver on a corny card just as a tick box exercise for a man or anyone

It's a weird thing

Fuck me, your dog must be a genius to trot off to the shops and do all that.

The ones around here just shit everywhere and bark from dawn till dusk.

Nothing, it's a day for couples and at the teen age also for friends. DD makes cards for her friends, I don't think it's bad, but I wouldn't want her to do anything for us.

Creepy AF!
Valentines day celebrates romantic love

I am v close to my young adult kids but they are not my husband. I think it’s strange to give your children cards and VD presents. But not really creepy. I don’t think parents are truly entertaining a romantic relationship with their kids, thankfully.

Buying for kids on valentines is on a par with buying another couple a wedding anniversary card. My in-laws buy one for us each year - it’s weird.

Em nothing. Valentines is specifically about romantic love.

Nothing. I am baffled by this. It never ends does it?

We celebrate birthdays, Christmas, wedding anniversaries and mothers/Father’s Day but as Valentines comes a few days after my birthday we stopped by mutual agreement soon after we married.

Last year I and my friends (we are in our 60s) went out for our monthly book club meal which happened to fall on Valentines. None of us were bothered even though most of us are married. 🤣

I never did anything for my kids as it is supposed to be a romantic couple thing. If you like doing that stuff and want to celebrate it is no one else’s business. Cinema, a meal and flowers/cake sound lovely.

It’s lovely OP that you do this with your little girl. When my older 2 were little they’d make cards for their best friends on valentines day and I’d give them sweets to take in too. Tbf though my daughter and her friends made cards for each other for everything “here’s a card because you’re going on holiday/it’s Mother’s Day and you are mum to your pet hamster” etc

Ironically I’ve never been interested in Valentine’s Day whether I’m part of a couple or not. But used to happily buy little cupcakes and chocolate hearts for my kids to give to their friends. They’re teenagers now and definitely don’t need my help.

When I was at school I knew a girl with American parents and she’d get gifts from “Father Valentine” each year. I guess it’s more about general love than romance in the US? But here it is very geared towards couples. I suppose if I was single I might adopt the love idea and do something with kids, but in previous single years I’ve just bought myself a bunch of flowers and ignored the date

Agree with this, the OP’s first post sounded like it is just a bit of fun for a Saturday afternoon.
the next comment is just setting the DD up to have materialistic expectations for what is essentially a marketing opportunity not a real day with meaning, and to think that actual love is expressed with things and treats.

However I don’t think there is anything wrong with using the day to express familial love at all. I do usually get my DC some chocolate hearts or something just for fun, I view it like I would do an Easter egg. But I wouldn’t be taking them out for the occasion so that they are deliberately conditioned to have a high bar for future partners.

I hope all of you doing Valentines things with your children have a lovely time. Personally the idea of doing "romantic " things with my kids creeps me out so I would not be doing anything like this!

We've never done anything, it's not a holiday I've ever taken to. We will be going to a different event with relatives on Saturday though, so it'll be a family day regardless.

I accidentally unwatched this thread and didn’t know there were more posts 🙈

It’s both I think

its building self esteem. Just because someone buys you chocolates and flowers, doesn’t mean that they’re worthy of you. It takes that and a lot bloody more

I don’t want her getting excited by some spotty kid buying her a cheap bunch of flowers from Asda when she’s older. Her mother has already treated her much better.

🥰

It turns out dd is poorly anyway 😪😪 - she was sent home early from school so I am not sure how she will cope tomorrow - will have to play it by ear.

got her a rose and lollipop though, and if we don’t go out, we’ll have dinner together in front of Peppa Pig 🙈😂

😂😂 will you have a cosy night in instead? That could be nice, especially with the rain?

I feel like you don’t have to go all out for it to be a nice day!

I’m disappointed I didn’t get a card from DD’s school though, it would’ve been my only one 😂🙈

Agree! Mines growing so fast!!

I was almost welling up at the baby pics today

must not have anymore, too much work 🥺🥺

@AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta 😂😂😂 they’re both fairly short (not for me) and in need of a shave and a scrub

😬😬😬😬😂😂

they do however put the bins back where they belong!

I am a marketers dream honestly, thank god there’s not a b&m near me