To have ran upstairs in case I smelt of burger

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Just now

Treated myself to a Big tasty meal on the way home from work. Happily driving along in the dark and rain, listening to 90’s tunes 🤣
Dropped the bag evidence in the big bin round the corner from my house, getting soaked in the process, but all worth it.
Had to do the quick check of the car and car seat for any random bits-there was shredded lettuce-got rid.
Came in the house, coat off and Ddog smelling my hands, so I ran upstairs saying to Dh and Dd that I was tired 😂

In bed feeling satisfied, but wondering if I smell of burger

I actually think that is quite sad. Buying a burger, eating it while you are driving...fine. Getting out in the pouring rain and getting soaked to put it in someone else's bin, checking your car for crumbs, find lettuce, get rid of it..PHEW!
Go inside and run up the stairs and go to bed in case my family smelled it at this hour.
Nah, mental.

What a sad tale.

The only explanation has been that people feel judged for it or mithered by their family but then anyone who said that has also been rounded on for being judgemental themselves so yeah, it remains unclear to me (and others) where the excitement lies in and of itself.

But yes, I'm happy remaining in my state of not getting it so I'll leave you to whatever keeps you on the thread too.

Once a month on the way home from my gym I go to the KFC and get 3 hot wings nothing else.
i sit in my car in my sweaty gym gear to eat them and they taste all the better for it.
Its my little thing and if you don’t get the op you will never understand that feeling of something naughty just for you.

Still trying to sell it as some exalted state of being that the unenlightened can only dream of 😂
She’s working hard, though, I’ll give her that 💪

But it's not naughty! If I thought it was then maybe I'd get wanting to eat it in secret but it's just hot wings, or a burger, or whatever.

Something naughty just for you sounds so exotic, doesn’t it?
Three chicken wings really shouldn’t be the subject of that sentence…. It’s slightly tragic.

Well, I'll try once more and then if it's still beyond you, well, there are more things in heaven and earth, DappledThings, than are dreamt of in your philosophy.

Some people like to dress as Goths because to them, it feels a bit rebellious and alternative and outside the norm. I'm not one of them; I don't really like the Goth aesthetic, don't really "get" it, if you will, and don't think it's very rebellious to wear black and listen to Joy Division. It doesn't seem like much of a big deal to me. (And yes, I know some people are Goths because they just like it. I'm just trying to form an analogy here for the perpetually and not at all performatively confused.)

But I understand that to some people, it does feel a bit edgy and it scratches an itch in them. I find this very, very easy to understand, actually. It isn't puzzling or bemusing or difficult at all. I definitely don't go to Goth forums so I can tell them, after a day and a night of discussion and explanation, how I just don't understaaaaaaand why they're Goths. I also understand that it doesn't actually matter if I don't understand.

So while the dirty burger may seem unimpressive to you, to some people it just feels a bit naughty, and they enjoy a small secret thing that's just theirs. That's it. That's all. You can substitute it with "secret spa trip" or "secret wank" or anything else; the concept maps over.

I really can't think of any simpler way to put it. If you still don't understand, well, it doesn't actually matter. You don't understand it so, with respect, there's no reason anyone should care what you think about it. Go, be free, join a discussion about something that interests you and that you can follow. I can help no further.

The kicker in all this? I actually hate McDonald's.

It's not enjoying a secret! It's shame and fear of judgement! Going to bed at 6pm in case your husband and kids smell the burger you ate on the sly. Getting soaked in the rain to dispose of the papers in case you get caught, cleaning the car of stray lettuce in case you get found out. Sad.

Well, there you go, guys... if nothing else, a sneaky burger in the car clearly pisses off the likes of traceybeakersbeaker, and if that's not a good reason to have one, I don't know what is. Goodnight and God bless!

If you have never actually done it yourself, how do you know that it's "shame and fear of judgement"? There are plenty of people who have actually done it and who happily report that it made them feel great and they really enjoyed it. Why do you feel sorry for people who occasionally do something that makes them happy?

No, I can honestly say I have never done something that would make me come home at 6pm and go straight to bed without seeing my husband and kids in case they smell burger from me! That's literally insane.

Genuinely happy you found a moment of peace.

But also over the moon that I don't have children when I read things like this.

I think this is all about fear of judgement for eating it. Likely due to weight related issues, Being dressed up as some exciting thing, and I guess eating the food maybe exciting if you really want it, but it’s about wanting the food and not wanting to be judged for having it, due to weight.

and if that’s the case it’s really sad. To fear judgement from those you love. To sit and gorge in secret, go out of the way to hide the evidence, to avoid your family in case they smell it off you.

but I’d ask is it really fear of judgment from your loved ones, or is it a deep seated shame of eating it if a weight problem so you want to do it where no one can see you.

That is absolutely hilarious- I can’t speak for anyone else but I have never had a weight or food issue in my life. There’s no gorging involved. No fear of judgement.

When I get a sneaky chinese I just don’t want to share it. I live a long way from a takeaway so they are a rare occurrence anyway. If I mentioned I was having one ex and DD would’ve absolutely wanted it to. Then there’s a whole conversation about what to order and then sorting out DD’s portion as she won’t eat the onions or the beansprouts etc etc. A completely different eating experience. I could announce to my family that “I am stopping at the Chinese and you can’t have any” but that wouldn’t be enjoyable for me.

And the point is I want to eat it by myself without any involvement from them. Just me, a podcast to listen to and pure selfishness. Same with a secret day off, I want to spend the day entirely in my own head, detached from “real life”. Taking a non secret day off is a different experience.

I like some entirely selfish, indulgent me time in secret. That’s literally it.

Having posted so much about it I am now gutted I can’t do it just to prove a mumsnet point.

And the point is I want to eat it by myself without any involvement from them. Just me, a podcast to listen to and pure selfishness. Same with a secret day off, I want to spend the day entirely in my own head, detached from “real life”. Taking a non secret day off is a different experience

I do the above it’s bliss, I just don’t make
it a secret. So I will come home with my burger or whatever, shut the kitchen door, put on my programme and not share a thing. Family know not to disturb! 😆

I’ve read the first hundred or so responses and found many of them really sad. And the strange thing was calling the posters who didn’t get it because they eat what they want, when they want, fun sponges. Isn’t it the exact opposite?
fuck, I love being single. Love it. I didnt realise I had to add ‘not having to stuff a maccas in to my mouth in secret’ to the very long list of why.
for those with young kids who you didn’t want to see it, fine; but for those who were just hiding it from their husband, I’m sorry but this isn’t good, or funny.

Nah, I'm single, and I too eat what I want, when I want. But I have enough empathy to think it's good, and funny, that the married ladies can enjoy some secret treats. 😄

But why would they have to hide it from their husbands @BeanQuisine? That’s the direction my empathy goes.

even when I was married, I would have had a maccas if I wanted one, sauntered in, put the rubbish in the bin, and my now ex dh would have asked if I’d had a nice day. Why would anyone judge if you get a maccas?

They don't have to hide it from their husbands, they just want to, for fun.

I think we can establish from this thread that we all have different experiences on what fun is! 😆

Ain’t that the truth!

I can’t beleive anyone thinks eating shit in secret and hiding it from their husband is their idea of fun. That’s tragic.

It wasn’t 6 pm

I didn’t put it in someone else’s bin 😂 how rude would that be!