Neighbour damaged his car on my drive

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I moved into my new house 3 months ago and after a few weeks, I noticed that the neighbours across the street were reversing onto my property when they left their house. The road is pretty narrow, so they can't really turn around without reversing onto my drive. Plus, another neighbour parks his car (in blue) on the pavement by their house, which makes it harder for them to pull forward and turn around.

It would be much easier if they just reversed onto their own drive and drove out from there. I don't know why they haven't done that yet. I didn't want to start any drama or fall out with them. I had never talked to them before today and wasn't sure how they'd react if I brought it up, so last weekend I decided to put some garden rocks in the corner instead. Just to clarify, they're on my drive, not on the pavement, in case anyone wonders. So, the neighbour knocked on my door earlier and said that his car got damaged because of the rocks. He insists that they were half on the pavement (not true) and half on my drive.

He asked why I didn't tell him I was putting them there so he could avoid driving over them. He said if there was a problem, I should have just talked to him. I told him it's my drive, on my property. Why would I need to inform him? His car wouldn't have been damaged if he wasn't using my drive… He got really aggressive with me, saying that the previous owners never had any issues and that he's going to call the police and a solicitor about the damage to his car. I haven’t heard anything since. I can't believe I'm even writing this. I’m not sure what to do now! I do feel a bit intimidated by him. Am I being unreasonable?

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Brilliant 😂

Mumsnet is the literal last place anyone should learn communication skills from! Most people on here are absolute horrors!

I agree with OP. 👏

I think another poster hit the nail on the head when they said that the people siding with the neighbour are exactly the kind of people who would pull a stunt like this themselves. I honestly can’t wrap my head around being that entitled, thinking I have the right to use someone else's property without asking, and expecting the owner to inform me of any changes to THEIR property. Wild!

@lghtnght MY own gardener gets a cuppa and biscuits. Hes entitled to be on my land as he is performing a service. So I dont expect him to trundle his mower all round the public path. Randoms can make their own arrangements. I am not a public right of way.

The OP does not need permission to put anything down on her property.

She also does not need to inform her neighbours that she is putting a new item on her property

Her neighbour presumably can see so why on earth has he driven over the rocks?

All the people saying approach him, how do you think that would have gone given his manner after the idiot caused damage to his own car by trespassing on someone else’s property?

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Good for you! I'd do the same. But honestly, it doesn't surprise me if this thread is any indication... there are so many entitled people out there.

If he says anything ask if he'd like your crime reference number as you also called the police!

I had a neighbour who did similar and actually they did wear an area of my drive.

The wild thing is that they are saying he needs to be told he's doing something he shouldn't! It's YOUR fault op that he is doing something he shouldn't!

One Klampet actually posted that YOU damaged his car🤣

And as for the word salads youre being told to use... that chat gpt is absolutely shite

How does him using OP’s drive ‘benefit everyone’?! Who apart from him gets this benefit?

Wow this thread is still going. OP you have clearly sparked something fundamental. PPs are divided between “I know my rights” and “love thy neighbour”.

Personally I’d go a long way to avoid conflict with neighbours, who I’m going to share my life with for maybe 20 years. I’d put up with a lot of inconvenience with a cheery “no problem at all” before doing something to cause upset. That’s why when I accidentally demolished my neighbours front garden wall reversing onto her drive (which she’d given me permission to use while she was away) she was absolutely lovely and said not to worry as it was falling down anyway, and it was easier getting on the drive without it.

At least you had the decency to ask @Hellohelga I suppose that’s the difference

Elevate what? Or do you mean escalate? And if so again - to what?

He hasn't got a leg to stand on. He's also a self entitled prick.

Completely misses the point.

The crux actually

I didn’t, but there’s an important point here, and that is, @Hellohelga isn't an entitled nob

No, the point is CF neighbour never asked OP if he could use her driveway for his manoeuvring.

😆 That’s hilarious! Now imagine if that thread was posted by your neighbour on here. You would annihilated!

@NotAnotherScarfare u the man lol

To be validated by strangers on the Internet because doing what she did isn't something people admit to in real life because they know plenty of people would think less of them.

@Turtlebed actually people using other people’s drive can cause damage to the persons property. On my road, a house had their wall and windows damaged when people have been using it to reverse. So I’d rather you don’t use my drive