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Neighbour damaged his car on my drive

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lghtnght · 10/02/2026 16:16

I moved into my new house 3 months ago and after a few weeks, I noticed that the neighbours across the street were reversing onto my property when they left their house. The road is pretty narrow, so they can't really turn around without reversing onto my drive. Plus, another neighbour parks his car (in blue) on the pavement by their house, which makes it harder for them to pull forward and turn around.

It would be much easier if they just reversed onto their own drive and drove out from there. I don't know why they haven't done that yet. I didn't want to start any drama or fall out with them. I had never talked to them before today and wasn't sure how they'd react if I brought it up, so last weekend I decided to put some garden rocks in the corner instead. Just to clarify, they're on my drive, not on the pavement, in case anyone wonders. So, the neighbour knocked on my door earlier and said that his car got damaged because of the rocks. He insists that they were half on the pavement (not true) and half on my drive.

He asked why I didn't tell him I was putting them there so he could avoid driving over them. He said if there was a problem, I should have just talked to him. I told him it's my drive, on my property. Why would I need to inform him? His car wouldn't have been damaged if he wasn't using my drive… He got really aggressive with me, saying that the previous owners never had any issues and that he's going to call the police and a solicitor about the damage to his car. I haven’t heard anything since. I can't believe I'm even writing this. I’m not sure what to do now! I do feel a bit intimidated by him. Am I being unreasonable?

Neighbour damaged his car on my drive
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Passingthrough123 · 11/02/2026 17:31

Swimmingteacher21 · 11/02/2026 17:29

It's reason enough if you're childish and petty. I can't understand having an issue with it. But then to be even more childish and not even have a conversation first? You have to live in this neighbourhood. Why are you burning bridges with your neighbours so early on?

What's childish or petty about not wanting a neighbour to use your driveway as a turning point whenever they feel like it?

I cannot believe the amount of posters who would rather kowtow to an entitled man than do what they wanted with their own property. As for seeking his permission to chuck some rocks down – don't get me started on the Handmaiden vibe!

2O25 · 11/02/2026 17:32

OP, why did you post on Mumsnet? You don't seem very receptive to anyone 's advice. Is this a wind-up?

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:33

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:28

Or you could take the constructive feedback you have been offered and think about how to improve the way that you communicate with others. You said in an earlier post that this is something you struggle with so it may be worth spending some time working on it.

Fortunately, none of my other neighbours are cheeky or entitled, but if it happens again, a nice poster kindly recommended getting a Fred Flintstone statue!

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fartyklart · 11/02/2026 17:34

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 16:27

What’s unreasonable about not wanting people to trespass on your property?

Nothing at all. Putting rocks out instead of having a conversation is. Why do people not get that?

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:34

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:28

Or you could take the constructive feedback you have been offered and think about how to improve the way that you communicate with others. You said in an earlier post that this is something you struggle with so it may be worth spending some time working on it.

What a cheek!

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:35

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:34

What a cheek!

Not passive aggressive enough?!

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:36

2O25 · 11/02/2026 17:32

OP, why did you post on Mumsnet? You don't seem very receptive to anyone 's advice. Is this a wind-up?

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What advice? Let him use the drive to maintain peace, help the community, and so on?

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HelplessSoul · 11/02/2026 17:36

fartyklart · 11/02/2026 17:34

Nothing at all. Putting rocks out instead of having a conversation is. Why do people not get that?

Did the CUNT neighbour not think to have a conversation first, knowing full well that the OP is a new neighbour and that his bullshit "agreement" with the previous house owners is no longer valid?

How the fuck is the OP supposed to know that when she has moved in?

The onus was on the neighbour. He is a cunt and proved it to be so - in deed and driving.

OP has done fuck all wrong here. How can you not get that? JFC.

PeacePilgrim · 11/02/2026 17:36

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:34

What a cheek!

Heaven forbid the smug snarky OP would learn anything from fellow mumsnetters on how to communicate yknow like a normal neighbour - we can see who the OP is very clearly from recent replies

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:37

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:28

Or you could take the constructive feedback you have been offered and think about how to improve the way that you communicate with others. You said in an earlier post that this is something you struggle with so it may be worth spending some time working on it.

Patronising much?

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:37

HelplessSoul · 11/02/2026 17:36

Did the CUNT neighbour not think to have a conversation first, knowing full well that the OP is a new neighbour and that his bullshit "agreement" with the previous house owners is no longer valid?

How the fuck is the OP supposed to know that when she has moved in?

The onus was on the neighbour. He is a cunt and proved it to be so - in deed and driving.

OP has done fuck all wrong here. How can you not get that? JFC.

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PeacePilgrim · 11/02/2026 17:37

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:37

Patronising much?

OP needs it

Passingthrough123 · 11/02/2026 17:37

fartyklart · 11/02/2026 17:34

Nothing at all. Putting rocks out instead of having a conversation is. Why do people not get that?

It's her driveway! Which he's trespassing on constantly. It's therefore no business of his what she puts down as decoration and she absolutely shouldn't have sought his permission first. Why do people not get that?

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:38

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:36

What advice? Let him use the drive to maintain peace, help the community, and so on?

You were advised to behave like a mature adult and assert your wishes directly with your neighbour. You could have written him a letter if you felt unable to do so face to face.

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:39

PeacePilgrim · 11/02/2026 17:37

OP needs it

Haha, no she needs rocks. She did nothing wrong, unlike her neighbour

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:39

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:38

You were advised to behave like a mature adult and assert your wishes directly with your neighbour. You could have written him a letter if you felt unable to do so face to face.

The onus is NOT on OP!

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:39

Allseeingallknowing · 11/02/2026 17:39

The onus is NOT on OP!

Exactly

PeacePilgrim · 11/02/2026 17:39

JFC

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:40

PeacePilgrim · 11/02/2026 17:36

Heaven forbid the smug snarky OP would learn anything from fellow mumsnetters on how to communicate yknow like a normal neighbour - we can see who the OP is very clearly from recent replies

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we can see who the OP is very clearly from recent replies

absolutely, a dreadful neighbour

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Passingthrough123 · 11/02/2026 17:40

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:38

You were advised to behave like a mature adult and assert your wishes directly with your neighbour. You could have written him a letter if you felt unable to do so face to face.

And what if he kicked off anyway after your oh-so-polite letter? Then what?

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:40

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:39

Haha, no she needs rocks. She did nothing wrong, unlike her neighbour

🤣 I love my rocks! The best investment!

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DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:41

Passingthrough123 · 11/02/2026 17:40

And what if he kicked off anyway after your oh-so-polite letter? Then what?

Then you elevate it.

Auroraloves · 11/02/2026 17:42

lghtnght · 11/02/2026 17:40

🤣 I love my rocks! The best investment!

I’m amused by the people tripping over themselves to tell you off, bores

Passingthrough123 · 11/02/2026 17:43

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:41

Then you elevate it.

To what? Legal action?

Or OP could just put something down on her drive as a deterrent in the first place. Oh, wait...

UnhappyHobbit · 11/02/2026 17:46

DuchessofStaffordshire · 11/02/2026 17:41

Then you elevate it.

Where? The drive police?

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