To take child out with chickenpox

[10thlittlemonkey]

DD age 3 had chickenpox. Today is day 7 since they first appeared. She's loved the multiple pyjamas days but we are starting to go stir crazy! She had new spots appear yesterday overnight and I'm not sure any of us can handle another 5 days cooped up indoors. Other than spots she's here usual self (ball of energy!) I was thinking to go out for a walk along the river. Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors. Thinking 'covid social distancing' style rules would apply here for our own sanity surely?
AIBU?

You really can’t.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/shingles/

ah well if she wants cake from an automated drive thru then of course she must go and do that. 😂

Nope, you need to stay at home. If you wanted to avoid all of this you should've done your research and vaccinated your child. Mine are older than yours and were vaccinated as soon as they could be.

Well she could yes and wouldnt pose a risk to anyone doing that. The idea that she could is ridiculous.

As long as she stays well away from other people, TBH I’d have thought it’d be fine. Plus fresh air and exercise will be good for both of you. I’d try to avoid going into any cafe, though - could you not take a flask/a drink for her and some snacks to have on e.g. a park bench?

You can go for a walk outside if you can guarantee you won't be anywhere near any other people- depends how rural you are I suppose.

You obviously can't pop anywhere for coffee and cake. Take a picnic! Do you have a garden you could play in?

I am also immune suppressed so I do know what I’m talking about.

Shingles is a reactivation of the chickenpox virus. You cannot get shingles if you haven’t had chickenpox so you saying that your ‘bone marrow transplant destroyed any protection from a previous infection’ caused your re infection to present as shingles, is an impossibility. If you are now starting with a ‘clean slate’ so to speak, then you would have to have chickenpox first before you could then have shingles.

Shingles is far more likely to appear at a time when you are run down, stressed, have a weakened immune system etc.

Your child is infectious until the last spot forms a scab, typically 5 days after it appears (as I’m sure you already know) - so you have at least a further 4 days of an infectious child. Be responsible and think of others fgs.

I'm a boomer and am 65. I had shingles 3/4 years ago and as a fit and generally healthy person, whilst i carried on working from home, was too spent to go out and would have refrained from doing so due to respect for others. You comment was ageist and vile. I was prepared to give you the benefit of the doubt until then but would now venture you are srlfish and inconsiderate.

25 years ago when DS had shingles, aged 6, I didn't realuse it was shingles and he continued at school. I thought it was an eczema flare until the doctor confirmed otherwise. I was horrified he'd been to school and asked the dr if he should stay at home. She laughed and said if he felt ok, he cd go because you don't catch shingles note: only the rash tends to present in children - not the pain or unwellness.

Worth pointing out that until recently, vaccinating many children was very expensive. As I know, since dd paid for all her 3 to have both vaccinations. But well worth it IMO, since you can almost bet that if they’re going to get it, Sod’s Law says it’ll be just before you’re due to go on holiday* or before some major occasion like a family wedding.

*as happened to a friend of mine.

Exactly!
OP, take your daughter out for a walk, I did once mine were well enough when they had it, nice countryside walk did us the world of
good. I mean I’ll probably get lynched for this but I also had to the school run as not everyone has someone else to do that for them so probably risked millions of lives 🙄

I know right? And I am far from a covid sceptic and followed all 'rules' as intended.
NHS guidance with chickenpox- it says don't go to school/nursery. It says don't go NEAR pregnant people, immune comprised etc (I wasn't planning to!) It doesn't however say you must stay confined in your home for the 2 weeks it could go on for!
Yet I still found myself battling was a bit of a moral dilemma this morning (probably triggered by the memory of covid lockdowns). But I do feel reassured by the posts suggesting an outdoor walk in a non-busy area and grabbing a coffee from an outdoor stand would be ok. Off out to do just that now!

Yup. I’d go out somewhere quiet too.

It’s contagious before the spots show, which is how it flashes around schools so quickly.

I had one at home with visible spots, whilst waiting for the next one to get spots, but they were still at school, as per the law.

You are being unreasonable in that you could go for a very secluded walk but the coffee and cake are unnecessary risk. You need to not touch surfaces and not be in breathing distance of people. It can cause birth defects and huge complications in pregnant women and you would have no idea which woman touched the napkin dispenser at the coffee cart after you’d wiped your kids face.

I know it’s annoying to stay indoors but honestly you might just have to suck it up or go for a drive or play in the garden.

Off out to do just that now

Ok hun
People picking you up on your boomer shark jump, so thought you'd go one further?!
🙄😂

Another OP who's going to do what she wants to do and is only interested in the posts validating her opinion.

Moral dilemma? 🤣

Exactly lol

I had some sympathy until I read this comment. Ageist and rude.

OP doesn’t care about any of that … she’s already birthed her healthy child 🤷‍♀️😡

I considered reporting it but perhaps it might as well stand as evidence of the kind of person the OP is.

And that will do what exactly?!!’ It’s not a blinking miracle!! Most of us who are immunocompromised have already had chickenpox as a child so being exposed to it as an adult with no immune system means we most likely end up with shingles which is extremely painful and debilitating!!

See I just knew you were going to do as you pleased! Let’s hope none of your friends or relatives are immune compromised and have to run into someone selfish like you.

Complete rubbish!! Google isn’t factual or correct with a lot of things - most people had chicken pox as a child which when exposed to it again as an adult leads to shingles. You CANT catch chickenpox from shingles!!

So you also being immune suppressed make you an expert virologist? Surely you understand there are many more variables that only your condition?

My transplant destroyed the protection I had from the previous chicken pox infection.

I was in contact with a relatives child that knowingly had chicken pox. My doctor told me due to my conditions (not only done marrow transplant) but I'm not going into details, it caused a widespread outbreak of shingles. I had never had shingles previously. I receive 3 different treatments to suppresss my immune system. This is why i had the outbreak. If you read the other posts I'm not the only one this has happened to.

I'm no longer going to argue with people over my lived experience. You don't know what you're talking about.

Actually @10thlittlemonkey it's really great being a boomer. Free prescriptions, bus pass, NT discount, extra points at Boots.
Nearly retired, not dressed yet today as I've been f'ing about on MNet this morning.

The house is worth a bomb, dh and I had no uni fees, our dc are grown up and doing well, etc, etc. The only issue is the ageism from people whose generations saw 35% go to uni, have travelled widely, take eating out as an entitlement, have never known inflation at nearly 20%, interest rates at 15%, severe recessions, mat leave at 6 months, no minimum wage or the racist/sexist/homophobic tropes that prevailed in the 70s/80s.

Hope you don't slip in the mud.