To take child out with chickenpox

[10thlittlemonkey]

DD age 3 had chickenpox. Today is day 7 since they first appeared. She's loved the multiple pyjamas days but we are starting to go stir crazy! She had new spots appear yesterday overnight and I'm not sure any of us can handle another 5 days cooped up indoors. Other than spots she's here usual self (ball of energy!) I was thinking to go out for a walk along the river. Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors. Thinking 'covid social distancing' style rules would apply here for our own sanity surely?
AIBU?

Suggesting ‘boomers’ spread their germs around Waitrose is also pretty patronising

Probably from a child who was contagious but hadn't come out in spots yet . Chicken pox is contagious before spots and is why it spreads in nurserys/schools so easily.

Yeah it was a shitty comment but doesnt take away that she is completley reasonable to go out with her child in the way she went (or described as going)

The OPs further posts give a glimps of attitude.

But please do continue the hysteria classification is so amunsing

Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors.

Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors.

How did fozziebear2 expect the coffee and cake to be obtained ?

That happened locally here a few years ago with pox parties and then one of the children ended up in hospital.

Well I mean if you’d spoken to her properly about it in the first place, she wouldn’t have had her little hissy fit 🤷‍♀️

Yes, I realise that. I was just suggesting she could have a play date with said child if safe to do so with the above caveats.

The op may have made a few shitty remarks but it doesn’t change the fact that what she’s proposing - a riverside walk, outdoor vendor, Covid rules - is of absolute minimal risk to anyone.

Trying to patronise me with ‘amusing’ remarks doesn’t exactly cover you in glory when you’re attacking someone else’s attitude btw.

You can't catch shingles from someone with chicken pox. A quick NHS read confirms that. Your link just provides an AI overview that states you can get shingles if you've had chicken pox. That's not the same thing.

You also don't just catch chicken pox being in the same space as someone with it. It's spread via coughing/sneezing or direct contact with fluid from the blisters so everyone probably needs to calm down a fraction.
I wouldn't have taken my children out for a day with it, but a walk with a stop at an outdoor kiosk that they can be far removed from, is not really a risk to anyone.

When my son had cancer chickenpox could have killed him. Keep your child at home.

Also I just read your replies, I have no idea about adults but “generally” I’ve never heard of a child having a chickenpox vaccine before chemo. Mines had chemo twice and didn’t get it either time, and he’s never had chickenpox.

Not a zero risk as the OP knows the child is still contagious and th OP had set out with an intent to be in contact with people.
An outdoor vendor is your take when the OP said "Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors."

You were the person who opted for hysteria while missing the fact that the OP was going to bring her child into contact with one or more workers etc. If you dont know why the choice of hysteria is amusing you should look it up.

Are you classing this as "an attack"?

》》 The OPs further posts give a glimps of attitude.

Why do you keep just repeating this, are you stuck on some sort of play back loop?

How do you think coffee and cake is obtained without going into a shop, is your experience of being outside the house so limited you cant use your imagination

Some of us posted pages and pages ago we assumed she meant either a drive through or some sort of outside vendor, turns out she meant a park kiosk. So what of it?

You can’t go out and about till the spots have crusted over.

it’s very infectious and spreads easily

Oh get over yourself with your lazy ageist slurs and invented history.

My children were born in the 90s, childcare took the bulk of one income and there were no free hours from the tax payer. None of my friends were SAHMs nor were my mother’s or grandmother’s generations - SAHMs were always a privilege of higher income families, others worked around the clock if they couldn’t afford commercial childcare or have family help.

I was back at work within three months of my first because maternity pay was largely non existent and as well as childcare we had a mortgage which took the bulk of the other income (on our luxurious two up two down). There was also no parental leave for fathers, no right to leave for parental responsibilities, no right to request flexible or reduced working after maternity leave and women were “managed out” or simply sacked at an even higher rate than now. When I started work women also didn’t have the right of access to pension schemes if they were not full time. And no we didn’t have coffee out because we didn’t have the disposable income to pay for it. Lucky old you to be able to afford small luxuries instead of taking a flask and sandwiches with you. Oh and my pension age is only a few months short of yours if you are in your 30s.

We did however understand the impact of infectious diseases and didn’t spread them around (there were also far less rights to sick pay and families couldn’t afford to lose income).

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5488632-to-take-child-out-with-chickenpox?page=11&reply=150463490

What on earth are you talking about? The op has done precisely the opposite. She has set out with an intent to avoid people - hence Covid rules/distancing.

She has said it’s a park kiosk. Outdoors. Therefore her dd doesn’t need to be anywhere near another human.

Everything in life carries a risk. Op has weighed up the risks and is taken every reasonable precaution to minimise them. It’s a very miserable person who suggests she MUST keep her dd inside (despite the risk being vanishingly small in these circumstances) just to obtain some sort of MN worthy selfless, morally superior badge of honour.

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10thlittlemonkey · Yesterday 09:32
DD age 3 had chickenpox. Today is day 7 since they first appeared. She's loved the multiple pyjamas days but we are starting to go stir crazy! She had new spots appear yesterday overnight and I'm not sure any of us can handle another 5 days cooped up indoors. Other than spots she's here usual self (ball of energy!) I was thinking to go out for a walk along the river. Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors. Thinking 'covid social distancing' style rules would apply here for our own sanity surely?
AIBU?

That's effectively condemning everyone who has had aggressive cancer treatment to a glass box forever. That's not the way life works. My child was that child. 7 months post cancer treatment, he caught chicken pox at school. It spread to his brain, causing encephalitis and over a month in hospital, an extraordinarily painful lumbar puncture, a central line in his neck and over 3 weeks of anti virals that caused kidney failure but couldn't be stopped because then the encephalitis would kill him.

I'm glad going outside did your child the world of good. I hope he didn't kill anyone else while enjoying the change of scenery.

OP I hope the PP above has demonstrated why your child’s couple of weeks of boredom indoors (I’ll not mention yours because you’re a bloody adult and should be able to make sacrifices) does not compare to the months and months, sometimes years or lifetimes, an immunocompromised person is stuck indoors. And why they can’t even risk getting fresh air because of selfish people who don’t follow rules and think of others.

Outside well distanced if you must. Chicken Pox can be really serious to adults. My husband got it at 35, normal healthy man. He was so ill hallucinating with fever and itch absolutely covered in spots. After 3 weeks developed pneumonia, strong antibiotics lead to thrush in mouth and throat couldn't eat for weeks. He lost 2.5 stone and was off work for over 2 months, it was a good 6 before he got his energy back. You can't always tell who is vulnerable.

Chickenpox is infectious so it would be unreasonable for you to take your infected child to a populated destination. It woild be selfish as there are vulnerable people who would be more susceptible to illness and may get it worse than others.

Suck it up. It won't last forever.