To take child out with chickenpox

[10thlittlemonkey]

DD age 3 had chickenpox. Today is day 7 since they first appeared. She's loved the multiple pyjamas days but we are starting to go stir crazy! She had new spots appear yesterday overnight and I'm not sure any of us can handle another 5 days cooped up indoors. Other than spots she's here usual self (ball of energy!) I was thinking to go out for a walk along the river. Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors. Thinking 'covid social distancing' style rules would apply here for our own sanity surely?
AIBU?

Interesting viewpoint- this played out in reality yesterday. We'd spent all week telling DD when she was asking to go out/go to nursery that we have to stay home because of her "chicken spots". When I told her yesterday we were going for a little walk she had a complete anxious melt down because she still has spots.

Indeed and if you know you had a higher than normal risk of killing someone with your car during a given trip it would be normal for you take time to carefully weigh up you needed to make the trip and if you did if you could alter enough factors to bring down the risk.

Well of course, thats the point Im making, life has to go on and other kids in the household have to get to school, that involves them coming out of the house and in contact with their school mates and the parent coming out, possibly having to take the sick child in the car with them as well as they cant stay home on their own

Listen to some people on MN who will insist you can get it several times, make granny have shingles and infect people on the other side of double glazing.
There are some things you have to do even though unintentionally will put you and others at risk eg school run, going for a walk to protect your mental health.
I remember one of the mums at the school gate on getting the head lice letter getting into her car with the kids and driving like mad to get loads of lotions etc putting everyone at risk when horrid as they are no one actually dies of head lice.

Which is exactly what the op did. Planned her trip in a way that minimised risk to a tiny level.

Aww wee love. I hope she enjoyed it in the end and she is fully recovered soon from her chicken spots 💜

I took mine in the car to play on a remote beach.
We met no one. And would have stayed away if we did.
Never take them close to other people.

No.

In her op she talks about a walk along the river. Perching somewhere outside. Following Covid rules. What part of this suggests that she’s being inconsiderate?

What others have suggested is neither here nor there, we are talking about the op. I agree it’s not ideal to take an infectious child on the school run but some people have nobody to look after them. Should they keep their other dc off?

Honestly this is a very common illness and the hysteria here is ridiculous. I think when dealing with very everyday things such as this it’s always important to consider others and take reasonable precautions but the MN martyrdom is just off the scale.

Op take your dd out! Just keep away from people and it will be fine.

Amusing how "anti-hysteria" suggestions ignore the opening post

" Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors. "

Maybe grab a quick take away coffee and cake and perch somewhere outdoors.

Yes, she’s clarified that coffee and cake planned was from an outdoor kiosk. Agree to go indoors would elevate risk and not be ok.

I would, staying home is unhealthy; i would have gone out for a walk every day. It won’t affect anyone if you just walk around

I mean it could be an outdoor vendor? The daughter could wait outside while mum quickly pops in? There are a number of possibilities that make this harmless, but please don’t let logic get in the way your outrage narrative.

The op said herself she’d follow Covid rules so I doubt she’d deem it appropriate to drag her daughter into a busy indoor cafe.

Taking her out but isolated from everyone else is fine. So walks in countryside or maybe a drive-thru for food / treats would give her what she needs whilst keeping everyone safe.

I do understand. All my children have had chicken pox (DD1 twice) and it's difficult when they're not ill but still infectious.
However how will you know the place you go to will be empty? You can't guarantee it and could make someone really ill. Certainly don't go in to a café to get a takeaway coffee, you must know that's risky and a bit selfish.

Who did she catch chicken pox from? If she absolutely had to go out then playing with a child who has or has just had chicken pox (assuming no siblings / siblings also already had it) but only if it’s possible to go door to door with no contact with other people.

The OP has said upthread along the lines that she doubts Boomers at Waitrose care this much so why should she and then "I'm going to go out and get coffee now!"
So either bored and on the wind up (wind em up and watch em go) or was going to do what she wanted anyway so pointless thread.
AIBU
Yes
Op - "but, but, but...."
🙄

Yes she’s obviously got issues and seems very resentful with that boring stereotype nonsense

Correct, so going out to the park, away from anyone, not going in shops, going for a walk, minimises the risk. Exactly what she set out. Not rocket science.

What of it?

This is very true. I accidentally took dd to my antenatal appt when she had chickenpox. I’d got there at 11 for an 1120 appt. I wasn’t seen till 1245 as they were busy. She was grumpy and whinging in the buggy then had a nap. I had to wait for bloods then a scan then back to the doctor . As I was leaving at 230 a midwife said ‘ why did you bring her here like that ???!!’ I looked at dd in the buggy and she had 3 spots on her face which must have literally come out while she was napping. The midwife was furious with me but I hadn’t done it knowingly she told me it was extremely dangerous for pregnant women

I took my poxy child out on a walk on my own land (rural) ran into a neighbour with a dog and called out to let her know. She said it would actually be quite a good time to get chicken pox out the way and offered to bring her dc over for a play. 🤦‍♀️

Well I’d say opinions are fairly mixed so it’s not like she’s been unilaterally told that she’s BU. Don’t think it’s a wind up either, it’s a very common childhood illness that we’ve all probably dealt with at one time or another.

Still nobody has been able to specify the risk of the child being outdoors far away from other people.

And the biscuit emoji is very old and patronising now.

Take coffee and snacks with you or use a drive thru on your way.

Pick a remote area/less likely to see people.

I absolutely did this when my DD has chicken pox. It helped us both massively.

I chose an area that I knew to be quiet at the time of day I went. We saw noone. We both got fresh air and DD got a scooter ride and felt happy.

Stay away from the coffee shop or crowded areas/play parks as others say.